To feel really out of sorts and emotional over the Queen’s funeral?

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It’s becoming a bit of a cliche but I’ll say it anyway, I don’t really consider myself a royalist but the news of the Queen’s death upset me a lot.

I’ve found today thoroughly unpleasant and emotional, I can’t quite put my finger on the emotion. Lost and sad I suppose. I’m sure there’s an anthropological explanation and I know it’s brought back past griefs.

I can’t be the only one who’s spend the day on the verge of tears?

I lost my mum when she was 88, it's not in anyway reminded me of that. But my mum lived a great life, went into hospital and died within 3 days. Similar to the Queen, I smile at my mums passing.l, she was older, didn't suffer and until she was admitted had the life she wanted.

I lost my dad to a heart attack when he was 59

I lost my brother to an aneurysm when he wax 52

I lost another brother to failure when he was 58

I'm losing a sister to cancer and she's 62

So no, the loss of a 86 year old is not tragic, it's the circle of life and we should be celebrating her long and healthy life.

I do not understand people one that want someone to keep living because then they won't be sad, you want people to that exist and not live.

It's so selfish.

Right here, right now, it’s you that’s being selfish.

@PinkSnowAndStars why?

Where was that ever implied?

It's a state funeral, people are going to feel sad. It's not like someone's nan 300 miles away I've never heard of has died. This is the name and face on my passport, my money, stamps, a lot of food, her Christmas speeches, some will have met her in person. Yes, she lived a good and long life, but that doesn't mean it's not sad.

On top of that, society has seen a massive change over the past couple of years with Brexit, covid, the constant changes in Tory leaders, now with the cost of living. It's normal for people to dislike change. Then the fact that the queen was quickly replaced. Everyone knows they are replaceable but I think this has really hit home to some people that they will die, their place in life will be in a history book probably learnt alongside learning about our Elizabethan era.

Not one person on this thread has said anything about wanting the Queen to have carried on living whilst suffering.

Suggest everyone stops feeding the troll on this thread who is clearly fishing for attention, and instead concentrates on responding to the original post.

I think for many it's nothing to do with her age and that she had lived a great life blah blah blah, it's more the stability she quite obviously provided without any of us realising until she was gone. We've been through a lot in the last few years. We aren't as resilient as we think and this was the icing on the cake.

Yep crack on....

But maybe OP shouldn't post on AIBU?

If you are going to kick people who are upset you should get someone to proof-read your posts first. Unpleasant and uneducated is not a great combination.

I think it's normal to feel emotional when you are watching an event of historical significance unfold before your eyes. The scale of it all is a bit overwhelming.

It's unsettled me, I've been emotional today.

@appleyoudontevenknow she didn't just bring stability, she was flawed, she protected her sexually deviant son, she protected her adulterer son.

Really she was no better than any of us...

Yeah she was flawed. As all humans are.

@appleyoudontevenknow as I acknowledged

It feels a bit like the end of an era to me. And I think change and endings are always bittersweet.

Exactly. I have lost a couple of her generation of relatives recently. It increasingly feels that the bedrock of my life has been eroded without my noticing.

Yes. I feel this too. As the older generation day, it feels like those stable 'rocks' have fallen away.

The Queen was a strong and stoic woman who had remarkable grit and stamina.

"Unpleasant and uneducated is not a great combination"

Or pissed maybe 🍷

You might want to check your own before finding fault in others.

And you need to understand that grief is a natural human emotion irrespective of whether the person who died led a long or fulfilled life, and that just because you don't feel something, doesn't meant others don't, still less that you should ridicule them for doing so.

I'm not emotional about it however its struck me that this is probably the last time in a very very long time there will ever be a queen and a queen that has reigned as long as she has. So for me its more and end of an era, one that won't be seen again really

I'm a republican, had no emotional response to the death of HMQ, not even sad, given her age.
I watched the funeral only out of curiosity/boredom, yet have also spent the day on the verge of tears.
We've been given a spectacle designed to provoke strong emotions. From the faces of the earnest young coffin bearers, to the decorated heroes. The stoic bereaved family, the music that raises the hairs on the back of your neck. And if that's not enough, the lone pony at Windsor and the two sad looking corgis. It's been the emotional equivalent of back to back tear jerker movies all day long.
Its not that weird to feel depressed. It's also unlikely to be grief. It's sentimentality.

I watched the whole thing, never watched a royal wedding or royal occasion in my life. I watched as I knew it would be amazing (not sure what word to use)
But it never upset me at all, I don't know the woman, I feel for her family, as I would anyone else.
They were very fortunate to have their mother for so long, in sound mind. I don't understand people weeping and wailing, harsh though it may seem.

I can’t respond to the Queen’s death on any kind of personal level. I can appreciate the loss to her family, and I can appreciate the loss of an icon, but I couldn’t say I’m upset about her death.

But I’ve spent a lot of time today thinking about my own recently-deceased elderly relative, who would have fucking loved the pomp of the whole thing. Agree with the PP who said it’s like your foundations are crumbling, I’ve very few left of that generation.