Hello all
Years ago, I was a teenage mum. I had my daughter when I was 16, and she is 31 now.
Over that time, I had period comments such as 'oh you started young' followed by an eye roll or a snigger. When my daughter was small, I felt very judged much of the time and these questions were regular.
...and this has always been from other women , that i barely know, and I have never learned how to feel comfortable with this
I have had new workmates, etc say this type of stuff and I feel the only reason they ask is so they can judge.
Yesterday, I was talking to a lady I barely know, at a social event and she was proudly talking about her young Children whilst I listened. This lady was prob about my age now so say late 40s. Anyway I feel she was trying to find some common ground and she got around to asking if I had children, and I said yes, she's an adult now and she looked as if I said I had birthed an alien lol and then rolled her eyes and said 'You started young then didn't you, how old were you exactly? snigger'........and i thought ffs not again. I stood there trying to wrack my brain on what to say to bow out of this, when she changed the subject quickly
if in this situation, how do you handle it?
I think I may be a tad defensive, but I really do not understand the need for people who do not know me, to demand this information and it does not feel that it serves them any purpose other than to build up some type of judgement