Should people pare back their Christmas celebrations this year?

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I saw a comment on social media, I can't remember their exact words but it was effectively suggesting that people should 'pare back' their celebrations at Christmas this year due to the Queen's passing.

I'm not really sure I understood their reasoning, or what they meant by paring back? I appreciate that it's been a very sad time and will be only have been a few months after her death and that Christmas can magnify feelings of loss. For many it's also going to feel extremely poignant seeing the King give a speech on Christmas day and not his mother, but surely it is right that life goes on?

I'm sure the last thing she would want is families not spending time together and celebrating Christmas and having fun, especially after the last two years which were so incredibly disrupted.

IABU - Yes, people should pare back their Christmas celebrations to an extent this year in respect to the Queen's passing.

IANBU - No, people shouldn't feel the need to pare back their Christmas celebrations this year - the Queen's passing is sad for many people, but life must go on.

I am definitely not stripping back Christmas.

My own mum died in early December last year. I had to wait 4 weeks to bury her, which worked out the day before New Year’s Eve. Christmas was awful. I tried to still make it special for the kids (they are older though) and sat through Christmas dinner thinking of mum and the funeral home.

This year we are celebrating. Mum loves Christmas and would hate for her death to spoil every Christmas.

I really feel for the RF. Losing my own mum has made me very sympathetic to them. But I am not spending another Christmas, planned around grieving when I am not even related to the person who has died.

I thought Christmas was about Jesus.

Indeed. The constant, usually social media based, controlling/policing of other people's behaviour complete with "nudging suggestions" of appropriate conduct, is so effing tiresome and draining.

What has Christmas got to do with the Queen ? Utterly ridiculous idea .

Christmas won't be the same for the many of us that have been bereaved this year.

The only difference with regard to the Royal Family is that there will be King's Christmas Day address.

It would be daft to pare back when a 96 year old most of us have never met has died.

Will there be inspectors counting the baubles?

Haha! I barely do anything anyway, if I pare it down any further I would stay in an unmade bed for 12 days and fast, drinking only water.

It's like when the Daily Mail says Christmas is banned when no one is planning that or anything remotely like it.

We had a devastating death in my family this year. If Christmas is quieter it be because of that. We didn't know the queen and she doesn't affect our Christmas in the slightest.

I am not sure the Royal Family ever did extravagance at Christmas - was far more about the true meaning of Christmas given she was Head of the Protestant Church or however they term it. Those who have made huge amounts of money through social media and games like football show far more excess. I also think we shouldn't just think of these things around Christmas or any other religious celebration but all year round and in the general way we do business or interact with the world.

I am not sure the Royal Family ever did extravagance at Christmas - was far more about the true meaning of Christmas given she was Head of the Protestant Church or however they term it. Those who have made huge amounts of money through social media and games like football show far more excess

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Wow, the gullibility of some people

Only time I've pared back Christmas was the year we buried DD 4 days before Christmas day.
In spite of her anniversary being in December, Christmas is very much as usual. So I won't be doing anything differently because the Queen died in September.

No people should definitely not pare back their own Christmas just because the Queen died 3.5 months earlier! Any more than I would expect anyone else to pare back their Christmas if my parents died!

No ,people can mourn if they want to ,but let's be realistic here ,how long can the mourning go on for ,she was 96 and had a very long luxurious life ,people up and down the country right now will be losing their own loved ones in . far more tragic circumstances.

I don't think RF will not celebrate Christmas or New Year... People are getting more and more ridiculous.

It would be more relevant to pare back Christmas celebrations for financial reasons, rather than the death of a Monarch.

People should do what they want. If they're sad about the death of the Queen and think it would be inappropriate, then go ahead, scale back. If they're sad about the death of the Queen and want to cheer themselves up by throwing the biggest Christmas ever, then fine. Tone up or tone down, or do what you always do, it's none of my or anyone else's business.

Ffs.

when is it ever anyone else’s business how anyone chooses to spend their life or indeed Christmas

social media has a lot to answer for.

get a fucking hobby fgs. Volunteer, anything but stop worrying about what other people do/spend/wear or what they look like!

and enough already of the grief-a-thon. If anything will bring an end to the monarchy it’s this stupendous amount of bullshit that’s being pumped at us.

What ??? She could have died on Christmas Day for all I care and I wouldn’t tone back nothing !! She is not connected to me ? By all means I’m sorry for her loss , it’s sad for her family but she is not close to me or important on any personal level

I love the toffee pennies!
A tin of roses with just the nut one in would be more appropriate for the sombre occasion.

If decorations becoming a willing serf symbol I'll have to become a crazy lights lazy.

Like buggery would she.

Are these the same people who are upset that people don't wear all black, still do normal things and refuse to watch each news bulletin, queue in London and want the country to shut down for 10 days of full mourning?

A very old lady died, yes, she was the head of state but she hardly had any impact of my day-to-day life.

Christmas and any other occasion in our house are done the way we like, unless we are back in lockdown or similar obviously. Grieving and restricting myself for a head of state - sorry no.

We'll be putting black paper frills on the turkey legs, naturally.

Yes, the expectation is that it will be just like the Victorian era where we enter mourning for a year

(Not really)