To loathe back to school photos on social media?

[blueskyeve]

I'm clearly in the minority after scrolling through my Facebook feed today. Every single post on there is a photo of a child posing in their school uniform. Why? Please someone explain, I must be missing something.

I have 40 facebook friends
Only family and very close personal friends

I have family abroad. They like to see my kids and their milestones. I don’t put them up for people like you

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I suppose I find it a bit uncomfortable in the sense that I know the names, ages, schools of kids from people I met once at work many years ago or sat next to in year 4 and wouldn’t talk to in depth ever again lol. I suppose it feels like something I shouldn’t see or know about and I’d feel weird if my folks shared my picture randos online but people curate their social media to how they feel comfortable and it’s not my business. I just scroll past.

I’m not going to have a go at people doing what they want and what makes them happy but I find the ethics of sharing and social media in general a bit uncomfortable but it’s a personal decision and I don’t judge people for it.

I don't really understand why you have 400 friends on social media, especially if you don't want to see those people's photographs and comments particularly.

Social media means what it's called - social. The sharing and commenting about your own and other's lives.

But I'm much more choosy with my social media friends. I only have people I know pretty well in my current life, people who I am happy to share my life with. And people who's lives I am interesting.

I don't have past colleagues who I hardly know, or school friends I've not spoken too for 30/40 years. I have no strangers. I only have people I'd be happy to speak too in real life.

I do have a very very small number of 'tactful' friends, such as family that I can't really exclude. These are set to 'acquaintance' and unfollow. Their posts don't show in my feed and they don't see most of my posts either.

I follow a handful of specially selected groups/pages, mainly linked to my job or very close local area that are useful to me. I don't use things like market place, etc as I am not interested in selling/giving things away that way. I sometimes follow places we've been/stayed for a while, often just before or whilst there/going, but unfollow afterwards to stop my feed being full of irrelevant posts.

This way I don't actually need to keep scrolling and ignoring posts about stuff I don't want to see from strangers.

@arou why do you have those people on your facebook if they are not your friends?

Seriously though, why do you think this bothers me so much?

Probably because you have so many people set as friends who you don't really know very well and have little interest in knowing about their lives.

Be more choosy and your feed will be more relevant to you.

Why do you have people who you sat next to in year 4, or people you met once years ago, on your Facebook?

I mean the same goes for them, and they’re the ones sharing the photos, so this isn’t a criticism! I just genuinely don’t get it. What do you get out of seeing any posts - back to school photos or otherwise - from people you don’t know and aren’t interested in?

Because as parents we need to document that one day of the school year when their shirts are actually white, their hair is tidy, and they don’t have pen on their jumpers. It’s a special moment. We have to show we do actually buy them clothes and brush their hair.

I only have family and close friends on Facebook with no randoms or people I vaguely know, I like to keep my circle small so have no problem sharing and documenting on Facebook. I also love Facebook memories let’s me see what I’ve posted on each day for precious years,

@blueskyeve is the hatred due to the perfection of the image that family is presenting?? Perhaps you are comparing other people's portrayal of the 'perfect moment'

I get the first day of school photos when they are in year 1 because it is a big deal. But in year 2,3,4 whats the fecking point?

Yes take photos but I cannot see the point of putting the following years on social media. They made it back for another year? AWESOME!!

YABU for still using Facebook 😉
For what it’s worth I don’t really get anyone publishes photos of their children on the internet full stop

It is a nice record of your child's life through school and a visual record of them changing as the door /room/ garden stays the same or changes minimally and they get bigger.

Generally you have friends and family on your fb so it is a way of sharing your news.

I don't put my son's pic on fb but I do keep my own pics and shared it on my family WhatsApp.

@LimboLass but it is lovely seeing the changes as they grow up.

Exactly , if your going to have social media then you will see people sharing aspects of their life’s that’s what it for

if you disagree with social media as a concept then fair enough I can see why you would , it’s pointless really ( I know this despite using it myself ) but don’t have it and then complain about people using it literally for its intended purpose

Pedo Pete is scrolling Facebook. Sees silly sallys post about little Lilly’s first day at woodya belive school. Pete gets to the school before sally tells little Lilly mumma sent me she’s running late Lilly belived him he knows her name after all and where she is.

this is why I hate these posts of first days take them photos but don’t put your kids all over a platform where you are giving away tooooo much info

I’m not friends with Pedo Pete, so he doesn’t see my photo. Problem solved.

If I am unfortunate enough to be friends with Pete, who I don’t know is a pedo, then he doesn’t need Facebook to know where my children go to school, he could just ask me.

According to MN there is absolutely nothing you can post on SM. I mean the clue is in the name...it's about being social. Noone forces you to look at anything on SM - if you don't like it don't look. People can post whatever they like on their own SM they don't need to consider whether you will like it or not! But I'm actually friends with the people I have on SM so I actually like them and I'm therefore happy to see their photos - their children, their holiday, even (whispers)...the picture of their DC's stockings once Father Christmas has been!

I love seeing my grandchildren's back to school photos. They look so smart in their uniforms. It always reminds me of the song 'One More Step Along the World I Go.' We used to sing this in assemblies on the first day back to school .

He's either friends with Sally so could find out the school easy enough or he's not and so won't be able to see her post.

Also what school nowadays hands a child over to a random just because they know the child's name!

What a miserable thing to get worked up about. If you feel that strongly just avoid social media for the first week of September.

My parents took back to school photos of us every year in the 1980s and 90s. The difference is those photos are now in a packet on a shelf in the cupboard rather than on Facebook. Facebook is where I keep all my photos. I don't have 100s of friends and don't show the school badge, street name etc.'

I like seeing the photos personally. I might not be in daily contact with these friends and family, but it makes you feel caught up.
And it’s easy to share my own pics with friends and family. I limit what I put out there but I do like to add a few pics.

I love seeing these photos. My FB settings are tight so if I can see photos it is of people I am interested in.

'and they're off!!'

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