AIBU to think most kids hate school
StitchInLime · 16/09/2022 07:54
It’s not just mine but other people’s kids too from
talking to other parents. Most school mornings are a battle to encourage them in. ‘I have a bad tummy’, ‘my leg hurts’ ‘I don’t want to go to school’. It’s all made worse by the fact we have a family member (my nephew) who is home schooled so they see there is a possibility NOT to be at school.
Maybe it’s normal. Most of us, when faced with being forced to drag our arses out of bed to go somewhere and do something we’re not always enthusiastic about (work!) don’t adore it. But we’re adults so don’t try to manipulate our ways out of it (most of the time). Has it got worse since the pandemic?
Or are the kids I know unusual cases? Do your kids love school?
I guess I’m just sick of the daily battle on school mornings. We always say school is important, plus we can’t always lounge around at home as life isn’t fulfilling that way, this the routine and learning is good. But still, the morning drama!
Am I being unreasonable?AIBU
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Bickles · 16/09/2022 08:12
Do you remember how sad and lost most kids were when schools closed due to Covid?
DS definitely likes school but doesn’t like getting up in the morning! He never tried to stay off though.
I’d worry your child was unhappy at school if they actively try to get out of going.
Porcupineintherough · 16/09/2022 08:16
I wouldn't say ds2 hates school but he really doesn't like the whole rush/getting ready thing in the morning. Also homework. However one thing lockdown showed him was that he's not cut out for home education (except maybe unschooling and I'm not up for that). And he doesn't fancy going out to work. So, well, school it is.
yikesanotherbooboo · 16/09/2022 08:21
I think that most DC like seeing their friends, messing around at break time and the routine of school. On top of that many DC like some other aspects eg sport or art or doing well or whatever. I don't really agree with the language of 'liking 'school however as I think it sets them up to expect fun and games or to feel that there is something wrong with them if they don't 'like' it.
BertieBotts · 16/09/2022 08:24
Nobody likes being told what to do and not being able to choose. Even if you like parts of school there will be parts that you feel are boring or annoying or just not in the mood for.
A bit like work really. You can like your job but still rejoice in an unexpected day off!
BecauseICan22 · 16/09/2022 08:32
15, 10 and 8. They have always LOVED school. In fact, when things have been hard (a Divorce, Bereavement etc) school has been their one constant and provided structure and security for them.
I know as a lone parent for 7 years, the times when I was on my knees, school was what kept me sane and my children healthily distracted and growing in their development.
YABU, schools are so much more than just an education.
BecauseICan22 · 16/09/2022 08:35
Needmorelego · 16/09/2022 08:07
There is such a lot of pointless faffing when it comes to school. Uniforms for a start. Having to wear such restricted clothes from a young age. Homework from such a young age - special 'family tasks' to do on the weekend. Make a cake together, go to the park and collect leaves etc. All those dull reading books and reading diaries and "you MUST read for 15 minutes each day".
It's just off putting to enthusiastic learning. Makes everything a chore.
And then secondary....urrgh. Everything is about "this is important to your GCSEs....exam, exam, exam..." and "if you don't do this now in Year 7 you will FAIL your GCSEs" and then they spend to much time caring about the colour of socks rather than finding out a child's interests and giving them actual career/job advice and helping them choose a decent path.
It's all just so tedious.
Do you exhibit these thoughts and feelings around your children?
It isn't a school's job to help your child choose a career path. It is their job to provide opportunities and information.
Guidance, conversation, understanding and support needs to come from home.
Devilsfoodcake · 16/09/2022 08:45
It's not a cliché if your kids like or love school! Some do and some don't,it's always been that way. What a silly thread. I hated it. All my children really love school, it might change but for now they really do, have the odd problem or bad day but they all enjoy it. How cliché of me! 😂
mscampbelle · 16/09/2022 08:46
ThisisCollie2022 · 16/09/2022 08:38
Make a cake together, go to the park and collect leaves etc but that's standard parenting and standard family activities?
OP you're attitude is setting your children up to fail but no doubt you'll blame the teachers
You're misunderstanding @ThisisCollie2022 - yes families do those things at the weekend, but it's the being forced to do them on a schedule by someone else. I wouldn't want my private time dictated to by my boss.
I have jobs or activities at the weekend, or I'm away visiting family etc.
I don't need to be told how to fill my leisure time, and families don't need to be told either.
NovaDeltas · 16/09/2022 08:55
Not really, no. Children brought up around the importance of education, lots of books, educated parents etc, they love school. The ones we see with fake illnesses and bad behaviour come from the disordered families where academic prowess gets them called 'little swots', where absence and sickness are rewarded and where bad behaviour is praised as 'just the way they are'. Those families spread and encourage that behaviour among themselves by swapping tales of their kids' various needs and demands and declare it's all the school's fault.
Tiredalwaystired · 16/09/2022 08:55
Theoretically I guess it could be the school itself that’s a problem if everyone you know is saying their kids hate it - it’s a fair assumption that most of the people you’re chatting with about it are local to you and your kids go to the same place.
Were lucky to have a brilliant comp near us and all the kids seems really enthusiastic. They have loads of extra curricular activities there too and they are always rammed after school. If school was awful I would have thought the kids would do anything in their power to get away from there.
hewouldwouldnthe · 16/09/2022 08:56
9 yo DS like school. No problems getting up and dressed. Always seems happy at school, although loves the weekend more. His love of school though is slightly dimming as he goes through the process because it's more work. I'm not sure how secondary will go.
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