How bad is it not to see my nephews who’s dad abondened them ?

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So basically , my brother has 2 kids with his ex girlfriend and he doesn’t have anything to do with them , hasn’t over few years ! He’s a waster .
i keep in touch sometimes with the kids mum and talk on internet . How bad is it for me not to bother with them because even his dad doesn’t bother . Should i still see them? Well we are not close anymore . Do I still have responsibility to keep them in my life or should I just not bother? My brother doesn’t want our family to have anything to do with them and his ex gf family and kids .

Your brother sounds a nasty piece of work, rejecting his kids, and you sound similar in going along with it.

Even if my DB didn't fall out with me, I would fall out with him fwiw.

Ex DH’s sister and her family did this after he abandoned his (very) young children and me.

I'm sure they justified it somehow (possibly based on how ‘ghastly’ I am based on previous family form with a cousin’s ex) but regardless, it is contemptible.

My now teenage children know what happened and they remember the cut off. It hurts them and they judged and reacted accordingly when the (inevitable) outreach came.

Hurting innocent children (who are usually reeling anyway from the divorce) is disgusting and not forgivable.

So tell your brother to shut the fuck up, they are family by blood. Your nephews aren't dolls you can just play with when you fancy it.

I’m just about to report your thread because I think you’re full of shit.

But just on the off chance that you are genuine, then I think that you should stay far, far away from these children. They’ve already been rejected by a scummy father. They don’t need to be messed around by a scummy aunt with the morals of an alley cat.

Based on the overwhelming sense of "can't be arsed" in your post, I would follow your brother's lead and sack the kids off.

Children are not a chore to proper people. Your nephews are wasted on people like you.