To be terrified of leaving abusive DH in a few weeks.

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I've made loads of threads on here asking for help. He's threatened to kill me, I had kicked him out and called the police but let him back if it triggers any memories. I'm moving out in a few weeks. Which is huge but also absolutely terrifying and honestly I feel sick with regret. I know I need to but I'm dreading it.

I haven't told him and don't intend to until nearer the time. I'm dreading that and him trying to take DS from me. I'm dreading fighting over my own few things and DSs things.

But also, I have NOTHING. Not a thing. Its an unfurnished flat. Look up form your phone, the first thing your eye falls on, I don't have it. A bed, cooker, fridge, curtains, a mug, a spoon. I have my clothes and hopefully DSs clothes and toys. What the af am I going to do? What do you do?! I don't have the money to buy it all. I don't have a van to collect second hand fridge and oven. How the fuck am I going to look after my baby?

What do I do?!

Have you had a name change fail op? If you need to fix it report the post to Mumsnet hq.

The most important thing is to get out of there safely, as PPs have said.

You've taken out the loan now, but there is help available for people to get furniture, appliances etc without getting into debt.

You can find your local Citizens Advice by putting your postcode in the search box at www.citizensadvice.org.uk/about-us/contact-us/contact-us/contact-us/
Many have an email enquiry form on their website which can be the best way to contact them if phone lines are busy.

Your local Citizens Advice will be able to tell you about grants and charitable help. Every council will have a "Local Assistance Scheme" which will be able to provide (and deliver) an item you need such as a cooker or fridge-freezer / washing machine. Councils also administer the "Household Support Fund" which you can apply to for various things. In my area there are charities offering grants (in the form of vouchers for a shop of your choice) as well as free and low-cost second hand furniture and appliances. There are even charities offering children's clothes and toys.

You will need to claim Universal Credit which you can do online at www.gov.uk/universal-credit/how-to-claim
You can find more information about applying at www.citizensadvice.org.uk/benefits/universal-credit/claiming/applying-for-universal-credit/
And if you need help you can contact Help to Claim www.citizensadvice.org.uk/benefits/universal-credit/claiming/helptoclaim/

Good luck!

Bravo to you, a difficult decision but the right one. As many have said, Women's Aid is the first stop, then any and every local charity you can think of. Get away safely then gradually get yourself sorted. Your and your child's future is paramount. Make an affirmation that you will never go back, think of your futures, please.

Any updates OP! I sincerely hope you managed to get out safely!

OP, if you're still reading this, you need to make a safety plan. Have a look on the Women's Aid website. Ring them. Your husband has threatened to kill you. While you're in an extremely dangerous situation (and leaving is a particularly risky time), you are in a strong position as you have had previous police involvement. But you need official help to leave, don't try to do it alone. Help is out there, access as much of it as you can. Start with Women's Aid.