To ask if you hate being called hun?

[Roarlikeme]

Or lovely or something else?

YANBU - I don’t mind/I call people this myself

YABU - I hate it

Totes babes.

It's a term of endearment, there are worse things to be called.

I love it. Helps me filter out the numpties in the same way that owning a Live Laugh Love wall plaque does.

I sometimes called people 'chuck', as in thanks chuck.
Is that bad?

I like any term of endearment. I wouldn't mind Hun (though the spelling does grate) but I can't remember anyone calling me that actually. I like being called love, lovely, sweetheart, etc. Especially by random strangers. I think it sounds warm and affectionate.

What I hate is men saying mate. It always sounds aggressive or at least I've only heard it being said aggressively.

My DH calls everyone mate 😂 I do quite often too. I think it’s because we’re not really familiar people - I’d only call a relative babe or honey or something, but if we’re trying to be friendly/forge a relationship ‘mate’ seems friendly without being too much.

I like any term of endearment, which is surprising, because I am generally not a sentimental sort.

I don’t mine being called hun, chick , duck/ducky - it’s just a habit some people have (my DH included) and isn’t meant to be offensive, quite the opposite!
I don’t use these terms though except to my DC who I call sweetie/ monkey .

Hate it, it's a chav word.

To be fair, I've been called worse...😁

I hate it! It really puts me off people when they call me hun.

It really doesn't bother me but as with a lot of things context is everything.
One of the women at my work says it and it's not meant to be patronising or condescending. She will say things like ' Hi Hun did you have a nice weekend?" Nothing wrong with at at all.
I cant get wound up over 'love' ' babe' and all the other words that are used as long as they arent meant to be disrespectful.
Years ago I would have. Perhaps I've mellowed.🤷‍♀️

Yes, I'd rather be called love than hun. Babes is awful too.

I despise being called hun and I equally despise when women replace full stops or question marks with kisses.

"How are you hun kiss kiss kiss"

Instantly makes me feel like they're simpletons and they usually turn out to be, actually.

I don't know where this trend came from but it is just dumb.

Absolutely hate it. I object to being called a "guy" as well.

What I hate is men saying mate. It always sounds aggressive or at least I've only heard it being said aggressively.
You dont live near me then!
It's used all the time where I'm from. Eg ''hiya mate, how y' doin' " nothing aggressive about that at all. BTW the answer is always " not so bad, you?" Even if you are at death's door!🤣

Hate being called Hun.
My husband does it to wind me up all the time. You okay hun? Fuck off.

I’m not a big fan, but it depends on who it comes from.

I am a Scots Catholic of Irish extraction so it's a no from me, Brucie.

I know the word has different meanings/connotations elsewhere, but that's not what I think of when I see the word.

I don't really care what people call me! 🙃I'm always more bothered by the tone and intent of speech than the actual words used.

Me too! In the 90s, people said "guys and gals" and it got shortened to just "guys". When people use it, I usually take the time to find an opportunity to say "hi lasses!" And if anyone questions it, I say it is a gender neutral term, like "guys". Usually I'm quite snarky but I find it makes people think about (and hopefully question) defaulting everything to male.

Like "oh look at that little frog, he is so cute!"

"Oh, how can you tell it is a male? Are there distinguishing characteristics you can point out to me?"

Really grinds my gears.

And yes, I am fun at parties!

At 45 years of age, I am sick of how backwards society is going in regards to female visibility and inclusion.

I cannot bear it.

Also, call me babe and see what happens. I dare you...........

Most people type hun.

I hate it.

Its the false intimacy that gets me. Just use my name (or ask what my name is!)

Usually I'm quite snarky but I find it makes people think about (and hopefully question) defaulting everything to male.

Like "oh look at that little frog, he is so cute!"

"Oh, how can you tell it is a male? Are there distinguishing characteristics you can point out to me?"

I think you would drive me insane!