Miss, Mrs, Ms or Mx?

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Which are you? I’m a Ms, and have been since I was about 8 years old. I didn’t change my title (or my name) when I got married and this caused some consternation amongst some of the older members of my family.

This made me realise that most women I know (married or unmarried) use Ms. I don’t think I’ve come across anyone under the age of about 50 who uses ‘Miss’ or ‘Mrs’. And I’ve never encountered a ‘Mx’. I do have a fairly specific demographic bubble, though.

So, I’m curious, which are you/do you use?

Ms doesn’t mean your obscuring a thing.

It just means it not important than anybody else knows.

I use Ms and I’m married, because me being married is neither here nor there.

*You’re

I find it fascinating reading this thread how on the one hand there are many who say they have never met anyone who used Ms (or at most, only divorced women) and the other hand, there are many (from all over the UK ) who say they've been using it for many, many years, both single and married, as have friends and colleagues.

And never the twain shall meet

I kinda agree with you.

We have a choice of at least 2 titles if not more depending on profession.

My choice to use Mrs is just as valid as anyone else's to use Ms or Miss.

Wow, social engineering indeed.

BTW I love your name, it describes my brain perfectly

I'm in my 50s and have always used Ms because it seemed sexist that the man's title Mr doesn't specify whether he's married, whereas the corresponding women's titles Miss/Mrs do. I don't think it's anyone's business whether I'm married, especially not strangers.

In the last few years I have started using Mx when possible because I also don't think my gender should be relevant to strangers who are writing to me. I don't know how to pronounce it, however, and never use it in person! In person I invite everyone to call me by my first name, so for me titles are only relevant when someone is writing me a formal letter.

Before I became Dr I used Ms and have done so since I was about 12. Never been married. No way would I be 'Mrs' or take a man's name.

When married I was a Mrs., when divorced I became Ms. now I realise I was born in the wrong body I go by Mx

I used Miss until I was 16, then switched to Ms. Had a bit of pushback from traditionalist relatives who said it was only for divorced women (the sort of people who would also address a married woman as Mrs John Smith) but nobody in my professional life has cared or found it unusual.

I’m late 30s, married, didn’t change my surname and go by Miss 🤷🏻‍♀️

I’m married and use Ms, which I used prior to my marriage also. I use it because if men don’t have to announce their marital status then I don’t either.

Pathetic

Really? Have ya reeeally "dipped in and out of professional circles" but would laugh behind someone's back for hearing them refer to themselves as Ms? You're ever so try hard aren't you.

I'm a Mrs everyone I know is either a Miss or Mrs. Don't know anyone who uses Ms.

That's probably because those strict Miss/Mrs people (Auntie Ann, I'm thinking of you) never listen if you say you have another title. They are merrily addressing Christmas cards to 'Mr & Mrs John Smith' when the woman has always called herself 'Ms Jane Jones' as long as they have known her.

I used Mrs when married, went back to Miss when I divorced. Wouldn’t mind is someone used Ms for me seems pretty interchangeable with Miss.

Only seen Mx on Twitter, they usually have blue hair.

Technically I’m a Mrs (maried DH 3 years ago) but I’m a teacher and have always gone by Miss at school. To try and keep some distance between “me” and “teacher me”, I kept Miss in school but outside I’m Mrs.

Ms.

I’m married, in my 30s, didn’t change my surname on marriage, been Ms since my early 20s.

Cool. I’m also a care leaver too except I got a council flat back in the rough area of where I grew up in and did two council swaps till I eventually ended up back in the villages where my family are. I was in kinship care till my great gran died when I went into a group home until I reached 16 and got into a halfway house till the council could give me a flat. We’re not all the same. My priorities were getting back home to my family and having my own. That makes no bearing on the affluent people I’ve worked for or the big corporations I’ve worked for paying me unfairly. I’ve been let go because I was pregnant, I’ve been deducted wages under umbrella agency pay unfairly I’ve had my wages quartered for being a minute late. The affluent keep us in poverty not men vs women. I know plenty men in zero hours contracts a hell of a worse off than we are now

Probably in Glasgow or Edinburgh or Dundee. Not in the arse end of nowhere on the north east. We have two families in our villages who are non white. They’re Hindu run four out of the seven village shops and get married young. Like us. They’re pretty sound.

How do you even pronounce Mx?

I'm a Ms -and was when I was unmarried and now that I'm married. It really pisses me off when I write "Ms" down and then eg the bank send me a card with "Mrs" on it because they know I'm married. I'm not fucking Mrs! I've noticed in the US everyone is now Ms so you can guarantee the same will happen over here. Finally something positive from the US!

I’m Ms (I’m married and 50).

I’m 42 and have been Mrs since getting married. Prior to that I always went by Miss.

I absolutely loath Ms and felt really offended when I was addressed as such. My Dad would post things to me addressed as Ms despite me saying not to numerous times.

I'm in my 70's so officially I'm Mrs but some of