To be annoyed at this response? Parking related.

[Movinghouseatlast]

I have a fairly new friend who is moving to the area temporarily

She asked me if they could park/store their classic ( hobby) car in my garden as they were scared to leave it on the road near where they will be living for the next 6 months.

I said yes with two provisos- that it wasn't a parking spot, so not coming and going, just leaving it there- they said they would just come and turn it over every few weeks. Also I said I didn't want their huge excitable dog in our garden as we have cats who are very afraid of dogs. She agreed.

The day before they were due to arrive she said they weren't bringing the classic car for another 3 weeks, could they put their small 2nd car there in the meantime? I said yes, thinking they just wanted to store it there, same arrangement as the classic car.

He husband arrived with the car, with absolutely no notice, and the dog bolted out of the car, running all over. Next day her daughter and her husband showed up to get the car for the daughter to go out for the day, again the husband had the dog with him, not on a lead.He walked home with the dog, so no need for this at all.

When the daughter came back in the afternoon our builder had parked in the space. My friend phoned with an angry tone saying "someone is in our space" I said I'd ask him to move it and she hung up. I was a bit shocked to be honest.

I then texted her to remind her about the dog. I was really nice about it. Her response really pissed me off. She replied "I consider myself duly ticked off!". I responded saying please tell all her family about not bringing the dog. She replied 'Duly noted'. I think the response is incredibly entitled and its made me bloody angry. I've not heard from her since.

It would cost her £50 a week to park this 2nd car on the road so she is saving that and she is being arsey! It also took us a whole day to clear the space for her ( which she knew).

We said yes because we wanted to help out and we thought it was no skin off our nose. She couldn't park it anywhere else really. I was kind of letting her off because she's stressed with the move, but her response has really annoyed me!

What's a CF?
I'm new to this.

Nope wouldn't have it hate people taking advantage of a situation gifted to them

She’s proven she’s willing to take the piss.

Say you’ve changed your mind and don’t let her do it

I think it's cheeky fucker-and if it isn't, it should be!

Lol
That's what I thought
Thanks

I know it’s hard but you want nice friends not friends like these.

you’ve done them a favour and been treated horribly in return. Tell them to kindly find a new spot to park.

real friends would be grateful and respect you.

Is your friend Amanda from motherland? Yes I agree get her out before the hobby car arrives unless you want stuff like this for the next few years- I bet they will want to leave the hobby car there indefinitely or move another car in. Think of an excuse- neighbour has complained, patio looks unsafe, need builders to park. But yes end the arrangement ASAP!

My favourite Mumsnet one is FOTTFSOFATFOSM 😂😂

Omg way beyond me😊

OP we got ourselves in a similar situation agreeing to let a neighbour park in our drive. To cut a long story short, she did so with less & less consideration for us as time went by so in the end we brought the arrangement to an end.... and she was SO angry, indignant & entitled in response! I learnt a real lesson from that episode

Something to do with a step mother?

@Movinghouseatlast you know what you have to do - you just need to find the strength to do it. You’ll be fine - she’ll be pissed off, but if you’re not a total CF then you don’t have this kind of issue.

good luck!!

Fuck off to the far side of fuck then fuck off some more

"It's also a really small community here- she knows lots of people bla bla" - and not one of them could store her car for her? How ... odd. Maybe they've all got the measure of her already and know she's a cheeky fucker / user and said not to her. As for the husband being friend of a friend - so what? Really, truly - so what?

The above is a really good point. If she's so widely known and popular, why did she pick on you?

You can do without "friends" like this. In fact, refusing to be her doormat might improve your standing in the community; who knows how many other bridges she's already burned. You don't want to be lumped in with her kind.

of course!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

thanks!

They're not friends, they're taking advantage of you!

Put a lock on the gate (and block) if you weren't helping them would they bother with you?

Someone beat me to it! Yes! FOTTFSOFATFOSM- not sure how it came about but it's fab!

It's only as awkward as you make it for yourself. Fairly new friend? Then you've not invested that many years in the friendship that you can't live without her. Her response and attitude shows what little respect she has for you. You don't just think you are being used, you ARE being used. If this is how she speaks directly to you just imagine the things she must be saying about you behind your back.

Based on the OP, I think the CF has the hide of a rhino and the OP is a bit of a people-pleaser, so while I agree that just tell her to fuck off and move her car is appropriate, I don’t see it happening. So, it’s better just to make up an excuse and be done with it.

I agree with the others though that she has form for behaving like this and only befriended you because she saw you as an easy target. You need to put a stop to it now because there will be more requests coming.

Please say no.