Housework issues

[FunkyDunky]

Im a sahm to 2 dc (13&10). A couple of years ago i happily did all the housework, cleaning, shopping, cooking, laundry, etc as dc were little and dh worked long hours out of the house.

However, since covid dh dh is now wfh most days and the dc are older and more independent (meaning I'm no longer the only one capable of loading/unloading the dishwasher for example.)

But im finding that im getting more and more annoyed at no one helping and I'm starting to really resent no one else pitching in, even when i ask.

And yes, i have tried to talk to them about this. Things improve for 2 or 3 days, then slip back into old habits.

Its lots of little things, but its all built up and I'm ready to explode. I dont want to constantly 'nag'. I ask, i ask, i ask and nothing changes.

To give an example - i put ds clean laundry in his bedroom, all he has to do is put it away in his wardrobe (5 min job). Instead that pile of clean laundry gets thrown on the floor, then buried in dirty laundry, left to fester until i either loose my shit or he sneaks it back into the laundry basket for the whole cycle to continue again. I have spent a week asking him to put it away, it hasnt been done. So as of yesterday i am no longer doing any of his laundry. I refuse.

Does anyone have any tips/coping strategies/advice? Because its all really getting me down.

[EfficientDynamics]

If the kids are 10 and 13 what do you actually do?

You don't need to be at home as the kids are at school now

[TooMuchToDoTooLittleInclination]

@EfficientDynamics

If the kids are 10 and 13 what do you actually do?

You don't need to be at home as the kids are at school now

@EfficientDynamics

Well that's not what this is about.

that's a decision that is down to her & her DH.

this is not about her taking care of the family home (if that's the arrangement they have) this is about a DH & kids leaving a trail of mess in their wake and expecting her to clean up after them like some skivvy.

not acceptable.

[FunkyDunky]

@EfficientDynamics

If the kids are 10 and 13 what do you actually do?

You don't need to be at home as the kids are at school now

I don't think i really need to justify what i do, but for e.g. today I did breakfast, school run for primary child, supermarket shop, cleaned the middle floor, emptied dishwasher and sorted kitchen, one load of laundry, school run, take dc2 to after school sports thing, cooked dinner, cleaned up after dinner (made dc1 fill dishwasher) helped dc1 with english homework, ensured dc2 did some reading, listened to dc1 rant about friend stuff for an hour, etc. None of it is really rocket science, just an average day.

No, i don't need to be at home as the dc are old enough. But neither do i need to work as financially its not going to change our quality of life at all.

[Dixiechickonhols]

I’ve found an epic meltdown from me has made an impression. DD has 2 coconut bowls that can’t go in dishwasher. I was sick of telling her to wash them. I threw one out of window as it was in side. She mentioned it again last night!
I’d do a chore list but definitely be less available.