New neighbours (of no specified age) complaining before we've even unpacked!

[Elfblossom]

Revised ...

Moved into our new home yesterday and the new neighbours on one side have already complained - twice, to me yesterday as the removal people were unloading the van and today to the builders working on my patio - about the hedge needing a trim!

Thank you to all the people who wished us well in our new home on my previous post. Sadly it was reported and deleted before I could even read half the 95 comments.

I think it's fairly ironic that it was deleted purely because I specified the age group of the complainers - and I only did that because I felt it was relevant.

For the record, I have some wonderful ex neighbours and friends of a similar age to my new neighbours, who are kind, friendly, welcoming to all and good humoured.

[Elfblossom]

@CactusBlossom

Well if the hedge is next to their property and is about 10 feet tall, I could understand them asking for a trim if it is blocking the light (statutory maximum is 2 metres or 6' 6"). They are allowed to trim their side if it overhangs, but should offer the cuttings to you (as if you'd want them!) or can dispose of them themselves.

If the hedge is not of an excessive height, then it's their hard luck.

Otherwise - enjoy your new home!

The hedge was around 5 to 6ft tall but she was complaining that it had 'carrot top' new growth ... it's at the side of the house - no windows on the side at all so not blocking light or access issue.

I noticed today that they have 4 hedge/Bush things in their front garden that are cropped into precise cube shapes so I imagine they're outraged at any natural looking greenery.

[WhenDovesFly]

Found the perfect hedge design for you OP....

[LikeTearsInRain]

Lots of threads on here about people of ‘an unspecified age’ being overly nosy, controlling and complaining as neighbours.

There are studies that suggest exposure to lead over time makes people of ‘an unspecified age’ more prone to aggression and cognitive decline. That may be a factor.

[Elfblossom]

I don't think I'm being clever, I think I'm trying to appease the delicate souls who think that 'the word I'm not allowed to say' is an insult when it's not, it's simply a descriptor.

You think I'm anti 'people of a certain age'? I'm not, I'm anti CF-ers and this one happens to be 20+ years more advanced than me.

[entropynow]

You "thought their age was relevant" and whined about being deleted due to it.
You're not trying to appease anyone, it's all nudge nudge wink wink we all know what I mean, geddit, old people. Frankly pathetic as are all the grinning, winking replies.
And yes, you're ageist, AND dishonest about it.

[SenecaFallsRedux]

@Elfblossom

I don't think I'm being clever, I think I'm trying to appease the delicate souls who think that 'the word I'm not allowed to say' is an insult when it's not, it's simply a descriptor.

You think I'm anti 'people of a certain age'? I'm not, I'm anti CF-ers and this one happens to be 20+ years more advanced than me.

Sorry OP. If you really wanted to avoid ageism, you would have just reposted without the "no specified age" descriptor.

[Elfblossom]

@entropynow

You "thought their age was relevant" and whined about being deleted due to it.
You're not trying to appease anyone, it's all nudge nudge wink wink we all know what I mean, geddit, old people. Frankly pathetic as are all the grinning, winking replies.
And yes, you're ageist, AND dishonest about it.

So ... you see a post from someone, saying that during one of life's most stressful events, they were greeted by new neighbours complaing to them as they're unloadingvtgeor belongings and you are only miffed that they're referred to as elderly... not bothered by them complaining about 'foreigners' or 'funny sorts' I'm assuming gay people by the hand gesture' ..

I thought them being elderly was relevant because If they were younger, I wouldn't feel concerned that they'd 'have a turn' if I told them I was a gay foreigner who smokes pot and enjoys naked jacuzzi on the back lawn with my cats and a donkey.

Make your own post complaining about people complaining about old people if you like ...

[EfficientDynamics]

My neighbour leans over my wall and cuts my hedge, just the bit she can reach

We no longer cut any of the hedge and haven't done for a few years just to annoy her

If my hedge was over her wall then fine but it's not, no idea why she thinks it's okay to lean over

I'm thinking of not mowing the lawn in the hope she'll come round and cut it too

Your new neighbour's sound like a PITA. I'd put them in their place straightaway. They obviously don't care less about how they come across. Retired no doubt, nothing better to do than moan

[MrAgonyAunt]

@SenecaFallsRedux

Sorry OP. If you really wanted to avoid ageism, you would have just reposted without the "no specified age" descriptor.

I totally agree with you @SenecaFallsRedux

OP, have you ever looked in the mirror? The reason I am saying this is becuse if I moved and neighbours said that to me and I felt I needed to post here - age would have never come into it.

I hope it works out for you and them as it is never nice buying a property and and or someone buying next to you and not getting on

Tell them you will put it on the list of your ' to do taks'

good luck in your new home

[MrAgonyAunt]

@entropynow

You "thought their age was relevant" and whined about being deleted due to it.
You're not trying to appease anyone, it's all nudge nudge wink wink we all know what I mean, geddit, old people. Frankly pathetic as are all the grinning, winking replies.
And yes, you're ageist, AND dishonest about it.

Just read your post before postsing as above @entropynow

I have reported the OP as there was no need for the comments

[Elfblossom]

@EfficientDynamics

My neighbour leans over my wall and cuts my hedge, just the bit she can reach

We no longer cut any of the hedge and haven't done for a few years just to annoy her

If my hedge was over her wall then fine but it's not, no idea why she thinks it's okay to lean over

I'm thinking of not mowing the lawn in the hope she'll come round and cut it too

Your new neighbour's sound like a PITA. I'd put them in their place straightaway. They obviously don't care less about how they come across. Retired no doubt, nothing better to do than moan

I said 'hello, I'm your new neighbour' and she said 'you're not are you!? There was a blonde women convinced she was moving in'. I said 'oh, well I'm not sure about her but, I'm definitely here and have keys so, perhaps she changed her mind or couldn't afford it' ... 'I don't think so' she says then proceeds to tell me who owns, who rents, who inherited, who smokes, who's a foreigner and who's a 'funny sort' ... him next door is very hard working, their the other side daughter smokes out of her window.

I said 'oh I just bake a lot, do you like cake?' No I can't stand it. That's when I knew ... ;)

[Elfblossom]

@MrAgonyAunt

I totally agree with you @SenecaFallsRedux

OP, have you ever looked in the mirror? The reason I am saying this is becuse if I moved and neighbours said that to me and I felt I needed to post here - age would have never come into it.

I hope it works out for you and them as it is never nice buying a property and and or someone buying next to you and not getting on

Tell them you will put it on the list of your ' to do taks'

good luck in your new home

No, I haven't even had chance to unpack the mirror! Too busy trimming the bloody hedge and filling the green wheelie bins!

[Vergingontheridiculous]

Our neighbour allowed her dog to wander through our house (all the doors and windows were open to air it as much as possible) while she told us how awful the previous owners were, and how we needed to mow the grass verge on the outside of our fence (it doesn't belong to us). Now she just mostly makes contact to tell us off about the verge 🙄

[MinnyMous]

When I was about to move into my current place and had a builder round to discuss some changes I suddenly realised there was a woman inside with us. Turned out it was my new neighbour who ‘always wanted to see what it was like in here.’ We never did get on and she used to go on about my hedge on my side that she wanted me to chop down. She eventually moved out and the hedge is still there.

[PixieLaLa]

Tell them that of course you will be doing it but only when it’s a full moon and falls on a Sunday. Leave them a gift basket of sage on their doorstep with a “welcome to the new neighbourhood” card. Out crazy them 😂

[Elfblossom]

@WhenDovesFly

Found the perfect hedge design for you OP....

Thank you for this ... I'm grabbing my pruning sheers as I type 😉

[Elfblossom]

@MinnyMous

When I was about to move into my current place and had a builder round to discuss some changes I suddenly realised there was a woman inside with us. Turned out it was my new neighbour who ‘always wanted to see what it was like in here.’ We never did get on and she used to go on about my hedge on my side that she wanted me to chop down. She eventually moved out and the hedge is still there.

Some people have no personal boundaries and clearly no respect for land boundaries either!

Long live the hedges!