To insist he either pays for damages or doesn’t come around?

[Dorkuses]

Been seeing someone for around a year. He’s ridiculously clumsy and breaks so many things it’s starting to really piss me off.
examples -
flung his jacket on in the living room and smashed my light shade
threw himself onto my sofa and broke part of the wooden frame
kicked a mug off the coffee table that smashed
broke DS’s trainset being too heavy handed
jumped on the bed and snapped a slat

whenever he breaks anything he looks all embarrassed and apologises but he never offers to replace or pay!! The light shade for example cost me £200 and his excuse was “you could get a similar one for £20 in Argos” I don’t want a £20 one from Argos!!!

his clumsiness is starting to give me the ick

Last night he broke a flower pot chucking it on the floor. I said I wanted him to replace it and he said I was being petty as it was an accident. He went home in a mood and I messaged him saying from now on, anything he breaks in this house gets replaced or paid for. AIbU?

Does he break his own things?

He sounds like a nightmare! Some respect in peoples homes surely .I am pretty heavy handed myself but that is going some! I would bin him right off ,he sounds like an Oaf to me!

Who buys a £200 lamp shade!?

He sounds awful. Get rid..

Someone who can afford it and wants it?

People who can afford and want one

He resents you having nice things. The Argos comment proves that.

He doesn’t think you’re worth more than the £20 Argos version.

Dump him. Plenty of men out there who don’t break everything they touch.

I am clumsy myself so I feel for him but this is obviously annoying you and it’s not going to get any better.

Nip it in the bud and find someone else.

Dump him. Clumsiness is once thing, but his behaviour surrounding these incidents is rude.

Does he break his own belongings?

He has no respect for your possessions and refuses to take the issue seriously. . It isn't going to improve. Either spend most time at his house or get rid of him.

Dump the twat, he’s tight and a selfish idiot.

Oh god chuck him. Chuck him so hard that maybe he breaks something so he understands how you feel.

I’m incredibly clumsy. I’ve accidentally broken a couple of glasses at my best mate’s recently. I’ve sent her a voucher, to cover some new ones. It’s basic. I also feel dreadful about it - i dropped one whilst washing up, for example.

This
add up what he has broken and say you want to replace them and need the amount from him asap

bet he doesn’t break his own stuff

Dump him. He's not clumsy; he simply has no respect for you and, by entension, anything you may value.

Could he be dyspraxic although this doesn't excuse him not replacing any of the items he breaks.

What happens if you break something of his? A normal person would instantly offer to replace or pay towards broken objects. There seems to be a serious lack of respect here.

Sounds like a complete oaf. I think totting up the cost of what he's broken so far and showing it to him would be the start of an interesting conversation. Perhaps he is dyspraxic but that doesn't excuse bad manners.

All this 'clumsiness' seems a bit PA to me. He either doesn't respect you or is jealous of your furnishings.

I'm not a graceful ballerina, but I manage NOT to be a bull cow in a china shop, especially in other people's homes.

I vote to bin him right next to all the things he's broken.

Does he break his mates stuff too?

He’s ridiculously clumsy and breaks so many things it’s starting to really piss me off.

Oh @Dorkuses - he’s not clumsy, he’s careless to the point of being unkind. I am very clumsy. Like, really clumsy, people stop and stare, strangers comment. I haven’t broken that many things in my own home in the last year, let alone in someone else’s.

That’s excessively clumsy.. how does he break so many things?! Is he huge?!

Go round to his, break some of his shit and dump him.

Dump him. He is treating you and your home with a total lack of respect and gaslighting you about it. Smashing DC’s train set would have finished it for me.