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To ask which number of children you found hardest?

105 replies

obsessedwithsleep · 15/09/2022 08:44

I haven't explained myself very clearly in the title as I didn't know how to phrase it.

Basically, which transition did you find hardest? Was it going from no children to one, one to two or two to three?

Or more!

OP posts:
OnlyMeIJustChangedMyName · 15/09/2022 08:52

None to one.

CandyLeBonBon · 15/09/2022 08:53

None to one

CandyLeBonBon · 15/09/2022 08:53

Got three in total. First was definitely the hardest

Glitterbaby17 · 15/09/2022 08:54

One to two - not being able to meet both of their needs some of the time is really hard

justanothermanicmonday21 · 15/09/2022 08:54

One to two, balancing them both and spreading my time. I now have four and find it's actually much easier and I'm more relaxed.

Flatandhappy · 15/09/2022 08:54

One to one definitely hardest. I have three.

OnlyMeIJustChangedMyName · 15/09/2022 08:56

Yeah I'd say at first having the 2nd was OK as he slept a lot. Then there was a short phase of him being needy in terms of unable to play unaided. Then we entered a phase of them playing together, which emerged properly at about 15 months. Gives me more opportunity for a cuppa than when I just had one.

Chickpea17 · 15/09/2022 08:56

3 to 4 so far I'm hoping things will change soon 😫

Somethingsnappy · 15/09/2022 08:57

I have 4 children, and I found it the hardest going from one to two! I had figured out techniques by the time I went from two to three, and then three to four!

CatsandDogs22 · 15/09/2022 08:57

None to one, though 1 to 3 wasn’t a walk in the park. Could not tell you what having 2 kids is like.

DownToTheSeaAgain · 15/09/2022 08:57

We went 0 to 2. That was hard but the hardest bit was 4 under 5. Just not enough thanks.

Somethingsnappy · 15/09/2022 08:59

justanothermanicmonday21 · 15/09/2022 08:54

One to two, balancing them both and spreading my time. I now have four and find it's actually much easier and I'm more relaxed.

Snap!

womaninatightspot · 15/09/2022 08:59

Going from two to four (twins) like a pp we had four under five and it was brutal tbh.

Onlyforcake · 15/09/2022 08:59

Two to three. But there was a huge gap. There was a bit of 'starting from scratch and a lot of juggling children with very different needs in terms of meals, support, entertainment.

womaninatightspot · 15/09/2022 09:00

I would say now they are 7-12 it’s actually fairly easy, lost school ties and much taxiing around aside.

GiantTortoise · 15/09/2022 09:03

None to 1 was the hardest as it was such a big change!

2 to 3 was also really hard, mainly because my DC3 was the worst sleeper of the three.

1 to 2 was easy for me.

User1563 · 15/09/2022 09:03

2 to 3 .

nopenotplaying · 15/09/2022 09:05

3 to 5 (twins) I'm exhausted all the time

Loopielu · 15/09/2022 09:07

Two to three, with a big gap. It nearly killed me, had horrendous PND.

blondie87 · 15/09/2022 09:09

None to one. Whole new way of being.

Windowtea · 15/09/2022 09:09

None to one.

We had a close age gap though. I'd probably struggle going back to the baby stage with a child older than 4YO.

PenTantrum · 15/09/2022 09:10

Not hard, but 0 to 1 changed our lives a lot. Not unexpected though. 😂 1 to 2 was really easy, our lives were already centred around our child and we were used to it.

FrequentUser2022 · 15/09/2022 09:11

None to one was extremely hard for me. Number two just slotted into number one's routine as had a small age gap. I think I'd struggle if I had anymore than 2.

LongLostTeacher · 15/09/2022 09:20

One.

I now have three.

Poniesandgin · 15/09/2022 09:21

0-1 was hard.
1-2 not so bad but I had a huge age gap so DC1 able to do lots for themselves plus at school during the day.

Expecting dc3 with a tiny gap (18m) and I’m terrified!!!!