To wonder what happened with him

[Jemnifwlcraig]

So i started chatting to a guy OLD. I recently broke up with someone so we mainly sexted and spoke on phone. The direction was sexual but he also said some endearing stuff like he wanted to make sure when we met it wouldn’t just be a “meaningless fuck”. We talked about loads of stuff and seemed to have a lot in common. Anyway we finally met up had sex and then I kinda stepped back and he did message but it doesn’t feel
like before. So I asked him if he’s still interested and he messaged back straight away but just kisses (xxx). So I didn’t reply as my gut feeling is he’s trying to slow fade. The last time he texted was on sat and I expected him to text again by now but he hasn’t. What do you think happened? Shall I leave it and am I right thinking it is slow fade?

He’s just not as engaged

@Jemnifwlcraig sorry but no. He DID want sex and you provided to him on a plate. Learn from this and next time don't sext. Put yourself in his shoes - he sees a woman willing to sell herself short and he "buys" you cheaply (using the analogy of course there was no money exchange).

If you want a relationship then you must give him time to get to know you without any sex. And a man who says "meaningless fuck" is not a man you should contemplate as a potential partner.

Move on and learn from this

If you want to keep seeing him, text him! Or ring him and, you know, speak to him properly and arrange to meet up again.

You can't complain he was just after sex when you willingly had sex with him and now aren't bothering to follow it up.

Why would you sext with someone you've never met?

He got what he wanted, a ONS.

What’s ONS

sorry but I love this! Good on you and your dh for bringing your son up to be a gent. There needs to be more parents like you!!!

I’m no prude and I’ve had sex just for sex happily plenty of times.
But could you really not find anything to talk about instead of sexual desires when you hadn’t even met him?
Unless you can only come if someone dresses as a minion and that’s a dealbreaker for you that you need to know, I’d hold off on all the sex chat.
”Meaningless fuck” is crass and manipulative shite, unless a nice honest, “I’m after a meaningless fuck.”

endearing stuff like he wanted to make sure when we met it wouldn’t just be a “meaningless fuck”
Is that really what passes for endearing these days?

Oh don't be ridiculous. 30 years and going string. Shagged on day 1

So you started a sex based interaction, had sex on the first meet (no judgement at all, I’ve done it myself) but then backed off and don’t actually use your words when messaging and you’re wondering if he’s into you?

Christ talk about making it difficult.

I just feel he’s doing slow fade

I don't know why you keep saying that when you've barely spoken to him yourself.

You chose to go out and sleep with a stranger (no judgement), so you can't then complain that it's all you got, IMO. If you didn't want no-strings sex, you shouldn't gone out and had just that.

just surprised as he said he was single as it was hard to find someone he was compatible with sexually and we had similar desires

This leads me to suspect that you share a particular fetish or kink? Because unless his 'desires' are unusual, sexual compatibility wouldn't be especially difficult for a man to find.

If so, then I suspect he is not single and is in a relationship with someone who doesn't have the same fetish as him, and therefore chases women online looking for one-off encounters to indulge his fetish on the side.

Either way, the fact that you went straight into talking about sex and sexual compatibility makes it blindingly obvious what he wanted from the start. He wanted sex. He got sex. That's it.