To ask if you hate being called hun?

[Roarlikeme]

Or lovely or something else?

YANBU - I don’t mind/I call people this myself

YABU - I hate it

I see it as a term of... something between affection and solidarity, for women who belong to a particular culture. Its intended to be inviting I feel, so I don't mind it at all.

Exactly. Most people who use these terms of endearment are strangers or, at most, acquaintances and should not be using the terms, IMO. I find it intrusive. They’re the same people who try and hug relative strangers and don’t pick up on the social cues that they’re making people uncomfortable.

I like hearing it and using it between close friends, but it would get my back up if a stranger used it with me in an attempt to be overly-familiar.

I couldn't care less and I don't really understand why people get so wound up by it to the point that it makes them angry.

I don't use terms of endearment myself apart from to my dh and children, but I honestly haven't got the headspace to get wound up by other people using them.

Calling people chavs, thick, threatening to knock people teeth out over silly harmless words is way over the top.

I think this is what I object to when it comes to the word - classism. Just because a culture is different to yours, why does it make it bad? Genuine question.
I don't use "pal" but my Scottish friend calls me that and I don't mind, she uses different colloquialisms because she's from a different culture.

I don’t mind friends calling me it or other terms of endearment (within reason). Don’t like babes or darling for some reason but can’t say why. They just grate more than the others.

But I really dislike strangers calling me any term of endearment unless it’s gender neutral such as “mate”. Never called anyone out on it though - I accept it’s just part of British life.

Listen we all know you love to argue to toss - but no one has meant Hun as in an ethnic slur since probably the First World War, and regardless of accent hun/hon sound the same when spoken.

Anyway, back to the question - I don’t mind if the person is older than me. When people younger than me use it, it sounds patronising. Having said that, I moved to the NW 20 years ago and I remember it bothered me a lot then. Now, I couldn’t even tell you the last time someone used it.

I don't mind overmuch. I use other terms & no-one's threatened to flatten me! :-)
Not thrilled with having my name shortened, but never say anything!

Yep. Especially when someone younger is calling me it.

Usually I'm quite snarky but I find it makes people think about (and hopefully question) defaulting everything to male

Like "oh look at that little frog, he is so cute!"

"Oh, how can you tell it is a male? Are there distinguishing characteristics you can point out to me?"

I think you would drive me insane! Absolutely agree. We have colleague like this and you can hear the teens mutter " ffs" all the time when he us doing a session with them.
( we are too tbh!)

Hate it. Judge people who use it. I’m quite an easy going person about lots of other things but hun just grates!

Defiantly hun

Haha, exactly.

Hate hun.
Have no issue with various other things such as ‘love’ or whatever.
Hun just sounds so insincere to me.

Depends who does it and how often, but generally speaking if used legitimately it I either tolerate it or it annoys me.

So I don't love it.

UNLESS it is used ironically. There's a Instagram page called Hunsnet (wonder where they got that from 😉) which is essentially an homage to hun culture. Me and my friends absolutely love it, and we jokingly call each other hun.

I don't mind endearments like this in spoken words, but I absolutely hate it in written form. My Friend never uses words like that when speaking to me, but any text or facebook comment she writes she calls me 'hun' numerous times. I think I hate it because she uses it even more when she's cancelling at the last minute yet again. 'Hi hun so so sorry hun but gonna have to cancel hun, got so much to do today hun'. She has so much to do yet finds the time to write 4 extra words.

A term used in my experience by people with "live love laugh" wall stickers and who love "to the moon and back" or "to bits". Salt of the earth and wear their heart on their sleeves. Bless.

No one EVER calls me 'hun' or 'babe'. Not ever. They all know better.

I don't particularly like any terms of endearment; hun, love, pet etc. I can tolerate them when used occasionally. I had a patient recently, every single question I asked him in the consultation was answered followed by sweetheart or darlin'. It drove me crazy!

I think the only time I've ever used such terms are with my dogs or, when I was working as a midwife and the new baby didn't yet have a name and I was doing something to the baby (eg changing the nappy as mum couldn't yet manage it) and would talk directly to the baby telling them what I was doing. I used sweetie a lot.

It depends - people my own age, can’t stand it at all . When it’s also clearly very false or as part of MLM marketing shit - nope ….

However I do know someone older than me that always calls me sweetie, lovie or honeybunch and I love it 😳 it’s very comforting !!!

I can't stand hun. It really grates on my nerves. However I do have a habit of calling everyone "lovely" which is probably just as annoying.

I never call anyone 'hun' or 'babe' but don't take offence if people use those words when talking to me. I could be called much worse

Yes, it’s fucking dreadful.

Honestly? I find the hatred of “hun” on here kind of classist. It’s almost exclusively the younger / working class women I know that use it and I really dislike the idea of a bunch of middle class mumsnetters sneering at them! I don’t tend to use it personally, but I’m happy to take it in the friendly tone that it’s meant.

Oh, I absolutely LOVE being called 'lovely'. I wish he were still around to do it 🙏