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Original poster

To be annoyed at this response? Parking related.

70 replies

Movinghouseatlast · 11/09/2022 15:24

I have a fairly new friend who is moving to the area temporarily

She asked me if they could park/store their classic ( hobby) car in my garden as they were scared to leave it on the road near where they will be living for the next 6 months.

I said yes with two provisos- that it wasn't a parking spot, so not coming and going, just leaving it there- they said they would just come and turn it over every few weeks. Also I said I didn't want their huge excitable dog in our garden as we have cats who are very afraid of dogs. She agreed.

The day before they were due to arrive she said they weren't bringing the classic car for another 3 weeks, could they put their small 2nd car there in the meantime? I said yes, thinking they just wanted to store it there, same arrangement as the classic car.

He husband arrived with the car, with absolutely no notice, and the dog bolted out of the car, running all over. Next day her daughter and her husband showed up to get the car for the daughter to go out for the day, again the husband had the dog with him, not on a lead.He walked home with the dog, so no need for this at all.

When the daughter came back in the afternoon our builder had parked in the space. My friend phoned with an angry tone saying "someone is in our space" I said I'd ask him to move it and she hung up. I was a bit shocked to be honest.

I then texted her to remind her about the dog. I was really nice about it. Her response really pissed me off. She replied "I consider myself duly ticked off!". I responded saying please tell all her family about not bringing the dog. She replied 'Duly noted'. I think the response is incredibly entitled and its made me bloody angry. I've not heard from her since.

It would cost her £50 a week to park this 2nd car on the road so she is saving that and she is being arsey! It also took us a whole day to clear the space for her ( which she knew).

We said yes because we wanted to help out and we thought it was no skin off our nose. She couldn't park it anywhere else really. I was kind of letting her off because she's stressed with the move, but her response has really annoyed me!

OP posts:
jeaux90 · 11/09/2022 16:16

Absolute piss taker. I wouldn't be tolerating that.

Original poster
Movinghouseatlast · 11/09/2022 16:16

Thanks all. I feel like I am being a doormat and being taken for granted and being a bit pathetic. If she had apologised I would feel differently.

Someone asked what's in it for me and I guess the answer is friendship. I have not that long moved here and know nobody. I've found it hard to make friends- I had one friend but she moved away after a few months.

It's also a really small community here- she knows lots of people bla bla. She has spent holidays here for many years. The other complication is her husband is a friend of a friend. So its awkward to tell them they can't park here, which I really want to do.

OP posts:
starfishmummy · 11/09/2022 16:17

Yanbu.

You agreed to a hobby car being stored there. I.e one that wouldn't be moving the whole time it was there, and what you have now is a car they will be using with all the inconvenience that brings. I'd nip this in the bud and tell them the arrangement is off, before they decide that they can squeeze both cars in.

VictoriaConcordiaCrescit · 11/09/2022 16:19

You need to retract your offer of any cars being stored at your house

It's turned into a shit storm and will only get worse

Your friend sounds like a cock end

EmmaH2022 · 11/09/2022 16:28

Well, if she knows lots of people in the community, one of them can help her out.

just say no, she has been very rude and disrespectful.

strawberry2017 · 11/09/2022 16:34

There's a reason she's asked you and not one of her so called many friends she already knows.
They have already worked out she's a complete Bitch.
Don't let her walk all over you. She is not the person you want as a friend.

dapsnotplimsolls · 11/09/2022 16:40

Where's the hobby car for the next 3 weeks?

MsRosley · 11/09/2022 16:41

Why are you taking this, OP? At absolutely the first sign of rudeness/piss taking, you should have told her to get stuffed.

arthurfowlermood · 11/09/2022 16:44

caffelattetogo · 11/09/2022 15:33

I'd text again, explaining that on refelection, it isn't working out and giving a time to move the car by.

This.

The absolute NECK of her.

TrashyPanda · 11/09/2022 16:53

EmmaH2022 · 11/09/2022 16:28

Well, if she knows lots of people in the community, one of them can help her out.

just say no, she has been very rude and disrespectful.

Excellent point

Mosso · 11/09/2022 17:04

Text and say the cats are upset with the dog smell, so can they collect the car and make alternative arrangements? Thanks

diddl · 11/09/2022 17:09

Tell her she is duly informed that the arrangement is off & she needs to get the car moved today.

diddl · 11/09/2022 17:11

How is friendship in this for you?

She doesn't seem to even like you!

MajorCarolDanvers · 11/09/2022 17:12

I don't think this arrangement / friendship is going to work

Fladdermus · 11/09/2022 17:21

Friendship at any price? Sod that. Tell her not to park on your property anymore. If she pushes back/wants to know why, tell her it's because they've been rude and are taking the piss.

CapMarvel · 11/09/2022 17:24

You are being used.

Tell her to move the car and sod off.

Peashoots · 11/09/2022 17:26

I can’t believe you’re still letting her leave her car there. Cheeky fucking bitch.
tell her to get rid of her car before it finds itself towed away.

woodhill · 11/09/2022 17:34

Just awful of her

Hopefully the car will move again and you can block her coming back with the builders van etc

mam0918 · 11/09/2022 17:40

"someone is in our space"

I would reply:

'sorry to here that, if you are paying or own the space Im sure the police or landlorn can help. I'll take this as notice that you now have a space that belongs to you so you will no longer need the use my property'

LookItsMeAgain · 11/09/2022 17:55

InsertPunHere · 11/09/2022 15:40

“The agreement was your hobby car being stored here with no comings and going’s, and dog not allowed. That’s not what has happened, so I’m afraid that just doesn’t work for us.”

This! Completely this.

WhereYouLeftIt · 11/09/2022 18:19

Movinghouseatlast · 11/09/2022 16:16

Thanks all. I feel like I am being a doormat and being taken for granted and being a bit pathetic. If she had apologised I would feel differently.

Someone asked what's in it for me and I guess the answer is friendship. I have not that long moved here and know nobody. I've found it hard to make friends- I had one friend but she moved away after a few months.

It's also a really small community here- she knows lots of people bla bla. She has spent holidays here for many years. The other complication is her husband is a friend of a friend. So its awkward to tell them they can't park here, which I really want to do.

"It's also a really small community here- she knows lots of people bla bla" - and not one of them could store her car for her? How ... odd. Maybe they've all got the measure of her already and know she's a cheeky fucker / user and said not to her. As for the husband being friend of a friend - so what? Really, truly - so what?

"She asked me if they could park/store their classic ( hobby) car in my garden as they were scared to leave it on the road near where they will be living for the next 6 months."
You agreed to that, not to her current dicking about. (And frankly, she could hire a garage for that kind of car, most people don't want their precious toy car exposed to the elements.) I would text her that she needs to move her 2nd car from your garden pronto, as it's presence is disruptive and that was not what you agreed to. And also that she needs to make other arrangements for the hobby car. I wouldn't even give her a 'why' for the hobby car, because let's face it - she'll know why.

godmum56 · 11/09/2022 18:28

why are you even posting on here? You know what to do and you know what she is like.

TheGoodEnoughWife · 11/09/2022 18:29

She is a CF. I bet those many friends of hers also know she is a CF and have stopped helping her.

Just be nice but firm. The arrangement doesn't work for you anymore.

iamjustwinginglife · 11/09/2022 19:15

She is not your friend-she is using you

Where is the car now?

Von19 · 11/09/2022 19:20

Tell her to park her bloody cars elsewhere.