Seeing the world in HD - distressing

[Adviceplease991]

I dont know if any one feels like this / if it is maturing or its my own life expierence or what?
but at certain times in my life I feel like I see the bullshit of situations in all their accuracy and no one else does. I sometimes want to scream!! I had a childhood in trauma and poverty and I wonder if its caused some sort of change in my brain where I can predict the outcome of things without all the smoke and glitter as a trauma response?

examples from the past 7 days…

at a wedding and see a ‘happy couple’ - he is acting the doting DP and he entirely avoids me. Because he knows I know he slept with my friend ‘for a bet’ with a group of guy friends and included getting to know her daughter in that. So I know he is a pig. Everyone else including his partner appears to think he is a professional nice guy. I spend the wedding knowing what a class act he is where everyone else is taken in by his status and grin. I told one of the girls why I refused to speak to him and she gasped. I told her when I first met him at work he was an utter slimeball.

seen a friends partner on a dating app as a ‘just joined’ - I told her and she said he would never do that and he said I was ‘causing trouble’. From the second I met him I knew from his eye contact he was trouble - the hairs on my arms stood up.

had a second date this weekend where he tried to get me back to his flat afterwards; I immediately realised he was a chancer and thats all he was after from the get go and felt a bit sick as I got in my taxi as he was trying to protray the opposite. my friend said to not be dramatic and he seemed nice. As I predicted to her he did send me a wishy washy thanks but no thanks message the next day.

my friend called me yesterday to tell me her relationship of two years was ending as she found out he was married abroad already - I already suspected this could be the case when she met him when she first mentioned it to me on the phone. I thought he is married - despite it all being good things she is saying about him.

I have multiple other examples of consistently predicting the outcome of situations with very little evidence. It makes life very uncomfortable seeing through the bullshit. I am exhausted.

Is anyone else like this?
Should I give up my day job and become a professional psychic?

I know it’s an MN trope, but fucking hell you sound exhausting.

Ive known women like you who have nothing nice to say about any man involved with their friends. One time in ten they’ll be right and then as others have said it’s confirmation bias and they’ll go on about always being right about these things.
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Honestly I think you need some therapy because seeing this much negativity isn’t ok.

I dont actually believe that i have a superpower but i think i pick up on the subtleness of clues that someone or something is not quite right which renders me to make a decision on them based on pattern recognition
That would apply to every NT person on the planet though....every social species works off the information given to them through body language etc. Some people choose to ignore it, you don't but it's nothing amazing.
The men you mentioned that you dated had enough red flags to send anyone running for the hills, I don't think they were giving particularly 'hidden' signals!
Fuck knows what being a Pisces has to do with anything 🙄

What did I fall for?

The fact that you are repeating these absolutely hackneyed lines that men use on all women and citing them as proof that you are especially perceptive. It's really embarrassing.

I think men avoid you because you're a drama queen who wants to appear all-knowing while putting everyone down. It's like the MNers who declare that someone's DH must be cheating on them because they got a haircut and put the toilet seat down for the first time, and they declare it with great enthusiasm too - you're the same but you're adding that bit of 'woo' to it.
Go the whole hog, buy a crystal ball and some floaty scarves and call yourself Gypsy Lee - tell people's fortunes for them; 'your husband is cheating on you' 'I'm not married' 'your partner is cheating on you' 'I'm a single lesbian who lives alone with my gerbil' 'your gerbil is cheating on you' 'my gerbil's been dead for 3 years and I keep his little body in the freezer for comfort' 'ah but he cheated on you before he died'

www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4636461-seeing-the-world-in-hd-distressing Here’s the link to @Adviceplease991 post loving these stories so scary 😧

Wrong place 🫣

You dont need therapy for realising that arseholes are arseholes. You only need therapy if you think everyone is an arsehole, or you're basing your prediction on things like 'his eyes are too close together' or you're consistently proved wrong. If you've been sleazed all over by someone then of course you feel bad for the person he is marrying who likely hasnt seen this side of him.

Do you see the good in good people as well? Are you still willing to change your mind if your first impression has just been based on a feeling?

You only need to read mumsnet for a couple of days before you realise just how many awful awful men there are and see divorce stats before you realise how many doomed relationships there are...so the chances of your friends marrying a shit, or someone who is shit for them, are quite high.

I'd rather be friends with someone who was a realist rather than naive