I have a friend who doesn't have any children. In fact I have many friends who are not mothers. All of which are pleasant enough about and towards my own. However this one friend says she 'hates' all babies and small children. Fine. But she gives my children dirty looks whenever she sees them says all babies are vile and disgusting and is always negative when my children or someone else's children are mentioned in the group chat or in passing. It is starting to grate. I accept children are not for her but her hostility is starting to make me question if our values are aligning or not.
Anyway at dinner last night the topic of pregnancy somehow came up and she said she has never once used contraception in her life (and I know she is very sexually active) and I thought this was quite unusual as she quote un quote 'hates kids' so in my mind surely you would ensure you are protected. So I asked her what she would do if she got pregnant and she said 'oh have an abortion'
AIBU to think this odd. I don't want to jump on the whole 'every women secretly wants kids' bandwagon because they don't but I'm inclined to think there might be more behind why she detests children so much.
Only reason I am posting is because I have been tempted to pull back from the relationship recently but now I wonder if I should try and be more supportive and just ignore her unkind comments.
AIBU?
Question over friend hating children
Lemondrizzle77 · 08/09/2022 11:44
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLdressupinyou · 08/09/2022 18:35
@Lemondrizzle77 has anyone ever challenged the way she talks about children or the screw face at your kids? I wonder if she actually realises how obnoxious she comes across. Maybe she thinks she's being funny with her Cruella act.
It's none of anyone else's business what contraception she does or doesn't use but her behaviour is.
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