To ask if you hate being called hun?

[Roarlikeme]

Or lovely or something else?

YANBU - I don’t mind/I call people this myself

YABU - I hate it

No, she meant 'hun' because that's the spelling used by hundreds of thousands of people on the internet to mean 'honey'.

Despite the 'hun' ethnic slur and its history, I'm absolutely sure you know what the OP means.

I quite like it oddly. I also don't mind being called 'love,' 'sweetheart,' 'darlin,' or 'duck' by men. (Usually 'duck' where I'm from!) I don't get the loathing for 'hun.' I call women I don't know 'hun' occasionally when I'm out. 'after you hun' 'sorry hun.' I think it's sweet. JMHO! (huns!)

Yes it IS 'hon' but people spell it 'hun' as it's more phonetic... And no-one means anything racist by it. Good Lord. Talk about reaching @Discovereads Get a grip!

My neighbour often calls females 'sweedart'.
I judge him for that and for many other things.

😂

Nobody has ever been stupid enough to call me 'hun'.

Perfectly normal here in East London.

Most elderly women call everyone sweedart 😂

It’s not a “reach” when someone posts a correctly spelled ethnic slur that means an uncivilised savage and asks in faux innocence if anyone minds being called it. I wasn’t 100% sure what the OP mean from their OP tbh.

Also “hon” is more phonetic as short for “honey” than “hun” unless you’re barely literate. I don’t care if hundreds of thousands of people are unintentionally mis-spelling hon as hun, it still doesn’t make it right to do so and it’s doubly offensive to use the word hun in such a manner.

Imagine using anything other ethnic slur in such a way.

I dot think anyone's called me hun, ever. What does that say about me?

They're not doing it unintentionally.

As a PP said, it's just the phonetic way.

And most are aware it's a racist slur in Scotland, but used differently outside of it.

I don't hate it. I say it sometimes. Sometimes people, usually women, call me it.

I don't understand why people would hate being called Hun/babes/chick etc. They're terms of endearment. There's much worse things in the word than someone referring to you in a nice way like this.

It’s often used to patronise/snark e.g. “you do you hun”.

”Lovely” is used differently, and is a genuine term of endearment, though I expect it’ll get turned in time.

I’ve been called worse tbh. I couldn’t get myself worked up to ‘hate’ something that’s said in a kind tone with food intentions.

It’s not phonetic though. The h-o-n in honey doesn’t sound at all like h-u-n.
Its rather like arguing when we say ‘mum’ it’s “phonetic” for “mommy” when we don’t say “mommy” like Americans do, we say mummy. You can’t change a vowel from an o to a u and pretend you’re keeping the phonetics the same.

I hate it, and babes

They are the only two pet type names I hate. I dont use any myself, dont even call anyone darling or anything like that, never have

But god I hate 'hun'. Irrationally probably

I hate "hun".

One of the Mums called me "babe" the other day and I didn't know where to look.

Another one that pisses me off is "lovely". "Hi lovely". I work with a girl who says this in the most high pitched, false tone and it just goes through me.

It’s not phonetic though. The h-o-n in honey doesn’t sound at all like h-u-n.

You understand that people speak with different accents though right?

The h-o-n in honey sounds exactly like h-u-n where I come from and where many others come from too.

Personally I am not a fan. But everyone who has ever used it in my vicinity has meant it kindly. So I keep my trap shut.

Actually, I don't mind elderly ladies or even gentlemen calling me sweedart.
I do still judge this neighbour though.
🙂

I don't mind so much when it's a verbal habit for someone ( there's no point making a fuss about such things) but I find it really annoying when people address me as 'hun' in marketing communications. That is irritatingly over-familiar and will instantly set my mind to never buying from that company again.

Absolutely loathe it. When OLD, if a person I'm just generally texting with calls me hun or babe, I reply, 'don't call me that, there's a good boy' then block.

I'm 51. I'm no one's hun or babe!

Hun is as bad as hubby 🤢

I hate it. My friend of more than 40 years calls me it, but only in text messages. If she called me it in person I would probably say something.
I have a relative who refers to her GC as babby. It makes my teeth itch

Absolutely hate hun, not bothered by anything else

I hate being called chick. Really not sure why it grates on me so much.