Seeing the world in HD - distressing

[Adviceplease991]

I dont know if any one feels like this / if it is maturing or its my own life expierence or what?
but at certain times in my life I feel like I see the bullshit of situations in all their accuracy and no one else does. I sometimes want to scream!! I had a childhood in trauma and poverty and I wonder if its caused some sort of change in my brain where I can predict the outcome of things without all the smoke and glitter as a trauma response?

examples from the past 7 days…

at a wedding and see a ‘happy couple’ - he is acting the doting DP and he entirely avoids me. Because he knows I know he slept with my friend ‘for a bet’ with a group of guy friends and included getting to know her daughter in that. So I know he is a pig. Everyone else including his partner appears to think he is a professional nice guy. I spend the wedding knowing what a class act he is where everyone else is taken in by his status and grin. I told one of the girls why I refused to speak to him and she gasped. I told her when I first met him at work he was an utter slimeball.

seen a friends partner on a dating app as a ‘just joined’ - I told her and she said he would never do that and he said I was ‘causing trouble’. From the second I met him I knew from his eye contact he was trouble - the hairs on my arms stood up.

had a second date this weekend where he tried to get me back to his flat afterwards; I immediately realised he was a chancer and thats all he was after from the get go and felt a bit sick as I got in my taxi as he was trying to protray the opposite. my friend said to not be dramatic and he seemed nice. As I predicted to her he did send me a wishy washy thanks but no thanks message the next day.

my friend called me yesterday to tell me her relationship of two years was ending as she found out he was married abroad already - I already suspected this could be the case when she met him when she first mentioned it to me on the phone. I thought he is married - despite it all being good things she is saying about him.

I have multiple other examples of consistently predicting the outcome of situations with very little evidence. It makes life very uncomfortable seeing through the bullshit. I am exhausted.

Is anyone else like this?
Should I give up my day job and become a professional psychic?

@user1471457751

Good point.

I had a very happy and secure childhood, so nothing to do with previous trauma, but I have often been shocked at the bullshit, that my friends and colleagues accept, as truth, when it seems obvious to me that it is manipulative crap, or trying to impress. I think it is a sort of emotional intelligence, however, my own life proves it is not infallible🙄

OneTC · Today 10:57

You probably don't notice all the times you're wrong. Most people who think they've got great instincts have just got really selective memories.
This, most of us can spot an arsehole a mile off...although if I was attending their wedding I would have kept my mouth shut rather than spreading gossip to other guests 🙄
Congratulations on your superpower OP.

I sympathise OP. Sometimes it feels like people are being wilfully blind and prefer not to see the unpleasant realities of life. It's tough watching it all play out, feeling like Cassandra.

I think it's just instinct that comes from experience. Over time, you learn about people from observing behaviour, and then start to see the same patterns in other people. The more crap you go through, the easier it is to see it in others.

Most people unknowingly follow a script.

AN abusive narcissitic guy once said of me - its like she sees straight through you,,.not sure I like it - but I seem to have a radar for this sort of person - perceptive, good reader of people and body language and a "sixth" sense - not really just very good at reading body language and pressing peoples buttons when required

I am gemini - capricorn rising and sagittarius moon

similar thing happened to me
friend started seeing someone 6 years ago - he picked her up in his car first time we were meeting. As he drove the car up to where we were all sitting I just got flashes of ‘controlling, manipulating, pervert’

roll on now she is trapped with 2 dc and all of these have come true
one of the girls i was with said I was the only one who thought he was a bad guy and I should have been ashamed to be so judemental!!!!!

He wasnt the groom

I have had this type of comment from narcissist type men

’you are unusually perceptive’
’I should just give up now your never going to fall for the usual script - (a few drinks in) 😂😂😂
’you are scarily accurate with your assessment of me’ - was another

I think you are underestimating what other people are thinking. For example, if you are at a wedding, the other 100 or so people there aren't all thinking "ahhhh everlasting love". They are probably thinking this is a normal relationship with ups and downs, I don't like one or both of these people, I'm bored, why did s/he choose her/him, he's weird, that dress is ugly etc etc etc.

All adults know that life and relationships aren't perfect, sometimes people enter a relationship with someone they really shouldn't, it's usually for many complicated reasons.

Yeah maybe actually
who knows if they all felt the same

i suppose its like when i broke up with an ex and ghen friends told me ‘yeah we were all worried if you were to have kids with him as he was so controlling’ but never told me at the time

And sorry OP but this a just a random compliment they are giving you, not a psychological assessment. In fact they are the perspective ones here, because they perceived accurately that you would really love that compliment and eat it right up. Which is what happened. Let me guess, they also said "you're not like other girls".

Nope
the relationships ended ❤️😂

Have you also considered situations that you’ve felt negative about that have ended with a positive outcome, and you turned out to be wrong? Or do you forget about those? Because that’s confirmation bias.

Some might say that a stupid childish joke between friends ending up with a couple actually falling in love, a blended family and a marriage was one of those situations. Clearly he doesn’t still see her in a negative light or he wouldn’t have stood there in front of the same friends and his family and made the commitment to love, honour and protect her for the rest of his life?

Sure but then you've retold the story here as proof of how perceptive you are, so clearly you took it on board to some extent and seem proud of it.

TBH I think it is just human nature really.Not every wedding we attend will be "happily ever after " Thats not how life works! Men do cheat its true,however its seems strange to think the worst of someone when you are at their wedding! Also without being rude you do seem overly invested in OP RL. Maybe this is due to your childhood I dont know. Perhaps concentrate more on your own life ,men will try to orchestrate sex however if you dont want this its fine to say No!

You only remember these situations because your gut feeling was correct, though. There will have been thousands of other situations where you thought "x is dodgy" or "y is about to happen" and you were wrong, so they just don't stick out in your mind as anything memorable.

I do feel like that but about society as a whole, social media, the media/propaganda/brainwashing, the hidden agendas and people using situations to their own advantage (covid being a very obvious example).

I suppose I do see through relationships and family dramas too. The dynamics and how everyone has their own perception and their own story so that no one really sees the reality. This has happened since I was in an obviously abusive relationship which made me realise that others had also been abusive. Not saying that I am not delusional a lot of the time but I keep an emotional distance these days. I’ve spent a lot of time learning about abuse and personality disorders so I know when I’m being manipulated. For all these reasons I feel I’m on the outside looking in and that’s where I prefer to be. I’m autistic.

It wasnt his wedding he was a guest

You choose not to see the world with rose tinted glasses 🤓 while most people choose to view the world with them. Good for you that you can sense BS quick. I feel trauma and Poverty in early childhood does plays a role in learning this survival skill, even though exhausting at times but it's a survival skill. Don't think you need therapy just try to ignore it sometimes.

My instincts similarly were heightened after an abusive relationship and doing alot of reading too but it still happened when i was little

i think for me its the bullshit society / whats in it for me type thst i find exhausting

It’s experience, nothing psychic. We all have a fear response but people often explain it away. Do all of your friends go for wrong uns?

You’re not psychic. Astrology is just bullshit and plays no part either.

You’re just pessimistic and unhappy. Sort out the problems in your own life.

I don't think you need therapy OP; nor are you pessimistic and/or negative. You're a realist who refuses to buy into the facade that a lot of people present.

I am similar. I see things that others choose not to. I see crap parents, crap partners, liars, cheats, manipulators etc etc. My 'spidey senses' appear to be in good working order, which isn't a bad thing IMO, due to (as per my therapist) repeated and sustained childhood trauma.