My daughter has literally just turned 18 and is on a gap year. She has had for the past 5 years Anorexia and is in recovery. She still lives with demons over food but is relatively weight restored. Ive seen her at such awful times where she eas threatened with section etc.
SO
This is where may have over reacted. Shes got a job at premier inn as well as another shes been doing a year.
So far they give her ths crappy shifts... 3.30 til 9pm and every time we go to get her shes late out
Theres a pervasive atmosphere of bullying and some staff speak to her others dont.
So monday the chef didnt turn up and all hell broke loose... Cust kicking off etc.
So i arriver for her for 9 30pm
9 45pm still not out and called her and shes in teara trying to hand over her checks to someone else.
I went into reception and said im. Mum where
is she. Due to finish work and in tears."
Stony glare from receptionist who said "why is she in tears?
I said i dont know but she dorsnt get paid after 9 30pm so where is she"
@@ came out got in the car and cried.
Ive said its meant to be a gap year job and not make her this miserable.
My husband not @@ dad daid i shouldnt have gone in but know she would have been even later.
So not sure now
AIBU?
Momma bear surfaced
Abbeysmum · 14/09/2022 10:14
Am I being unreasonable?
294 votes. Final results.
POLLJustMaggie · 14/09/2022 12:18
I would have done the same and possibly more if it had been my kid, especially with her history. There are plenty of jobs out there where you can be treated with respect. She doesn't need to stay. "Resilience" my ass. How about teaching her that she is in control of her life and she doesn't need to put up with poor or bad behaviour. She is worth more than that.
CalmdownCampers · 14/09/2022 15:42
From the general consensus, most mothers would have sat in the car, expecting her to 'deal with it' like a normal teenager
And then wondering why she ended up relapsing
CalmdownCampers · 14/09/2022 15:42
From the general consensus, most mothers would have sat in the car, expecting her to 'deal with it' like a normal teenager
And then wondering why she ended up relapsing
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SleeplessInEngland · 14/09/2022 16:20
No, most mothers would have waited till she came in the car then had a frank discussion about leaving.
Embarrassing your adult child in front of colleagues just makes a bad situation worse. I suspect the OP thought she'd get a flurry of "Well Done!!" replies but life isn't a movie.
CalmdownCampers · 14/09/2022 15:42
From the general consensus, most mothers would have sat in the car, expecting her to 'deal with it' like a normal teenager
And then wondering why she ended up relapsing
Bankcockbabe · 14/09/2022 16:35
Yes and in a movie, a person who is clearly struggling - may hope for some support......
but we aren't in a movie, we are in the intolerant medium of Mumsnet
SleeplessInEngland · 14/09/2022 16:20
No, most mothers would have waited till she came in the car then had a frank discussion about leaving.
Embarrassing your adult child in front of colleagues just makes a bad situation worse. I suspect the OP thought she'd get a flurry of "Well Done!!" replies but life isn't a movie.
CalmdownCampers · 14/09/2022 15:42
From the general consensus, most mothers would have sat in the car, expecting her to 'deal with it' like a normal teenager
And then wondering why she ended up relapsing
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