About a year ago my DP and I sold our cars and purchased a joint car, mostly to cut costs and because in theory we wouldn't ever need it at the same time.
DP has a work car but can only be used for work so that leaves the car free for me to use for work and on my days off (part-time) i do activities with youngest (pre-schooler). I also pick up eldest from school (after school activities) maybe 2-3 nights a week but this is all while DP is at work so he wouldn't be needing the car.
DP goes to the gym every evening and on weekends and needs the car to get there, weeknights are not so bad but the weekend he goes from about 11-1ish, sometimes 2 which then means i am always left at home with the kids for that time and if i needed the car it would be tough because he always has to go no matter what. So this means i basically cannot plan anything if i would need the car, i don't actually have any hobbies of my own to go out and do on an evening but this is only because he never has a day off from doing his things so i can't plan anything. Also if i want to go to an event that might be on a weekend with the kids i either have to get a lift or argue about having the car. I've said that surely 5 times a week is plenty for going to the gym?? I'm not asking him to never go on the weekend but would be nice to have more days out as a family as we rarely go as it's too late to leave by mid afternoon as he always has to squeeze in the gym.
I know i use the car far more than him by default because he doesn't need it during week daytimes but aibu to think at least on weekends it should be more about the family than just what he wants to do? How do others make it work?