To have been crying all day?

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It's so ridiculous. Felt awful when I woke up, cried all the way through the funeral and been feeling very reflective thinking on past funerals I have attended and thinking about those who are still alive but who I am on bad terms with.
Thinking that things will never be the same again in this country too.
Just me?

This mass hysteria is just so weird!
A 96 year old woman who had an amazing life has died like everyone will. It wasn’t tragic, it was just expected. I can understand if it was a young person tragically taken but why do people get so obsessed over the death of strangers?!

I’ve not put the tv or radio on once as refuse to acknowledge the madness!!

I understand this. I feel better having watched the funeral.

It is over, a new era has started. The halcyon fantasy days of 1950s manners and values that the Queen represented for some will not come again. I think that’s what many are grieving. The world is a scary, unsettled place at the moment.

In reality, our day to day lives will continue as ever they did. It is a historic moment and it’s not wrong to feel affected by it.

You can’t help how you feel, but I’d be quite concerned if someone I loved felt like you do. If it was me, I’d be getting some help with my mental health as I don’t think this is the reaction of someone who is coping with life.

I think it’s a reminder of how life changes and the reality of death. I felt teary on the day the Queen’s death was announced. My reaction surprised me but it was a reminder of my youth and never getting those moments again - Christmas at my grandmother’s, travelling to see trooping the colour with my grandparents, things like that won’t be experienced by my own dc. I had my moment but am now respectfully watching the service and will walk the dog later with my family. Not feeling teary today but that doesn’t mean your feelings are wrong.

I had a tear in my eye at the national anthem but apart from that I'm largely unaffected because I've never actually met the queen.

All those people sobbing uncontrollably I'm assuming that you were quite close to the Queen/had met her on a number of occasions?

In which case I'm sorry for your loss.

@Mummydoingmybest what do you class as hysteria? People coming together to show respect and thanks is a fairly normal response to someone’s death. Can you not politely acknowledge other people may want to do that even if you don’t rather than calling it “madness”?

I personally did not want to queue to see the Queen laying in state however I know people who did and that was their choice. Nothing mad, just different to my choice.

I think life will be more or less the same
However, any funeral for me brings back precious funerals. I have never been to a funeral though where I have been the person most affected and therefore there's an element of having kept a stiff upper lip or being strong for others whereas, sitting at home by myself, I can have a good old howl whether that's for my grandparents, aunt, friends, colleagues and friends' DCs. I think it's partly an age thing too. As you get older, you naturally get more aware of the finality of death and how much it impacts on those left behind. I used to be a bit more blase when younger.

Were we living in this halcyon age of manners 2, 3 weeks ago, just prior to the Queen dying?! That's some ridiculous hyperbole.

For some of us it is the end of an era. And it’s certainly a very emotional solemn day. YANBU.

I thought we had learned our lessons as a country after the embarrassing public madness over Diana, but here we are again. People crying over the death of someone they never met is the definition of mass hysteria.

Some very hard faced nasty comments here, for me it's not necessarily about the queen drying it's bringing other losses to the surface. If it hasn't affected you emotionally maybe don't bother to comment ??

I'm slightly moved by the ceremony and the historical significance of it, but have no emotional reaction to any of the people individually. It's a natural, expected death. And the Royal Family are very distant from my own life experience.

It's about some happy memories associated with our past, I think- childhood celebrations, the queen's speech at Christmas, silver jubilee mug and street parties etc.

Also, we are naturally suspicious and uncomfortable with change. This is a quite significant change. No matter that the political structure means it's not particularly impactful, our inner survivalist conservative is very uneasy.

@lollipoprainbow , the OP invited responses on both sides - she asked what people thought about her crying all day.

Oh FFS. Get a grip. An old lady died. Yes, she’s the Queen, yes she lived a ‘good’ life but she was just a human being like the rest of us. But we are all sheep stopping our own lives and productivity, as well the education of our children so we can grieve like peasants. It’s nauseating.

I think it’s been really something to see a state funeral and all that entails, London looks spectacular

But I’m not sad, things will go on as normal, with a King there too

No I can’t.
I think the whole thing is a massive waste of money when most are worrying about eating and heating this year! I expect millions has been spent on this whole thing.
It’s sad for her family and friends yes but if you’re sitting at home crying uncontrollably I think something is wrong!

Most of us don't get much opportunity to mourn the loss of our loved ones - if we're lucky we get a couple of days' compassionate leave to sort out the admin and throw together a funeral and then we're back in work and it's BAU. I think the focus of the past few days has maybe given us reason/space to think about losses closer to home and metabolise some of our own grief.

Yes, it's strange. You can't be grieving for the queen because you didn't know her so you must be projecting grief about something else onto this.

I'm not feeling that way. I've been out doing energetic things in the fresh air since 8.30 am. Just got back and showered and will start work shortly.

By the time I get round to watching a bit on YouTube it will be history anyway.

I hope people are not feeling too sad.

No, we weren’t. That’s sort of the point of my post…

I feel depressed. Mainly that I didn’t make the effort to go somewhere that the procession passed by, and have instead watched it from home.

Somehow I also feel worse about my own life - how little I earn and other things .

@HintofVintagePink I understand, & agree.
My kids have told me of all the snarky comments about the monarchy on other social media, & there's quite a bit on here. At one time if people didn't agree they would have just not said anything. Now, everyone's adverse reactions seemingly have to be rammed down our throats.
Those of us who mourn, will mourn. Those of us who don't, won't. It's not going to change anyone's mind by being shouted down!

I don’t think you’re unreasonable to upset because you can’t control how you feel about something, but like a pp I’d be concerned if someone I loved was catastrophising over the death of an elderly stranger to the point of crying all day. Is it a one off situation where you’ve maybe had a lot of stress and this is how it’s coming out? Or are you regularly upset by things like this?

Yanbu op. You needed to expel some grief and this has helped you. I have cried on and off this week. A lot of this is my disability. I desperately wanted to go to pay my respects and wasn’t physically healthy enough, even in a wheelchair.