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To have been crying all day?

95 replies

TinaTeaspoons · 19/09/2022 14:02

It's so ridiculous. Felt awful when I woke up, cried all the way through the funeral and been feeling very reflective thinking on past funerals I have attended and thinking about those who are still alive but who I am on bad terms with.
Thinking that things will never be the same again in this country too.
Just me?

OP posts:
Neverplayleapfrogwithaunicorn · 19/09/2022 14:05

I have been emotional all day. It's been the little things that set me off.
Its understandable.

TheWhalrus · 19/09/2022 14:05

Nope. I respect that someone's just died and I hope that the media will give the Queen's family the time and space for mourning.

Otherwise I didn't know the Queen personally and its business as usual as far as i'm concerned.

properdoughnut · 19/09/2022 14:06

Ah it is a bit sad isn't it. Make yourself a cup of tea with sugar and take care.

notanothertakeaway · 19/09/2022 14:06

I've watched the funeral, and do think it's a historic occasion, but your reaction seems quite strong

luxxlisbon · 19/09/2022 14:06

Thinking that things will never be the same again in this country too.

Just you. My life is no different to how it was 2 weeks ago, except for less choice with tv.

YourLipsMyLipsApocalypse · 19/09/2022 14:07

Of course things will be the same - the Queen was literally replaced by her son the day/day after she died. That's the point of a constitutional monarchy.

Nameless3 · 19/09/2022 14:07

Life will go on the same as before.

XmasElf10 · 19/09/2022 14:09

Go out for a walk… life is just the same! You are being a bit ridiculous but the ongoing blurb on TV isn’t helping!!

Hearthnhome · 19/09/2022 14:09

I think it may seem over the top, but I have found this has brought my mums recent death and funeral to the surface. so yes, some moments have made my eyes fill up. But it’s not because seeing Charles hold back tears is bothering mens it’s because it’s bringing up how I felt at my own mums funeral.

i think my 18 year old knew that and she has kept my spirits high though.

This is why people should have more compassion for people who are very upset because sometimes it’s an accumulation of things. Not just sadness at the death of an elderly lady, as some like state it as to try and belittle anyone who is upset.

I hope you feel better soon

CatchYouOnTheFlippetyFlop · 19/09/2022 14:12

You do you. Personally I couldn't give a shiny shite.

It has not impacted my life whatsoever, apart from realising how many crackers people live in England.

Hugasauras · 19/09/2022 14:12

I don't feel emotionally affected by it at all but I've dipped in and out of the coverage and I find it interesting from a piece of history perspective. But I can't relate to crying over it, sorry! I didn't know her, nor she me, and her funeral is so very far removed from any I've been to that it doesn't really make me think of those either!

MumCanIDoThat · 19/09/2022 14:22

We had it on in the background but I honestly can't say it affected me in any way. I wouldn't feel more today than if it was any other random stranger, because that's what it is to most of us. Also the entire hype over this week, has just been overbearing.

mamabear715 · 19/09/2022 14:28

@TinaTeaspoons
No, me too.. headache from silent tears after suppressing sobs.
The end of an era. Am not ashamed, I loved the Queen. :-(

Ilovelurchers · 19/09/2022 14:30

Not personally bothered about the queen any more than I would be if I heard anyone had died, but....

What stands out to me in your post is the mention of others who are still alive but you are on bad terms with. Maybe you need to listen to your feelings about this. It's funny what can trigger our feelings about other things sometimes - a book, a movie, whatever..... Maybe there is something you would like to try and do about these situations you mention, that would make you feel better?

Just a thought. I might he totally off beam here.....

user29 · 19/09/2022 14:32

Absolutely unfathomable all this carry on for a 96 yr old you have probably never met, or at most exchanged a few words of small talk.
Talk about 'group think' and 'mass hysteria'

dottiedodah · 19/09/2022 14:32

I feel sad the Queen has passed yes.However I hate Funerals to the point of feeling sick ,so bypassed this one and went for a walk with Doggy instead! Not many people about just a few .Really nice ,Read that the Queen didnt like long abd boring funerals apparently . She was a good example of the Monarchy at its best Hopefully King Charles will be as good

YourLipsMyLipsApocalypse · 19/09/2022 14:34

Agree. You could literally starve to death in this country (and people do, and have, in recent years) and the RF demonstrably don't give a fuck or put their hands in their pockets to help in any way.

And people are prostrating themselves with grief? Come on.

LikeTearsInRain · 19/09/2022 14:35

I would find something nice to do this evening with your loved ones OP. Cheer up :)

imtoooldforthiscrap · 19/09/2022 14:40

Felt a bit upset to see the footage of London in the sunshine and realising how much I miss it.

Not upset about the Queen though!

CapMarvel · 19/09/2022 14:41

You get to be sad, of course you do. You do realise that "Thinking that things will never be the same again in this country too." is just nonsense though.

The royals, in the grand scheme of things, do nothing of any note for the people in the UK. Absolutely nothing is going to change with Charles.

simbobs · 19/09/2022 14:42

I find the level of hysteria, whipped up by the media, quite unfathomable. If she had died in a tragic accident I would have understood it, but the fact that she was 96 and visibly frail and ill hardly made it a surprise that she died when she did. I feel sorry for her family having to do their mourning with the eyes of the world upon them. I chose to avert mine.

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 19/09/2022 14:46

If your reaction was solely due to the death of the Queen, I would say it was completely OTT.

However, if the funeral triggered old or repressed grief for people you did know and love then I would be kind to yourself.

lollipoprainbow · 19/09/2022 14:46

I've been crying loads too, not so much sadness at the queen but it brings back all other losses. My mum is very very poorly and she would have loved to watch this with me. It brings all emotions to the surface. I just feel teary and strange.

picklemewalnuts · 19/09/2022 14:47

It's quite cathartic. If you had any left over grieving or anxiety after the pandemic, for example, then this was a great opportunity to discharge it.

I thought I was over it, but there were a few moments when the poignancy got me.

The parading services were so solemn, where they usually look stern.
Charles standing silent as everyone around him sang God save the king.
The buglers.

MatildaTheCat · 19/09/2022 14:51

I agree it’s brought out a lot of grief in people who have suffered other losses.
Many of us lost relatives in covid and were denied the funerals and usual routines in mourning. It’s an end of an extraordinary era and many of us are moved.