My daughter has literally just turned 18 and is on a gap year. She has had for the past 5 years Anorexia and is in recovery. She still lives with demons over food but is relatively weight restored. Ive seen her at such awful times where she eas threatened with section etc.
SO
This is where may have over reacted. Shes got a job at premier inn as well as another shes been doing a year.
So far they give her ths crappy shifts... 3.30 til 9pm and every time we go to get her shes late out
Theres a pervasive atmosphere of bullying and some staff speak to her others dont.
So monday the chef didnt turn up and all hell broke loose... Cust kicking off etc.
So i arriver for her for 9 30pm
9 45pm still not out and called her and shes in teara trying to hand over her checks to someone else.
I went into reception and said im. Mum where
is she. Due to finish work and in tears."
Stony glare from receptionist who said "why is she in tears?
I said i dont know but she dorsnt get paid after 9 30pm so where is she"
@@ came out got in the car and cried.
Ive said its meant to be a gap year job and not make her this miserable.
My husband not @@ dad daid i shouldnt have gone in but know she would have been even later.
So not sure now
AIBU?
Momma bear surfaced
Abbeysmum · 14/09/2022 10:14
Am I being unreasonable?
294 votes. Final results.
POLLAbbeysmum · 14/09/2022 10:53
I would say this is not the only incident. She has been doimg the 2nd job for over a year so is resilient.
Maybe im overprotective cos of whats happened. She was in hospital away from home for 6 months.
Abbeysmum · 14/09/2022 10:53
I would say this is not the only incident. She has been doimg the 2nd job for over a year so is resilient.
Maybe im overprotective cos of whats happened. She was in hospital away from home for 6 months.
Abbeysmum · 14/09/2022 10:59
Enough abuse now.. Jesus talk about arsey replies
Thanks for complete lack of understanding
SillySausage21356 · 14/09/2022 10:52
I agree with your first paragraph
I didn't see the OP say the daughter was relying on her going in - but I can see why she would, given the girls history and tears
luxxlisbon · 14/09/2022 10:45
So you encourage her to update her cv, look for something else, get a reference and move on. It’s how the real world works.
Relying on your mum coming in to shout at your boss and colleagues is not a long term solution in life.
SillySausage21356 · 14/09/2022 10:42
This is awful advice.
Yes jobs are hard, but being treated like shit for minimum wage, is NOT a prerequisite
It is all about knowing your worth.
luxxlisbon · 14/09/2022 10:37
Maybe you need to teach her some resilience. Some jobs are hard, sometimes you work for shitty people, sometimes we don’t always get to do what we enjoy in life every day.
Having her mum burst in because she had to do an extra 15 mins is crazy. You’re treating her like a baby.
Abbeysmum · 14/09/2022 10:53
I would say this is not the only incident. She has been doimg the 2nd job for over a year so is resilient.
Maybe im overprotective cos of whats happened. She was in hospital away from home for 6 months.
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