To feel really out of sorts and emotional over the Queen’s funeral?

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It’s becoming a bit of a cliche but I’ll say it anyway, I don’t really consider myself a royalist but the news of the Queen’s death upset me a lot.

I’ve found today thoroughly unpleasant and emotional, I can’t quite put my finger on the emotion. Lost and sad I suppose. I’m sure there’s an anthropological explanation and I know it’s brought back past griefs.

I can’t be the only one who’s spend the day on the verge of tears?

But there is no need for it all to be televised; i genuinely don't understand this. State sponsored mourning. I don't understand this myth that she provided stability either. Continuity maybe. There is a lot of terrible things going on in the world. This has been blown out of all proportion.

I've had a good cathartic cry today. I've already been to 3 funerals this year, each with their own difficulties including a blended family rift, the first loss of a peer in their early 40s and 5 weeks ago an elderly relative who like the Queen was no tragedy, but my experience of the funeral was marred by concern about my child's health and had to miss half the ceremony due to asthma attack.

Every funeral I've ever attended/ witnessed always takes me back to my first grief, a sudden, close, premature loss.

The Queen had a great life, and a good ending, able to fulfil her duties/ vows 48 hours before death and in the company of family in a loved home. It's not tragic, but it's sad, and it's sad recognising the grief of her loved ones. She's a familiar face (closest image on a banknote in my hand at this moment). Few remember life before she was Queen and fewer still before she fell into the public eye. She's a symbol of our nation and many others and she's been a point of consistency fron post-war Britain to 2022. We can feel sad about the end of an era, her familiarity, her symbolism and her role.

Grief is complex and can come out by proxy at occasions like this, and there's nothing wrong with that.

I'm optimistic about the next phase of royal life and King Charles III, but I can also feel sad in complex ways about the death of the Queen and personal losses both recent and very deep.

I think its far more about the message given to the world that what is considered desirable for the death of the queen. Throughout history these events have been our way of saying 'See how wealthy and powerful we are! Look how well trained our military is. We're still 'Great' Britain!'. There is no way they would have let this pass without a big public display.

@missushbbb

But there is no need for it all to be televised; i genuinely don't understand this. State sponsored mourning.

The Queen was Head of State for 70 years... of course there's going to be State mourning!

And as for it not being televised... wtf?!? Irrespective of whether you love or hate the monarchy, I'm flabbergasted that anyone could think that the Queen's state funeral wasn't a big enough event to be televised.

@AnotherPidgey

Same 😥.

It's a pain I will always carry with me and why I can't understand the vitriol toward Harry. .
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Oh goodness please dont be flabbergasted. Yes to the funeral being televised, what i meant was there was no need to film and photograph the family constantly for 12 days

How was she remarkable? By living a long time?

Well, also the whole thing about being closer to god than any other human on earth by accident of birth. You can think that’s ridiculous - and I do! - but let’s not pretend she didn’t have an incredible life. Most recognised face in history, apparently.

Gosh, you're very much better than me then. @ApplesinmyPocket

OP YANBU - it was a moving day for lots of reasons. Its the end of an era, one that is all most people will remember, and a moment to reflect on what has happened during her reign. Its a reminder of more personal losses for lots of people. Its another lost tie to times and people gone by. And its another change in a time of great uncertainty when the immediate future is not looking very bright. Even if you're not that in favour of the monarchy, there were lots of positive traits to the queen. Personally I do feel her passing is a loss to the country, though I know thats not going to be a unanimous view. Also someone living a full and good life doesn't mean it isn't sad when they pass on. I think there was just so much symbolism and wider meaning in what's happened, the emotion is about all of that as well as the queen herself. If some people aren't affected, great for them, each to their own- it would be boring if we all held the same views. It doesn't negate that there are plenty of perfectly valid reasons to feel emotional about today.

I quite liked the queen and although I’m not sad because she had a good life, i appreciate others are different and if grief catches you that way, it isn’t wrong.

I’m more upset about the slide into the shit that is imminent. Charles won’t do as good a job as his Mum, Truss and her cabinet will be worse than Boris and co, creepy prince Andrew has returned to public life unrepentant. The poor leadership going forward is profoundly more depressing for me.

We didn't have to worry about the nation. She was there in the background...we knew we were safe. She was our queen. Going to be a weird Christmas without her talking to us.

It's the loss of something which has been so constant which is a bit unsettling. It's really an end of an era. The whole concept of the Royal Family has changed so much since she came to the throne. When I think back to my childhood the RF were always on the TV, in the newspapers which we had in the house. My own DC know very little about the Royal Family because we don't have the news on so much or have newspapers. It feels like the Queen was the last of something and it's an odd feeling.

It's normal to feel like that OP. I do, many of us are feeling it.
Ignore the nasty comments on here. Everyone has summed it up so much better than I can at the moment but know many of us feel similar to you and you are not alone in that. X

I dont care at all about her death. A 96 year old woman who had every luxury, sat in a golden throne with a diamond encrusted crown and lived in several castles. My life is a 100 times harder than hers was. I feel sad for myself not her. Her family can wipe their tears with £50 notes and go on luxurious holidays to get over it.

A lovely old lady who dedicated her life to our country has died. Yes, it's OK to be a bit sad and tearful. It's a bit odd to wonder whether or not it's OK though.

I was also surprised how emotional I found today too OP.
It's the end of an era that made me feel sad and just the whole display.
I'm not particularly the biggest fan of the royals but yes, it was very sad.

@giveovernate I bet you're an absolute joy to know.

@heartbroken22 That.. exactly that.

I think this is a bit harsh. I get that they have lived a more privileged life and that can rankle for all sorts of reasons for many people but on a human level she was still a person and her family loved her and so recently after Prince Philip too.

To be honest I think King Charles will struggle to have the same good will, especially with his recent little outbursts, no matter the circumstances. The media will protect him as it is in their interests to keep the monarchy going if only for the newspaper sales if nothing else. Same with keeping the H+M vs W+C war going ...sells newspapers.

Also, just speaking for myself as a recent retiree I cannot begin to even contemplate still pitching up to do at least some of my job when I'm 96. I actually felt really sorry for her at one of the evening events at the jubilee , it went on until about 11 pm ..crazy at 96...especially when she was looking frailer and frailer. (My mother is 94 and I couldn't even begin to imagine wheeling her out until 11 pm for anything). I wouldn't swap QE2 's life despite the apparent luxuries for anything, having every movement forensically watched and dissected with nothing really private, all those jewels wouldn't make up for that.

You loathe some creature, have some respect for others. Although your heart is cold like ice others maybe more sensitive and more human like. Take your vile like personality elsewhere. Be gone in the name of everything holy.

Get over yourself. Nothing worse than a pity party for one.

"I dont care at all about her death. A 96 year old woman who had every luxury, sat in a golden throne with a diamond encrusted crown and lived in several castles. My life is a 100 times harder than hers was. I feel sad for myself not her. Her family can wipe their tears with £50 notes and go on luxurious holidays to get over it"

Good for you and if you really believe that crap you posted, try some critical thinking and some empathy rather than being so completely self absorbed.

I very much doubt your life is 100 times harder than hers. Less money, yes but money doesn't buy happiness

Today feels weird to me. Everything was all different and now it's supposed to just be normal again. I'm not good with change.

I heaved a huge sigh of relief today that the whole circus was over.

Back to normal has never felt so good.