To have been crying all day?

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It's so ridiculous. Felt awful when I woke up, cried all the way through the funeral and been feeling very reflective thinking on past funerals I have attended and thinking about those who are still alive but who I am on bad terms with.
Thinking that things will never be the same again in this country too.
Just me?

@Kanaloa I think maybe those of us who are a bit older & been to more funerals of loved ones are a bit guilty of this! I think you can't help the memories flooding back. My mum only died at the end of June & she loved the Royal family.

what do you class as hysteria? People coming together to show respect and thanks is a fairly normal response to someone’s death

It is a fairly normal response to the death of somebody you know. Crying all day and feeling like things will never be the same isn’t a fairly normal response to the death of a public figurehead who didn’t know or care about you. That’s not a ‘normal’ or healthy response, it’s indicative of somebody who is projecting something else onto this event.

@Mummyoflittledragon Ah bless you.. I would have loved to have gone, too, but arthritis said no.. :-( Hugs..

But people don’t need to dicks about it and stick the boot in.

Eapecially when op said it’s brought up that’s it made her reflective of people who she does know, who have died and current relationships in her life.

When someone is saying they are feeling down and crying. You can say you don’t feel the same or that you think it’s unreasonable without being dick. Which plenty on this thread are.

inviting opinion, doesn’t mean ‘can you be really shitty with it’

Yes, I’ve been to plenty of funerals and had a good share of trauma in my life. However, I think it’s healthier to inspect your emotions and make sure you’re aware of where they’re coming from and what they’re attached to - you can’t deal with the loss of your grandma if you’re busy crying all day over a random famous person who died. That type of projection isn’t really healthy, especially when the op is catastrophising along the lines of ‘things never being the same.’ I’d encourage her to look at that. What will change for her? How will the demise of a famous stranger change her life forevermore? It won’t. Losing somebody you love will, and moving past projection to properly deal with that is important, because it allows you to grieve not only the person you’ve lost but what that loss means specifically to you.

Me and dad were talking earlier saying how much mum would have wanted to see this. She would have done an afternoon tea and sat and watched. While telling us all to shut up so she could hear, then talking over it herself 😀. She died 8 months ago and loved the Queen. I missed her a bit more today.

I am so sorry for your loss.

Same. Just navigating my own affairs each day is a task and a half. Sad for the family but otherwise just getting through each day as per.

Reminds me a bit of Pam out of Gavin and Stacey

Op has a knowledges that it’s made her reflective of the people she has lost and current relationships.

Yea sometime you need to look at why you feel the way you do. But sometimes that comes a bit later. Things accumulate, you get over whelmed and a big dramatic. Then you start working it out and op is doing that.

This. Must be nothing else going on in the world.

No, I'm afraid I've had to use today to catch up on a lot of work, as have both my teens and DH.

This.

I mean this with kindness but I think it would help to switch the tv off and go outside. People are going about their days as normal, walking the dog, riding bikes, jogging, having drinks in pub gardens etc etc where i an the weather is beautiful and life is going on as normal. Leave the tv, go outside.

In that case I guess op doesn’t need anybody else’s input - however as she asked I presume she still wants it.

It sounds like you have unresolved grief from your own life. You might benefit from some counselling.

I didn’t say she doesn’t need input. I pointed out she is doing the things you say she needs to do. These take time to work through.

I watched the procession to Westminster In my hotel room and watched the procession up the Long Walk in a bar (I’m in Greece on holiday). The pomp and music just really gave me the feels and I shed a few tears just now. I’d have been worse at home and will watch the entire thing on a day off next week.I get you OP ❤️

I think a lot of people are anxious about the change that will occur the last two years have been a shit show to say the very least so it's to be expected

Nope I just don't get it. I watched a bit of the marching at 1030 then went out to the Moors which was beautifully silent. Just got home. I don't understand getting that emotional over a stranger even if is the Queen.

This sounds ... extreme. 😶

Some really harsh and uncaring comments on here. Is it SM or just MN that brings the worst out in people.

I am sad, not hysterical as some PP’s suggest, just respectful and have a sense of loss for a very dignified woman who served us all.
I’ve been for a walk, I’ve listened to the muted cathedral bells and joined a live streaming in the cathedral today, sharing respect and sorrow with my community.

I’ve felt great sadness today too. And cried.

i think it’s a mixture of remembering those I’ve lost and a humbling sense of pride in our armed forces and nation.

I feel that all we’ve learned about history and kings and queens in our lifetimes has been proved true today. The respect and dedication the soldiers etc show to that coffin and family was overwhelming at times.

But also, the spider on King Charles’ message on the bouquet 🤯

@BruceHellerAlmighty no, it really doesn't, your comment does though.

It doesn't affect everyone in the same way. Each to their own, no need for any unpleasant comments about it, from anyone.

It's an emotional day, I'm not a royalist but I've certainly cried today but I'm a sap. It's brought back memories of my own personal losses, my mother especially. Its certainly the end of an era!

No. I've had my losses, but the funeral did nothing for me other than make me respect the organisation of it all, and the individuals (such as the pallbearers). I couldn't relate to it in any grieving sense.

I get that it opened up difficult emotions for you OP, but still...your reaction seems to indicate that some counseling might be a good idea.

And if nothing's going to be the same in this country again, it's not going to be because the Queen is dead. There are much more worrying things going on.