DP just left me to walk home on my own

[bagpuss90]

So DP and I have been out today . I had already mentioned that I had to pop in and feed my daughters cats as shes away tonight .So we got a cab to my daughters and we were going to walk to mine from there-it’s about a 15-20 minute walk -some of it is quite isolated past woods etc. it was also dark by now. So i left him outside my daughters and said I’d only be 5 mins or so in my her place and I’d catch him up-but to walk slowly and wait for me anyway. So fed the cats, left my daughters -no sign of him. Called him and he said he was about five mins from mine. I’m streetwise , I’m confident -but aibu here to think he shouldn’t have shot off like that?Im at mine now-he’s been he's been here for a while and he can’t see why I’m pissed off with him!

I still stand by the fact that my own partner wouldn't let me walk through woodland on my own at night, even if I had given instruction (albeit confusingly) to go on ahead.

He wouldn't let' you? Even if you told him to? So his ego and macho man act is more important than listening and respecting you? Fuck that.

Also, 'past woods', not 'through woodland'.

But then the Op would have written a different post - ‘I told my dp to set off home and I’d catch him up, but he didn’t, he waited for me. Should I LTB?’

Yes, it's a wonder he let's me out of the kitchen some days.

Sorry frightening as that was, if you want him to wait; ask him to wait. It’s not that you’re being unreasonable, you’re just being unclear.

Glad you got home safely

xxxxx

I would be a little ticked off cause I would think he would have waited regardless. My ex would e done some shot like this. He didn’t give a crap about my safety.

YABU

You told him to go ahead and you’d catch up on a 15-20 minute walk. It was a given you’d be 10 -15 minutes by the tine you went in an fed them etc so it was obvious he’d be home.

I am unsure why you didn’t just ask him to wait outside for you to walk together.

YABVU

@Shz @Moreorlessmentallystable I think she got that she’s being unreasonable since this was posted in September.

If you got a cab to your daughters could you not have got one home?

Cabs are available for all the posters who say 'people say get a cab but they haven’t been invented in my area'

D'oh zombie! Sorry

I really wonder at some people on MN at times, giving hardcore advice when they're likely soft as butter in real life and would hate their partner doing certain things they say are ok on an anonymous site. Some of you are just here to dig your claws in the minute a woman is upset about something.

Even if he'd gone ahead DP would wait for me, no way would he leave me to walk home alone past woods/isolation at night. If I'm slightly delayed then he'll wait along the way. I'm his lifepartner not a stranger. & we're going to the same place.

I wouldn't have to think about wording things so very specifically in order that he wait to walk home at night with me. What's with implying men are so thick that unless you spell out something exactly, they've no initiative and intuition? They're not children. I think most decent men would have the courtesy to wait for a bit and not leave partner to walk home alone at night its not difficult is it?

I don't blame you for being pissed off OP, what's wrong with your partner that he felt he couldn't wait? Does he lack patience? Panic if he has to God forbid walk slowly for some reason? Glad you got home safely anyway.

Agree with riseabove, , he should of hung around as it was dark.

Hopefully, given that it happened in September last year, op and her DP have worked through this already.