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My best friend is really starting to annoy me, I really don’t want to resent her, help

56 replies

libradancerxx · 09/09/2022 15:53

I saw a similar thread on here , I’m significantly younger than that posted tho. I’m 27.
with her for about 2 years before.

My best friend is really starting to annoy me. I’ve known her for ten years.
Her way of relating to life is very different from mine but lately she has changed because she started taking Prozac and idk what happened. She’s become a lot more anxious than usual, a lot more clingy; and I don’t like this new version of her.

She’s always been
the calmer one. I’ve always been the anxiety ridden one.

And then what really makes me mad is how uppity she acts sometimes.

She lives at home, I do too. Her parents are super rich, I’m middle class. She has everything paid for basically and just works cuz she wants pocket money. I need to actually work to pay off my own bills because were not rich and my mom is a single mom (my dad died). It’s hard not to compare our lives . I know I shouldn’t. But she has just had it way easier in life and sometimes it really gets to me.

She is obsessed with getting married. I’ve had a few relationships that ended badly, she hasn’t had any relationships and she wants one very badly. It gives me the ick so bad. I don’t think girls should be despo for a man ever, in her life. I get that you wanna get married I do too, but she really goes on rants and it depresses me. I don’t like comparing my life to others but she makes it hard not to. I stopped going on Instagram for this reason and I told her to stay away from IG if she doesn’t wanna feel like this but she doesn’t listen.

I guess I’m a lot more harder than her because life has given me the short end of the stick compared to her life. So whenevr she complains about something money related or anything really I just roll my eyes in my head so hard.

For example her dad paid her way through college with no loans. I had to take out student loans and I had pell grant for one year. I got the student loan forgiveness from Biden and it feels like she got jealous of that (?)

We were both employed at one company for a while. They laid
me off and kept her on, she got a promotion.

She’s a really hard worker so I give her that.

But she has REALLY CHANGED. After taking Prozac. She is this bubbly person who has anxiety now. I’m not used to it, she’s never been like that. She over thinks everything now.

We’ve been texting everyday this week and today she asks me why I’m being so quiet ? Dude I have a job and we’ve texted every day multiple times a day.

We’re meeting up tomorrow and she has already asked if we can get brunch in the next couple of weeks!!!

I’m lowkey hating this. I don’t like this.
I’m 27F she’s 27F.
I know I shouldn’t compare our lives because I have things in my life she doesn’t have. But it’s so hard not to be bitter. Some people are truly lucky people.

OP posts:
DickDarstedly · 09/09/2022 15:57

Friends are people you have things in common with and who you like.

You are obviously not compatible as friends. Find someone different to be friends with and stop ranting about her. She can’t help who she is.

Haus1234 · 09/09/2022 16:04

You don’t like that she’s developed anxiety and she wants to see you twice in 2-3 weeks? You sound like such a great friend Hmm

NovaDeltas · 09/09/2022 16:13

27 and she's had no relationships? Clearly her weirdness and unlikeable qualities are there for all to see.

She sounds pretty boring. You've clearly outgrown her. I agree you can just drift apart.

Penguinsaregreat · 09/09/2022 16:17

Well despite having plenty of cash and not having to work for a living she has never had a boyfriend. That says a lot.
Don’t rush to reply to her if it’s bothering you.
Leave it. Cone back to her messages once you are relaxed and want to.

YelloCar · 09/09/2022 16:18

But it’s so hard not to be bitter. Some people are truly lucky people.
You’ve described a person who has anxiety and loneliness as ‘lucky’...

Viostep · 09/09/2022 16:19

You clearly don't like her so you're free to end the friendship. You seem a little jealous though and resent her complaining about anything because she has money? It's also quite sad that resent that she became depressed and anxious because that's your "thing". If she is on prozac then she is tackling her mental health issues and trying to do something about it.

It seems you were happy to be her friend during the good times but now she's struggling you aren't interested. It's probably best you end the friendship so she can move on and find more compatible friends

Sunnyqueen · 09/09/2022 16:27

Do you not think the reason she is taking the prozac in the first place is because she's struggling with her anxiety and mental health seeing as that is what is prescribed for?

To be honest you sound incredibly immature for 27.

PurpleDaisies · 09/09/2022 16:29

It sounds like she really struggling at the moment. A little kindness and patience might be appropriate here?

Maybe you’re not the right person to be supporting her, given that you don’t sound like you like her very much.

CocoonofDavid · 09/09/2022 16:29

The pair of you sound like overdramatic teenagers

HailAdrian · 09/09/2022 16:33

You sound like my 16yo daughter.

Brendabigbaps · 09/09/2022 16:33

So it was ok for her to support you but not the other way round!
I think she’s better off without you

Summerslam · 09/09/2022 16:35

You don't sound like a very supportive friend. People aren't given Prozac because they like the taste.

Kindofcrunchy · 09/09/2022 16:35

If she has very recently started prozac - within 6 weeks - the medication can make you very anxious before it kicks in and works its magic. Give her a chance?

NotAHouse · 09/09/2022 16:36

You sound 12.

Wakinguptooearly · 09/09/2022 16:36

You do sound like a jealous teenager.

SavingsThreads · 09/09/2022 16:38

this is a horrible post. Dumping your friend because of new, short lived anxiety. Starting anti depressants and antipanic medication usually makes you much worse for a few weeks/months. But have you stopped and considered why she started taking it?

And all the stuff about being desperate for man. You are no friend of hers so I think you should leave her be. Poor woman.

TastesLikeFlavourlessFizz · 09/09/2022 16:39

Well aren’t you a joy.

justaladyLOL · 09/09/2022 16:39

"You don’t like that she’s developed anxiety and she wants to see you twice in 2-3 weeks? You sound like such a great friend Hmm"

She is texing many time aa day to some one who has to work for a living
She is a pain in the whatsit

CoolerThanIceCream · 09/09/2022 16:43

I actually like my best friend.

I thought that was how it was supposed to work. I mean, with friends in general. Not even just best friends.

billysmallnuts · 09/09/2022 16:43

This was clearly written by a teenager.

festivebitches · 09/09/2022 16:46

You sound like you have some serious growing up to do.

ShimmyYaYaYay · 09/09/2022 17:01

Kylie Jenner is that you???

RedRobyn2021 · 09/09/2022 17:03

I'm surprised you are 27, you sound much younger.

I think the problem is you are putting your own issues and the things you want on her.

She is a different person to you, perhaps she has money, but that doesn't mean she doesn't have problems of her own. Money doesn't solve everything, clearly, as she sounds deeply unhappy.

You aren't being a good friend to her.

Podgywodge · 09/09/2022 17:09

So you'd prefer if it was just you with anxiety? Grow the fuck up.

LateAF · 09/09/2022 17:16

When I started reading I thought you were still a teenager, then you said about the student loan forgiveness, and I thought perhaps you had just finished uni so an immature 21. Shocked you are 27.

Why so much focus on the minor things your friend does and says? Cut her some slack, anxiety to the point of medicating is not fun or “lucky”.

Sounds to me like you have a chip on your shoulder / are jealous. When you figure out what you want from life and believe you have the power to change your circumstances, then you will have less time to worry about the minutiae of what your friend is up to.

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