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AIBU?

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To want to watch the queen's funeral in my own home ?

56 replies

Scatmanfarm · 19/09/2022 09:56

A friend has asked me to go watch it at her with her and her DC.
My sister has asked me to go to hers to watch it
My parents are surprised I'm not going to theirs to watch it
FFS. I've got my own family at home who I will be watching it with.

AIBU? why do people not think I want to be at my own home with my own family

OP posts:
MrsSkylerWhite · 19/09/2022 10:30

Why won’t your partner and son go with you?

FredaFox · 19/09/2022 10:31

RIPQueen · 19/09/2022 10:04

This thread is more batshit than the queue

😂 what happened to just saying no thanks, I've got my own plans

averageavocado · 19/09/2022 10:31

Scatmanfarm · 19/09/2022 10:28

Err my partner is certainly not a cunt

When you say cryptic things like you have, people will try and put 'normal' reasons to try and explain

They can't come to me due to things I can't mention on here.

So, it's possible your partner is a cunt
Or you have medical equipment that is difficult to manoeuvre around or toxic, or you have the crown jewels or your partner is an international spy or your house has mould, or you have no furniture, or so many other scenarios I can't think of

Keep it cryptic if you wish, but don't get arsey with people trying to work it out

Hearthnhome · 19/09/2022 10:34

Scatmanfarm · 19/09/2022 10:28

Err my partner is certainly not a cunt

Didn’t say they were. I said ‘as an example’. An example That they might feel they are also doing you a favour as well as wanting to include you and spend time with you.

It’s the only reason I can understand why you feel so upset by people trying to include you, because you are being forced to choose between someone in your house and the z

I was meant to be alone today. Suits me. Dp was going fishing. A few people asked if I wanted to join them. I just politely declined. Didn’t feel pulled. Was looking forward to watching on my own. As it happens dp isn’t well so I am not alone.

But I don’t get people inviting you somewhere, being such an issue.

mountainsunsets · 19/09/2022 10:38

Hang on.

Your son and partner won't come anywhere with you for some strange reason.
Your family and friends can't come to you for some other weird cryptic reason you won't explain.

Yet you get offended because your family and friends still want to spend time with you and invite you places?

It's a bit rude, IMO.

LizzoBorden · 19/09/2022 10:39

I literally have no idea why anyone is inviting you, you sound like hard work.

Redlocks28 · 19/09/2022 10:40

I’m sure the more you refuse friend and family invitations, they will stop altogether in the end and then you will be able to spend every second of your time in your house with your own family. How lovely.

Brigante9 · 19/09/2022 10:42

Sounds like a bigger issue than watching the funeral. Do your family not care to see your dp/child? Are they used to you asking how high when they say jump? Stop responding to their demands, you say you’re being spread too thin, so stop leaping to their requests.

milkysmum · 19/09/2022 10:42

Gosh how awful that you have people that want to invite you round to spend time with them. Just say no if you don't want to go. They are not doing anything wrong inviting you.

Fairyliz · 19/09/2022 10:44

Blimey I wish someone would invite me somewhere, anywhere! I’m fed up with doing all of the organising.

luxxlisbon · 19/09/2022 10:45

FFS. I've got my own family at home who I will be watching it with.

Jesus, some people are never happy. They are just inviting you, not need to project and claim it means they think you don’t have your own family you like spending time with.

giveovernate · 19/09/2022 10:46

You've a very interesting posting history OP, more going on than being invited somewhere I feel!

Friday you were fed up that everyone was out and you weren't.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 19/09/2022 10:53

They are just asking so you don't feel excluded. They may be worried about you because of the reason that you can't invite people to your home like other people can, and so the only way you have the option to be sociable is if they invite you to theirs.

HintofVintagePink · 19/09/2022 11:13

I’m at home with two DC as DH is on shift again today, as he is every bank holiday. I’d have loved someone to invite me to join them to watch. Yabu and really ungrateful.

Skinnermarink · 19/09/2022 11:25

Dare say your son would benefit from being out more.

Swampmonster1988 · 19/09/2022 11:26

Your folks and your sister are your family too. They don't stop being your family just because you have a kid.

girlfriend44 · 19/09/2022 11:30

Scatmanfarm · 19/09/2022 09:56

A friend has asked me to go watch it at her with her and her DC.
My sister has asked me to go to hers to watch it
My parents are surprised I'm not going to theirs to watch it
FFS. I've got my own family at home who I will be watching it with.

AIBU? why do people not think I want to be at my own home with my own family

How lucky you are too have so many invites.

Why moan just watch where you want too

Stompythedinosaur · 19/09/2022 11:30

I have no idea why this would offend you.

Dweetfidilove · 19/09/2022 11:31

RIPQueen · 19/09/2022 10:04

This thread is more batshit than the queue

Indeed 🙄

bodie1890 · 19/09/2022 11:52

Wow. I don't think I even know that many people who care about it, let alone would invite me around 😂

Surely it's nice they want to share it with you though? Just tell them no thanks, you want to be at home?

KarmaStar · 19/09/2022 11:56

Yabvu and this will come back on you one day in afraid.
Instead of moaning and feeling hard done to be very thankful you have loving family and friends who want to be with you.and do it now because you're sending out to the universe...I want to be left alone....that's what you'll get.
So many lonely people out there today will read this with disbelief.

FarmGirl78 · 19/09/2022 12:01

Maybe they think that you should be encouraging your Son to venture out more, before whatever reason he won't go out takes a complete hold and starts to seriously affect the rest of his childhood and adult life. By inviting you (plural) they're giving you an opportunity to do something he'd do in your own home, but in a different location.

And like PPs have said, you sound like bloody hard work. Can't go out, can't have people round, can't visit. I bet you'd be perfectly happy if it wasn't for your pesky parents being all nice with their invites. Tisk. Who do these people think they are? 🙄

donttellmehesalive · 19/09/2022 12:01

It's nice to be loved and wanted, op. It's worse when your phone never rings and you're never invited anywhere.

RoomOfRequirement · 19/09/2022 12:06

I'm surprised you have that many friends and family who want to spend time with you.

And yes, we all roll our eyes at 'for reasons I simply cannot mention on here because I am oh so special and it would just be so so outing'

Satsumaonaplate · 19/09/2022 12:20

Look at it this way - you have a lovely network of people who want your company. Not everyone has that. Chill out and just say no if you prefer being at home. Sorted.