AIBU?
To think a lot of people assume everyone is tall?
SleepDreamThinkHuge · 11/09/2022 08:23
I have noticed that people seem to think everyone is tall. In their definition they see "tall" as 6 foot or over for men and over 5 foot 7 for women. But in reality, that is not the case. In the UK, someone who is 6 foot (man) is
Am I being unreasonable?
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TheSpringyGuyAndTheCheeseEater · 11/09/2022 22:51
CoastalWave · 11/09/2022 15:00
I'm 5'2. Everyone IS tall compared to me.
Really don't like it tbh. It does affect friendships as I simply can't be friends with someone who is towering over me - feels like some sort of weird power trip. I avoid making friends with women over 5.6 - just being honest!
This is hilarious! You really need to deal with that inferiority complex and stop projecting it onto people who may be perfectly nice!
VioletInsolence · 11/09/2022 22:53
MistyGreenAndBlue · 11/09/2022 08:42
Anatomy is destiny.
The whole world is designed for the "average height man" which almost nobody is. Especially women of course, but also many men I guess.
I hate being short. I can't reach ANYTHING.
But you’ve got more space…imagine what it must be like for someone really tall, having their head near the ceiling. Or banging their heads on low doorframes. Or not having enough space for their legs!
TooManyMoronsHere · 11/09/2022 23:01
SleepDreamThinkHuge · 11/09/2022 08:41
I am saying that the reality is different than the perception some people may have. Just because you or I have people in our family that are over 6 foot does not mean that is the average. Not to mention other factors also play a part e.g. ethnicity, nationality etc. And height is more relative. So if you are a 5 foot woman someone who is 5 foot 6 (man) will be tall for you. But if you are a 5 foot 10 woman you might think that someone who is 6 foot (man) is not tall for you.
Nope, sorry, you're talking absolute waffle.
I am 5ft 2. My family are all short. I have no misconception about what is an average or tall height just because I am short. A lot of my friends are the same height as me so my "circle" as you put it also hasn't skewed my opinion on height either. I still know that we are below average height and I would class a woman as 5ft7+ and a 6ft+ man as tall, and I like tall men. Just because I'm short doesn't make me an idiot with no perspective of height!
MrsToothyBitch · 11/09/2022 23:25
midgetastic · 11/09/2022 08:54
I think someone born in the 90s is on average 2 cm taller than someone born in the 50s
Which when it comes to fashion may affect choices
My mum- who was born in the 50s is an inch or so taller than me, born in the 90s. One of my many aesthetic failings in her eyes, I'm sure. We have different styles but often make the same adjustments to clothes etc- presumably because we're a similar height the same things annoy us.
TheSpringyGuyAndTheCheeseEater · 12/09/2022 00:33
MintJulia · 11/09/2022 23:30
Yanbu.
My first house, I fitted out and thought it was perfect until dfriend came to stay and pointed out that she couldn't see in the bathroom mirror.
I'm 5'8, my family are all 5'6" - 6'3". Dfriend is 5'1" For some weird reason I just hadn't noticed.
I had the opposite experience. There is a fitted "full length" mirror in my bedroom. But the previous owner was so small that I can only see my shoulders and downwards. It works both ways.
It took me a while to figure out why that mirror was placed there as it seemed so oddly positioned. Then I met the previous owner - lovely lady - and I realised what had happened.
J0y · 12/09/2022 07:37
That sounds right. Im 5'1" and I feel small but not freakishly so. I feel like "most" women aren't very tall. Feel like "most" women are average so therefore I don't feel that small. I know that feelings aren't facts but .... luckily it's some defence mechanism. Probably similar to women of 5'9 say I'm not that tall.
Fizbosshoes · 12/09/2022 08:12
VioletInsolence · 11/09/2022 22:53
But you’ve got more space…imagine what it must be like for someone really tall, having their head near the ceiling. Or banging their heads on low doorframes. Or not having enough space for their legs!
MistyGreenAndBlue · 11/09/2022 08:42
Anatomy is destiny.
The whole world is designed for the "average height man" which almost nobody is. Especially women of course, but also many men I guess.
I hate being short. I can't reach ANYTHING.
As someone very short I recognise there are some pros and cons to being tall or short. Some of my grievances are cafes etc where the counter is about the height of my nose, being the same height as primary school children , often being pushed in front of because someone "didn't see me" , having less peripheral vision in a car because I am not at correct height.
However the pluses are occassionally I can buy kids clothes (plain stuff like leggings or plain tshirts I don't want top with a uunion on it) Kids shoes are much cheaper, having leg room on a train or plane and as someone shy, "disappearing" in a crowd when people are taking photos or asking for volunteers! And I don't think I've ever had to "mind your head" in my life! 🤣
All the average sized people don't know how lucky they are!
DeoForty · 12/09/2022 09:05
I got accused of being vertically challenged yesterday. I am 5'4. My weight has varied greatly though my adult life, and my (lack) of height is only ever mentioned when I am thinner, which I think is proof that it's to do with perception. The reality is my height is as average at 10 stone as it is at 15. But I guess the overall perception is of being 'small'.
AloysiusBear · 12/09/2022 09:11
Its age dependent.
The average heights among younger people are higher than older, due to both poorer nutrition stunting growth in the past and the tendency for old people to lose height.
I am 37, DH and his friends are mostly 6ft and over, whereas my father and his generation it was much more normal to be about 5ft 9 or 10.
OneTC · 12/09/2022 09:20
VioletInsolence · 11/09/2022 22:53
But you’ve got more space…imagine what it must be like for someone really tall, having their head near the ceiling. Or banging their heads on low doorframes. Or not having enough space for their legs!
MistyGreenAndBlue · 11/09/2022 08:42
Anatomy is destiny.
The whole world is designed for the "average height man" which almost nobody is. Especially women of course, but also many men I guess.
I hate being short. I can't reach ANYTHING.
I definitely get the advantages. I can sit cross legged in economy. But I go on a plane once every few years. I have to ask bemused looking people to get me stuff down in the supermarket about once a week 
i can duck under things, and fit into smaller twistier holes, but again it's of limited opportunity compared to using a chopping board at chest height, or not being able to scrape the middle of your windscreen without climbing up.
overall though I do like being small, it's a big part of my identity, the sport I do it's actually kind of an advantage because I have a very good body weight to strength ratio
Fluffygreenslippers · 12/09/2022 09:25
Yeah I’m only 5.8” but when I used to travel by tube I’d stand up and be taller than 90% of women and 50% of the men. I had some people basically having a go at me over on my other thread as I described the hospital beds as too short for me-but they were! 🤣
Insertdeadcatsnamehere · 12/09/2022 12:15
It's all relative though isn't it? I'm 5ft9 and don't feel tall but then most of my female relatives and a few friends are 5ft11 plus. Also don't usually feel tall in a crowd but then half of any crowd are probably men and a similar height or taller. Maybe I need shorter friends?!
Wouldloveanother · 12/09/2022 13:55
BashfulClam · 12/09/2022 13:21
I’m 5’9’’ and I think so many people are small compared to me. I actually texted my husband the other day as a lot of football fans in the local city centre were smaller than me, mostly blokes.
I bet they’re all 5’11 on their dating profiles mind!
Penguinsaregreat · 12/09/2022 13:57
I’m average height but nearly all trousers are too long for me. Bizarrely I use to find dresses were often far too short or trailing along the floor.
I love the recent trend for longer length but not floor length. I’m happy with midi length as I know it will be fine on me.
HundredMilesAnHour · 12/09/2022 15:39
I'm just waiting the service in Edinburgh for the Queen and thinking that Nicola Sturgeon should have stood on a box for her reading as she's rather short for that lecturn she's using. They seem to have changed the camera angle so she isn't quite so obscured.
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