Men can’t look or find anything themselves

[Thesesoundsfallintomymind]

Is it only me?!

Dh drives me insane with asking where everything is, if I say I don’t know, he says ‘Well you had it last’ or something…he never just looks for things properly.
I feel like shouting ‘Just fucking look for it!’

Why am I the holder of all
things 😫

Your man can’t. Men are not one homogeneous group.

My husband messaged me at work to ask where the tin opener was

The running joke in our house is that DH is incapable of finding something unless it is directly in front of him. If it involves lifting something up or moving something to find it, it will be lost forever.

If he dares ask me where something is, my answer is always 'Have you picked something up?'

This. Dh is pretty good at not asking me for anything. My ds on the other hand.

Just say what my friend now says to her partner "where you left it/them".

I must admit I ask DH all the time 'where's my X' - he usually knows...

I also ask him what the weather's like before we're about to go out so I know which coat to put on. I know he has as much information as me but I can't help it! I think I'm the annoying one 😕

Dh is the same

Frigging nightmare

It's because they Man Scan and don't actually 'look'

Oh, 'man looking' is definitely a thing. With a husband and two teenage sons, I am the only person who can ever find anything. Unless, of course they open a door and said item hits them squarely on the nose... Otherwise it's just not there 🙄

My DH seems unable to spot something if it’s 10cm from where he keeps it. I seem unable to go into a cupboard without moving things around without realizing.

It’s a wonderful confluence of two otherwise innocuous “issues.”

As with so many things, obviously it's not all men, and it's not only men.
But it's a common enough observation .... finding stuff is often one of those 'womens mental load' type of things. Or maybe 'mums mental load'...

My usual response is 'I'll come and help you look for it after I've finished what I'm doing'. When DD was a teenager, I'd also focus her mind by adding '... and if I can find your thing easily, I'll be cross....'

Don't get me started on this. It drives me up the fucking wall!

"You've lived in this house for 5 BASTARD YEARS, you KNOW where the such-&-such lives ffs!!"

What he means is "go fetch me the such-&-such because I'm a lazy twat and an entitled shit who thinks my wife should fetch and carry for me"

In our house it’s called ‘Man Eyes’… he will spend forever looking for something but often it’s right in front of him and can’t see it. Unfortunately my son is the same 🤦‍♀️

It’s alllll the time…today asking where Dds drinks bottle is, it can’t be far, will be somewhere in the house, I can’t remember precisely where it is or where she’s put it…LOOK! 🙈

On thé other hand, when the plumbing, electrics, Ethernet or satellite broadband go wrong DH is generally able to find immediately where to shut it off, where the tools are to fix it, what to do and how to correctly get it turned on today.

After a month with no water pressure and five different plumbing firms attending our neighbour asked him a while back if he’d ever had the same problem. He asked her to set the pressure-reducing valve behind the hot water tank to a certain level, which immediately fixed the problem.

Yes, along with "Somebody's moved it". That somebody would be you.

Casual sexism and stereotyping is funny!

Women can't park. It' s funny because it's true!

Yeah it’s called a man look in our house. And if I can’t find something it’s because I’ve also had a man look. Which is totally allowed.

My husband is the finder in our house, I couldn't function without him. He must get very annoyed.

Yup I've got a DH like this and an adult DS. We've been in this house for 30 years (well 25 for DS). I'm afraid they both get the 'it's wherever you left it ' or 'in it's usual place" response now.

Yeh, all those cars just abandoned in the road everywhere.

Dh is very much ‘man scan’. We’ve had cats for 30 years, and have always had at least one litter tray indoors. Five years ago I changed them for hooded ones with an integral lid for easy cleaning. Dh cleans the trays at least once per day. ….. it’s taken him 5 years to discover they don’t need the hood taking off to scoop the poop, that there is flip roof lid for that purpose…..
Every day is a learning day in this household.

Sounds very much like the DCs, not DH here. Utterly incapable of looking beyond the end of their noses!!

Yep they can't see things, it's proven. We call it a Laura-look (that's not my name but you get the picture) when I then have to "find" it. Read - get it from the obvious place it's been put since the dawn of time, that he has already looked in.

He does really really look, he's not lazy, he spends ages looking for things and hates asking me, it's just one of life's great annoyances. He does get embarrassed about it.

Can't say that's all men, some ARE just lazy.

Sorry that last line really tickled me