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Original poster

To want to watch the queen's funeral in my own home ?

56 replies

Scatmanfarm · 19/09/2022 09:56

A friend has asked me to go watch it at her with her and her DC.
My sister has asked me to go to hers to watch it
My parents are surprised I'm not going to theirs to watch it
FFS. I've got my own family at home who I will be watching it with.

AIBU? why do people not think I want to be at my own home with my own family

OP posts:
ChagSameachDoreen · 19/09/2022 09:57

Just say no? I'm not sure why you'd take such offence.

JuneOsborne · 19/09/2022 09:57

They wanted to share it with you, that's all.

Skinnermarink · 19/09/2022 09:57

Blimey. They’re only asking.

MrsSkylerWhite · 19/09/2022 09:58

Are you always so easily outraged?

just say no thanks.

Original poster
Scatmanfarm · 19/09/2022 10:03

I guess I'm not happy about all the asks as I am constantly pulled in many directions by these people on every occasion. Maybe I'm being rude/ungrateful. Being asked to spend momemtus occasions with each one makes me feel pressurised and stressed.
I was asked to watch the world cup - England games - individually with them all too. My little boy just wanted to watch it at home with me. Every weekend they all ask me to spend time with them. I love them all but I just cannot spread myself that thinly/accommodate all. My little boy already says I'm out too much. He doesn't like leaving the house, so wouldn't come with me. I can't have them at my house due to other reasons I can't mention on here

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RIPQueen · 19/09/2022 10:04

This thread is more batshit than the queue

giveovernate · 19/09/2022 10:05

Crikey if you treat nice requests like this how do you cope with unpleasant situations?

How bloody ungrateful.

Haus1234 · 19/09/2022 10:09

Lots of people (maybe even most people) like to watch “momentous occasions” in a group as it adds to the enjoyment for them. If you don’t, it doesn’t make them unreasonable, just say no thank you Hmm

giveovernate · 19/09/2022 10:09

So you can't have them at yours, so if you want to socialise then you have to go to them, then you're angry at being invited?

Maybe they're being kind inviting you, but really they're totally pissed off at always having to do the entertaining, it's not cheap and it's often hard work.

You sound so very ungrateful.

I was always the one doing the entertaining, I've stopped and I'm now taking a huge step back, letting others take the cost and work. As you can imagine we don't meet much now and they're the ones moaning about it!

Keroppi · 19/09/2022 10:10

Why can't they come over? It's no wonder they are constantly asking you out if you are unable to host. As long as they aren't guilt tripping you lots etc then just graciously say no.

Original poster
Scatmanfarm · 19/09/2022 10:12

@Haus1234 I get that. But why do they all think I want to leave my family at home and watch things without my own family ? They know my little boy and partner won't come with me and I'll be coming alone.

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giveovernate · 19/09/2022 10:13

Scatmanfarm · 19/09/2022 10:12

@Haus1234 I get that. But why do they all think I want to leave my family at home and watch things without my own family ? They know my little boy and partner won't come with me and I'll be coming alone.

Because they're being nice? Christ you sound like hard work, do you never go out as a family to other family members homes?

DysmalRadius · 19/09/2022 10:14

I can't have them at my house due to other reasons I can't mention on here

Are these reasons potentially why your friends and family think you might like to get out of your house? And does your son really not enjoy going anywhere? Is that related to the reasons you can't have people over? It sounds like quite an unusual set up, perhaps your friends and family don't fully understand it either.

Original poster
Scatmanfarm · 19/09/2022 10:14

They can't come to me due to things I can't mention on here. However, when I go to theirs I always take more than what's expected of food/drink or I will pay for a takeaway and I help tidy up too.

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Womencanlift · 19/09/2022 10:14

Bloody hell you sound hard work and ungrateful.

”No thanks we are all settled here, will catch up with you later” is all that needs to be said

Soon enough they won’t invite you to anything and then you will have something else to moan about

Porcupineintherough · 19/09/2022 10:15

Good God, tell them not to bother you then. And then bitch and moan about being left out

They invited you to join them! How very dare they.

qpmz · 19/09/2022 10:18

Why can't your little one leave the house? Does he not want to go to the park or something? You could go just the three of you.

catandcoffee · 19/09/2022 10:18

Maybe they think it'll give you a break .. from whatever is happening at home ?

Sometimeswinning · 19/09/2022 10:19

Does your son have any type of challenging behaviour? Does he find a busy household difficult?

Keeva2017 · 19/09/2022 10:19

I get it op. I hate it when people involve me in things and are generous and considerate to me too.

averageavocado · 19/09/2022 10:20

So they are inviting you because they want to spend time with you... and They can't come to me due to things I can't mention on here.

MrsWhites · 19/09/2022 10:21

Goodness me, there are so many people in this country suffering with loneliness who would love just one invitation and you are complaining about having too many.

Its not that they ‘expect’ you to leave your family, they are surely just giving you the option to if you wanted to. Perhaps they notice that your son doesn’t like to leave home and worry that it leaves you isolated, maybe they are just trying to be kind!!!

Hearthnhome · 19/09/2022 10:25

So they can’t come to yours for an unknown reason.

But still thought you might want to spend it with them, so invited you.

You declined but are pissed off?

So for example, they can’t go to yours because your husband is a cunt. Since your husband is a cunt they may have thought you would like to get out and watch with them? Is it something like that? They are thinking it may give you a break?

Tell them all to stop inviting you to anything, because it could at any given time upset you and then don’t complain when you aren’t invited to anything

Original poster
Scatmanfarm · 19/09/2022 10:28

Err my partner is certainly not a cunt

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Redlocks28 · 19/09/2022 10:29

Blimey-you sound like hard work! What horrible friends and family inviting you
to theirs-his very dare they!

Your ever so secret reason for not wanting people round yours is probably salient here…

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