Im a sahm to 2 dc (13&10). A couple of years ago i happily did all the housework, cleaning, shopping, cooking, laundry, etc as dc were little and dh worked long hours out of the house.
However, since covid dh dh is now wfh most days and the dc are older and more independent (meaning I'm no longer the only one capable of loading/unloading the dishwasher for example.)
But im finding that im getting more and more annoyed at no one helping and I'm starting to really resent no one else pitching in, even when i ask.
And yes, i have tried to talk to them about this. Things improve for 2 or 3 days, then slip back into old habits.
Its lots of little things, but its all built up and I'm ready to explode. I dont want to constantly 'nag'. I ask, i ask, i ask and nothing changes.
To give an example - i put ds clean laundry in his bedroom, all he has to do is put it away in his wardrobe (5 min job). Instead that pile of clean laundry gets thrown on the floor, then buried in dirty laundry, left to fester until i either loose my shit or he sneaks it back into the laundry basket for the whole cycle to continue again. I have spent a week asking him to put it away, it hasnt been done. So as of yesterday i am no longer doing any of his laundry. I refuse.
Does anyone have any tips/coping strategies/advice? Because its all really getting me down.
AIBU?
Housework issues
FunkyDunky · 13/09/2022 10:59
Am I being unreasonable?
73 votes. Final results.
POLLTopgub · 13/09/2022 12:15
Well she kind of does need to get job otherwise what else is she doing all day?
I'd be raging if I was working and my unemployed oh said I had to do housework.
If this was a woman posting about her unemployed oh the responses would be different
Topgub · 13/09/2022 13:13
@TooMuchToDoTooLittleInclination
Doesn't sound like there's any consequences though
Topgub · 13/09/2022 13:34
@TooMuchToDoTooLittleInclination
Well it kind of is.
Because that is the natural consequence of having a life long sahm.
Everyone (rightly) expects her to do everything
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poorbuthappy · 14/09/2022 08:25
I thought the suggestion of colour coded crockery was genius until I realised that my lot would use each others plates purely to get their siblings in trouble.
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