To be annoyed at this response? Parking related.

[Movinghouseatlast]

I have a fairly new friend who is moving to the area temporarily

She asked me if they could park/store their classic ( hobby) car in my garden as they were scared to leave it on the road near where they will be living for the next 6 months.

I said yes with two provisos- that it wasn't a parking spot, so not coming and going, just leaving it there- they said they would just come and turn it over every few weeks. Also I said I didn't want their huge excitable dog in our garden as we have cats who are very afraid of dogs. She agreed.

The day before they were due to arrive she said they weren't bringing the classic car for another 3 weeks, could they put their small 2nd car there in the meantime? I said yes, thinking they just wanted to store it there, same arrangement as the classic car.

He husband arrived with the car, with absolutely no notice, and the dog bolted out of the car, running all over. Next day her daughter and her husband showed up to get the car for the daughter to go out for the day, again the husband had the dog with him, not on a lead.He walked home with the dog, so no need for this at all.

When the daughter came back in the afternoon our builder had parked in the space. My friend phoned with an angry tone saying "someone is in our space" I said I'd ask him to move it and she hung up. I was a bit shocked to be honest.

I then texted her to remind her about the dog. I was really nice about it. Her response really pissed me off. She replied "I consider myself duly ticked off!". I responded saying please tell all her family about not bringing the dog. She replied 'Duly noted'. I think the response is incredibly entitled and its made me bloody angry. I've not heard from her since.

It would cost her £50 a week to park this 2nd car on the road so she is saving that and she is being arsey! It also took us a whole day to clear the space for her ( which she knew).

We said yes because we wanted to help out and we thought it was no skin off our nose. She couldn't park it anywhere else really. I was kind of letting her off because she's stressed with the move, but her response has really annoyed me!

That’s so rude of her.
she isn’t respecting you at all - she’s treating you like dirt. She sounds rather unpleasant in her responses, certainly not at all repentant. It’s almost like she is doing you a favour!

I'd text again, explaining that on refelection, it isn't working out and giving a time to move the car by.

*reflection

Tell her you've changed your mind entitled cow

No good deed goes unpunished, such a true saying

She sounds horrid. Tell her actually your builder needs it!

Is the car back in your garden now? It would be a shame if next time they want it you've forgotten to unlock the gates and gone out yourself for the day.

Tbh I'd have told her to get fucked when she moaned about the builder being in "her" space. Entitled twat.

“The agreement was your hobby car being stored here with no comings and going’s, and dog not allowed. That’s not what has happened, so I’m afraid that just doesn’t work for us.”

My friend phoned with an angry tone saying "someone is in our space"

"OUR space"? - what a diabolical liberty! She really is taking advantage of you and then being rude about it. You'll never get rid of her parking there if you let this continue... first it was the hobby car, then she's wangled her way into getting their second car parked there. Your builder is entitled to park there if you agree to it and he is doing work for you. It's not her space! I'd suggest charging her to park there. It seems like she had this planned beforehand - ask about the hobby car to get the conversation started, then use the spot as a regular parking space for their second car. I'd put a chain or a bollard across the space. You are not there to provide free parking for her.

I just wondered whether there was an upside with this "friend" from your side, or is she just seeing you as providing a free service for her?

That’s pretty rude of her. I wouldn’t be able to ignore it.
To be honest it’s a huge imposition to park a car for 6 months.
I would take the opportunity to say sorry on reflection you won’t be able to help. Her friendship is no great loss, and you will have a spare spot for visitors builders etc.

Tell her arrangement is off. I do not see this ending well at all.

That ‘duly noted’ comment would have pissed me off if I was doing a friend a favour

Tell her to remove her shit heap off your land and find somewhere else to keep it , a good friend would never take liberties or disrespect you like that

This is very simple. Tell her to get over today and remove her car and don't come back. Don't be a doormat.

I think by the "fairly new friend" comment, she isn't really a friend, so I'd just text and say that the building work is more extensive than you previously thought so you can't let her use the space after all. You'll need it clear by the end of the week. I bet you never hear from the CF again.

She sounds like a massive pain in the arse.

Why? Just why? No excuses, no notice given.
"You've ignored what we agreed originally, and been rude, so the arrangement is over."
Then put something there to stop them taking the piss.

Hilarious that you're still letting her walk all over you.

She's not your friend.

Tell her their very first day broke the agreed rules for you helping her, so you're out. Car or cars cannot stay at yours.

Well, given her attitude and general behaviour I wouldn't want her as a friend. If you keep her as a friend this won't be the last time she treats you like this.

Tell her the arrangement is off and you get rid of the car and this new 'friend' all in one fell swoop; win, win.

I’d be texting her to say that after some thought you have realised this probably isn’t going to work for you, and so regretfully she’s going to have to make alternative arrangements. Seriously op, if they have ignored your perfectly reasonable conditions on the very first two visits, it’s only going to get worse from here.

I’d be telling her to find alternative arrangements. How rude!

Tell her she can't park there anymore because she's taking the piss.

Definitely end this arrangement. She is clearly going to continue to take the piss.

Use an excuse like your building works or just say the arrangement no longer works for you.

Bet she kicks off. Which will confirm she was always going to be a nightmare!

Seriously rude!
What happens if they say their car gets damaged on your property? Have you discussed this?
PersonLly I'd be telling them it's not as agreed so please seek parking elsewhere

No good turn goes unpunished....very true saying

When the daughter came back in the afternoon our builder had parked in the space. My friend phoned with an angry tone saying "someone is in our space" I said I'd ask him to move it and she hung up

But why on earth did you say you'd get the builder to move it ?

Surely you should have just said "You haven't got a space.
I said I would accommodate your hobby car being parked there as it wasn't going to move, and I also said it was important the dog wasn't in our garden. Already you have ignored both those requests, so it clearly isn't going to work - you will have to find somewhere else.