To feel really out of sorts and emotional over the Queen’s funeral?

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It’s becoming a bit of a cliche but I’ll say it anyway, I don’t really consider myself a royalist but the news of the Queen’s death upset me a lot.

I’ve found today thoroughly unpleasant and emotional, I can’t quite put my finger on the emotion. Lost and sad I suppose. I’m sure there’s an anthropological explanation and I know it’s brought back past griefs.

I can’t be the only one who’s spend the day on the verge of tears?

*op

You don’t have to tell her she’s right, you also don’t have to belittle her.

I feel the same OP. Feeling terribly sad. And it's not really just about the Queen- I guess it's the loss of a constant, steadying presence in our lives which I just took for granted. Hope you're ok. And sorry for the replies that are really lacking in compassion and can't be kind to someone even when their views differ.

@Pumperthepumper she's being totally ridiculous

What do you think would make the Op "happy"?

The Queen lives for ever?

Or does she need to be an adult and deal with so who she didn't know dies at 96 and get on with it?

I am the same, although I have actually been in tears a few times. I was largely unaffected until today and my emotions have taken me by surprise.

For me it's reminded me of personal loss, and symbolises the end of an era, an end of a generation, and time gone forever.

It doesn’t matter what I think - im asking you to back off because you’re deliberately trying to upset someone who’s already upset. It’s shitty behaviour.

Perhaps you'd be better thinking about the new era and the positives?

For what's it's worth OP I feel the same, very emotional tonight and feel like I've lost someone very close. She was a truly remarkable woman.

Take no notice of the shitty replies on here 🖕

It was an amazing day. Full of ceremony, duty, love and emotion. A day to be proud of our country. A day to be part of history. I’m exhausted by the emotion too. I haven’t been crying all day and I won’t call in work tomorrow unable to go due to grief, but it was an incredibly moving day and I’m glad I was able to watch it all.

Yanbu. I'm tempted to work in the office tomorrow for company so we can chat about it.

You are certainly not alone in your feelings @User38271438373, whether or not you are a royalist.

Many are grieving the Queen because they loved her. Many are grieving because her public death and mourning reminds them of their own personal experiences of bereavement. Many are unsettled by losing someone who was so visibly constant, through the years of back-to-back unsettling change we've all experienced. Many are simply out of sorts because the ten-day period of national mourning has knocked us all out of a routine.

However you feel, it's fine to acknowledge it, acknowledge to yourself that your feelings are valid and will pass. Try to find something comforting for you, perhaps chat to friends or family, and plan to do something very routine this week.
Look at what you are focusing your time and energy on and find ways to shift it to something comforting and normal (advice that @giveovernate could also benefit from).

@Pumperthepumper can I remind you this is an open forum? You post on here and accept others opinions?

Just in case you aren't aware how it works?

OP had also posted on AIBU, she invited opinions?

Do you understand that?

Yes I think k she's being absolutely and totally UR.

Perhaps you'd be better fucking off and posting on one of your other inane threads instead of derailing this one with your vicious bullying.

But you’re deliberately trying to make her feel shit. Why?

Don't be coming down bro an old truce and spending the day chatting about it, you e already had a day off for that.

Imagine how the rf feel. 11 intense days of mourning, stiff upper lip, meeting and greeting and all on the tail of a sudden death. Go out for a walk, listen to some uplifting music, it has been wall to wall mourning which would depress anyone. I'm no royalist but I feel depressed after watching chunks of this today. Getting back to your normal routine tomorrow will help. It is a sad situation no doubt, but depending on your beliefs, she is back in the fold of her family and husband which is where she would like to be.

Are you drunk?

@Pumperthepumper because she's being ridiculous.

I thought I made this clear before?

It is not because a 96 year old died. It is because it reminded many of us of our own losses and also because at a time of great uncertainty a constant presence has gone. I don’t feel grief stricken but I do feel out of sorts and down.

@giveovernate of course, but we never get over those we have loved and lost. I think the Queen's death has reminded many people of their own parents' or grandparents' deaths (from the queen's generation). These people are not mourning the queen per se, but remembering their own personal loss all over again.

No @PAFMO for lots of employers lots of money has been lost by the bank holiday today, to have the workforce chatting about it all day tomorrow won't help productivity.

give I don't have anyone to talk to. We all chat in the office. We can work and talk funnily enough.

But you don’t have to make her feel shit. You can walk away. You’re choosing to be here to have a go, it’s unnecessary. And it’s making you look ridiculous.

OP, my dd and I were transfixed here, cried at various points throughout the day, were moved by the sheer spectacle and by the church services. The final piper in St George's made me fully sob (I'm Scottish). Neither of us expected to feel so personally moved; I'm surprised that I'm glad we were able to watch the whole day.

Like you, I'm on the fence about Royal Family/republican debate though the power of today's historic rituals has increased my sense of the value in some aspects of the RF institution.

Hope you have a relaxing evening.

Imagine how the rf feel. 11 intense days of mourning, stiff upper lip, meeting and greeting and all on the tail of a sudden death

I said this to DH. Charles looked knackered, big bags under his eyes, tired, drawn, crumpled face. The world's attention on them, looking for a tear, the twitch of a mouth, anything that betrays how they truly feel. It can't be healthy for them, keeping their emotion totally inside. If that's privilege, I'm so pleased I have my very ordinary life, which I can live as I please.