To think dh shouldn't use the lounge TV for Xbox

[xboxtrouble]

Dh 35 is on his Xbox from the moment he gets home from work until bedtime.
We have a TV in the bedroom but he sits on the sofa and plays on the lounge TV.
I have my own interests out of the house gym/walking which don't interest him and likewise I've never been into Xbox games but that's his thing.

It would be nice to watch TV in the lounge sometimes especially in the evenings but I just entertain myself on my phone so I can at least sit with him.
Occasionally we watch a film or Tv together but it is rare and although we do things as a family at weekends then he'll spend the rest of the weekend on the Xbox.
He gets so into it and can get pretty angry with the game, he even took it holiday with us although he only played it for a couple of hours a day after the dc had gone to bed.

I didn't think it was unreasonable to ask him to play upstairs sometimes but he refuses saying I can watch TV up there and it's his way of unwinding after work.
The dc have TVs in their rooms too but the lounge is meant to be a family room surely?

Oh God, he took it on holiday with him? I'm a gamer, but fuck me that's bad!

DH and I have alternate TV nights. So one night he's on the xbox or watches what he wants on the telly, the next night it's my turn.

Nope the only time the ps is allowed in the living room is when I am away

Not a fucking chance! How old are the kids? Do they not want to sit in the lounge too??

They're 4 and 6 they play on their Nintendo switches or toys usually.

God what a man child and what on earth happened to compromise?

I used to have one like this, he used to tut when i dragged the food-shopping past him into the kitchen to unpack it as it interrupted his precious game.

I now have one who runs out to help me unload the boot when i pull onto the drive or comes with me and who doesn't own a console. Hallelujah.

Seriously though. 1 family evening. He games in the lounge 3 nights and you have the run of the tv 3 nights in the lounge. He can choose to join you or plug in his console upstairs with the other kids.

So you and the kids are left sitting your own rooms whilst he take up the lounge with sofa all evening every evening.

Give him the choice. He can be kicked out of the lounge OR your life!

Lounge is for family.

No way. Fuck that. Selfish manchild

Does he not engage with the DC at all?

4 and 6? I assumed you meant teenagers- the lounge is family space and he shouldn't be checking out of family life

I'd be so unhappy with this set up - why should you sit there on your phone while he shouts etc the xbox?!

The lounge is a family shared space. Your children should be playing in their with your. I assume you join in their play? And you can watch family movies together and read stories on the sofa. One selfish overgrown man child doesn't get to hog a shared space to shout at a violent video game.

*there

It sounds like quite a sad family home to be honest Op.

If you want to watch a TV programme what's the difference between watching it in the living room or your bedroom? Why can't you watch what you want to watch on the TV in your room?
It wouldn't bother me to be honest.
I often take over the living room with my Lego and husband is in the bedroom watching football/stuff on Netflix on his phone.
I am a female version of a 'man child' ? Am I selfish? Or does it only apply to men who play Xbox?
It's just a room.

I used to live with one like this, miserable existence. You need to put your foot down on this.

Was going to ask if he was 15 but then saw you had 2 kids with him.

Jesus wept at what some women put up with as fathers and husbands

Needmorelego, i assume you don't play lego on the screen

What terrible role modelling for your children, their father plugged into a screen instead of spending time with his family. Grim.

@Angelinflipflops no I don't play Lego on the screen. But it's often all over the floor and I make that beautiful loud noise of rustling through the bricks 🤣
The point is I am in one room doing my thing, husband is in another happily doing his thing in another room. (Teenage daughter in her pit of gloom doing her thing).
We are all happy. Who cares what room we are in.

@Needmorelego her kids are 4 and 6 though - he's getting angry at the xbox in a room they should be able to play in, watch TV in, cuddle up for a movie in... there are 4 people in their house and he's monopolising the 1 room that should be a family room!

To be honest I'm out for a couple of hours in the evenings anyway while he plays but when I am in I would like to have the use of the TV.
He moans and tuts when anyone walks in front of the TV if he's playing.

So the lounge is basically out of bounds for everyone? That’s not fair. He games from when he gets home to bedtime therefore isn’t contributing to the house/doesn’t parent? I absolutely would not tolerate this.

@xboxtrouble why do you have a TV in the bedroom then? Watch your telly programmes there.
However if this about him ignoring the children then that's a slightly different thing. But why doesn't he play the Switch games with them? (Nintendo games are generally more family friendly than Xbox one's). Get the Mario Kart out. Get them to play together. I mean if you are sat on the sofa on your phone - why aren't you playing with the children?

Does he do anything else about the house? (Not just anything useful, but y'know, anything?). Do you eat meals together?

Because from the OP it sounds like he appears, turns the family lounge into a man cave and basically everyone else can clear off. Doesn't sound like he's very invested in family life or time as a couple.

F* that. I couldn't even look at such a man child!

He needs to be an absolute Saint in every other way to justify this.

(He isn't)

Also wouldn't you "moan and tut" if someone walked in front of the TV while you are watching a programme.
Why are you (or the children) walking infront of the TV when it's in use?