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Should people pare back their Christmas celebrations this year?

153 replies

sunnydaytoday0 · 15/09/2022 11:16

I saw a comment on social media, I can't remember their exact words but it was effectively suggesting that people should 'pare back' their celebrations at Christmas this year due to the Queen's passing.

I'm not really sure I understood their reasoning, or what they meant by paring back? I appreciate that it's been a very sad time and will be only have been a few months after her death and that Christmas can magnify feelings of loss. For many it's also going to feel extremely poignant seeing the King give a speech on Christmas day and not his mother, but surely it is right that life goes on?

I'm sure the last thing she would want is families not spending time together and celebrating Christmas and having fun, especially after the last two years which were so incredibly disrupted.

IABU - Yes, people should pare back their Christmas celebrations to an extent this year in respect to the Queen's passing.

IANBU - No, people shouldn't feel the need to pare back their Christmas celebrations this year - the Queen's passing is sad for many people, but life must go on.

OP posts:
Chikapu · 15/09/2022 11:47

So one random person on social media suggested that people pare back this year? Why would anyone take any notice of that?

Chikapu · 15/09/2022 11:49

Jog on @Donw87s

ReneBumsWombats · 15/09/2022 11:54

LongLostTeacher · 15/09/2022 11:41

Would be interested to hear from some of the 3% saying we should pare back. I doubt even the royal family, for whom it will undoubtedly be different without the queen, will pare back.

I wonder if the 3% are voting this way due to cost of living, which is not what the op was asking about.

I suspect they're thinking about toning down public celebrations, but 97% don't agree. I very much doubt they actually think people should be pressured to reduce their personal Christmases because of the Queen, no matter what their own feelings.

HuzzahIndeed · 15/09/2022 12:03

How long are we going to have this for?

I saw the title and thought you were going to suggest paring it back to acknowledge that a lot of people aren't going to have the Christmas they would like.

But no, it's about an over-privalidged family that have nothing to with me. Another thing that the peseants should do to be deferential.

My neighbour who has an impact on my life, lost their mum last month. I never met their mum either but should I change my Christmas plans for her?

randomsabreuse · 15/09/2022 12:05

Any paring back will be entirely due to budget and the kids having too much stuff anyway so they don't value it. Coal from Santa I think...

mast0650 · 15/09/2022 12:07

how bizarre!! I can't believe many people would be thinking this way

there is of course a cost of living crisis to contend with, but that's a completely different matter!

Antarcticant · 15/09/2022 12:09

I thought this was going to be about cost of living! I had already planned to pare back for that reason - no way I am having the oven blasting at 180 for 4 hours roasting a large bird, for a start.

Dougieowner · 15/09/2022 12:09

Do "comments on social media" normally make you think so hard about things like this?
If so maybe you should step back a bit.

KermitlovesKeyLimePie · 15/09/2022 12:11

I'm just carrying on as normal and ignoring the fact that she is dead.

The rest of em are pointless.

Having said that, we are having a quiet Christmas this year as we have a big holiday coming up in January so all funds are being diverted to that.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 15/09/2022 12:12

What a weird idea. I dare say many people will be paring back at Christmas, but that will be down to finances, nothing to do with the Queen.

cinnabongene · 15/09/2022 12:12

My father died 8 weeks ago. He was a beloved dad as well as grandfather. If I were to 'pare back' celebrations for anyone, it would be for him. Not for a person I didn't know, had never met and wouldn't know me if she fell over me.
As it was; my dad loved Christmas and wouldn't want anyone in the family to 'pare back' anything.

GrazingSheep · 15/09/2022 12:15

It’s like the Misery Olympics

IamnotSethRogan · 15/09/2022 12:15

I'll probs be scaling back my Christmas celebrations because the tories have financially fucked everyone

HeckyPeck · 15/09/2022 12:16

HuzzahIndeed · 15/09/2022 12:03

How long are we going to have this for?

I saw the title and thought you were going to suggest paring it back to acknowledge that a lot of people aren't going to have the Christmas they would like.

But no, it's about an over-privalidged family that have nothing to with me. Another thing that the peseants should do to be deferential.

My neighbour who has an impact on my life, lost their mum last month. I never met their mum either but should I change my Christmas plans for her?

I wouldn't get riled up about it. I can't find anyone, anywhere saying anything remotely like this so likely just one random person suggesting it that OP happened to stumble across.

Figgygal · 15/09/2022 12:16

Its going to happen anyway for many not being able to afford it before anything else

Porcupineintherough · 15/09/2022 12:16

I reckon half the country will have a pared back Christmas, together with a pared back Oct, Nov , Dec and January this year and it will be fuck all to do with the death of the Queen. But I'm sure Charles III will be exceptionally warm and well fed.

SnowyPetals · 15/09/2022 12:18

Some people do love a bit of social media attention. Can't think why else they would say it.

Figgygal · 15/09/2022 12:19

Porcupineintherough · 15/09/2022 12:16

I reckon half the country will have a pared back Christmas, together with a pared back Oct, Nov , Dec and January this year and it will be fuck all to do with the death of the Queen. But I'm sure Charles III will be exceptionally warm and well fed.

Oh give over hes an easy target not his fault is it and wouldn't change anything for people if we became a Republic overnight
Blame anyone blame the tories for getting us in this mess

Propagandalf · 15/09/2022 12:19

We've just come out of a 2-year pandemic, and @sunnydaytoday0 wants us to cut back on a 3rd Christmas running?

I don't think so!

TangleCry · 15/09/2022 12:20

I doubt the queen would want that! She loved xmas. x

TheyreOnlyNoodlesMichael · 15/09/2022 12:21

Absolute madness and it's a resounding no from me. I don't even feel the need to add the "whilst it's sad" disclaimer because for me, it isn't remotely sad.

TheLeadbetterLife · 15/09/2022 12:21

Yes. All True Patriots will be having cheese on toast for their Christmas dinner this year.

Debrett's says Christmas trees should be decked in black ribbons only.

Roses and Quality Street tins will contain only the ones that no-one likes.

Original poster
sunnydaytoday0 · 15/09/2022 12:21

Propagandalf · 15/09/2022 12:19

We've just come out of a 2-year pandemic, and @sunnydaytoday0 wants us to cut back on a 3rd Christmas running?

I don't think so!

I think you need to read my OP again..

OP posts:
TangleCry · 15/09/2022 12:22

Also

I saw a comment on social media,

And? Social media gives any odd idiot a platform to share their inane innermost garbage. Why would you pay such nonsense any attention and spread it round more social media i.e. mums net?

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 15/09/2022 12:23

Wouldn’t have thought it was to do with the late Queen but the cost of living crisis.

”Paring back” your Christmas because of a very rich woman you didn’t know, however much you liked her, seems odd to me.