Because as you can tell from the responses on here- there’s plenty of women who think going for dinner makes them a nasty, spoilt golddigger and walk dates are low pressure and cuteeeee!
And these women will still shag them.
It’s not about not being able to afford it, for men looking for sex or something casual- it’s a case of…why would you spend money if there are women who’ll shag you after sitting with you on a park bench for 4 hours?
They’re hoping you are one of those.
I had lovely proper dates with men, including a man who I eventually married.
I also had men asking to go for a walk at Westfield shopping centre- when I replied ‘no thanks 😂😂😂😂 I have better things to do’ they would either go nuclear or backtrack and try to take me to a restaurant.
Ultimately- I can go for a coffee by myself or with a girlfriend….I can go for a walk with my dog. I was never desperate enough to go out and meet a man I don’t know in a PARK. Plenty are, and that’s what they are looking for.
When I’m dating I want to have fun and set the stage for some sexual chemistry and romance. You don’t find that in green park with a man too cheap to buy you a flat white.
practical advice:
-let your profile showcase your hobbies/profession/style/humour: make it showcase you. You will be someone’s cup of tea and he’ll want to put skin in the game. A basic profile will just put you as a fish in someone’s wide net rather than a catch.
-make sure you have photos obviously taken by other people or at social events, someone who just has selfies looks like they have no friends and are more likely to be one of the said desperados
-if you are asked for a walk, coffee with someone who you want to give a bit of grace to. A ‘a walk? Like as friends? 😵💫’ and acting quizzical that they would ask you to do such a bizarre thing gives them a chance to row back. I never did this though