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My best friend is really starting to annoy me, I really don’t want to resent her, help

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libradancerxx · 09/09/2022 15:53

I saw a similar thread on here , I’m significantly younger than that posted tho. I’m 27.
with her for about 2 years before.

My best friend is really starting to annoy me. I’ve known her for ten years.
Her way of relating to life is very different from mine but lately she has changed because she started taking Prozac and idk what happened. She’s become a lot more anxious than usual, a lot more clingy; and I don’t like this new version of her.

She’s always been
the calmer one. I’ve always been the anxiety ridden one.

And then what really makes me mad is how uppity she acts sometimes.

She lives at home, I do too. Her parents are super rich, I’m middle class. She has everything paid for basically and just works cuz she wants pocket money. I need to actually work to pay off my own bills because were not rich and my mom is a single mom (my dad died). It’s hard not to compare our lives . I know I shouldn’t. But she has just had it way easier in life and sometimes it really gets to me.

She is obsessed with getting married. I’ve had a few relationships that ended badly, she hasn’t had any relationships and she wants one very badly. It gives me the ick so bad. I don’t think girls should be despo for a man ever, in her life. I get that you wanna get married I do too, but she really goes on rants and it depresses me. I don’t like comparing my life to others but she makes it hard not to. I stopped going on Instagram for this reason and I told her to stay away from IG if she doesn’t wanna feel like this but she doesn’t listen.

I guess I’m a lot more harder than her because life has given me the short end of the stick compared to her life. So whenevr she complains about something money related or anything really I just roll my eyes in my head so hard.

For example her dad paid her way through college with no loans. I had to take out student loans and I had pell grant for one year. I got the student loan forgiveness from Biden and it feels like she got jealous of that (?)

We were both employed at one company for a while. They laid
me off and kept her on, she got a promotion.

She’s a really hard worker so I give her that.

But she has REALLY CHANGED. After taking Prozac. She is this bubbly person who has anxiety now. I’m not used to it, she’s never been like that. She over thinks everything now.

We’ve been texting everyday this week and today she asks me why I’m being so quiet ? Dude I have a job and we’ve texted every day multiple times a day.

We’re meeting up tomorrow and she has already asked if we can get brunch in the next couple of weeks!!!

I’m lowkey hating this. I don’t like this.
I’m 27F she’s 27F.
I know I shouldn’t compare our lives because I have things in my life she doesn’t have. But it’s so hard not to be bitter. Some people are truly lucky people.

OP posts:
Smellywellyhoo · 09/09/2022 20:56

You both sound exhausting. Maybe back off for a bit to evaluate if you really want to continue the friendship.

Summerfun54321 · 09/09/2022 20:58

if you are a good friend you will 1. Educate yourself on mental illness, 2. Support your friend without judgement through this difficult patch, 3. Stop being so jealous. If you can’t manage those things then walk away and let her find a true friend.

Darbs76 · 09/09/2022 21:03

If your best friend has anxiety don’t you think you should be trying to support her through this? Isn’t that what best friends do? That’s my version of a best friend and I’m lucky that my best friend has supported me through the good and bad in life, and vice versa.

TowerRavenSeven · 09/09/2022 21:10

Yabu! You need to change your attitude that you always get the shitty deal. I know someone like this and she thinks everyone has it better than she does because she blabs about all her problems while not letting anyone get a word in edgewise. She told me no one has as bad luck as she has - after I’ve had cancer and my mother was on her deathbed (she was visiting my mother in the hospital so she knew!). Don’t be this person!!

RootinandTootin · 09/09/2022 23:50

This post makes you sound jealous and you don’t sound like a very supportive friend at all..

CoolerThanIceCream · 10/09/2022 00:20

GuerlainHo · 09/09/2022 18:38

Biden?

Are you American OP?

Yes, obviously she is?

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