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Original poster

Or is this lyric not suitable for radio 1?

118 replies

SkygardenTower · 06/09/2022 08:07

Listening to Radio 1 yesterday around 8:20, Greg James show, lots of listeners calling in saying it was first day of the new school year.

Little Nas X - industry baby
And these girls know that I'm nasty (mm)
I sent her back to her boyfriend
With my handprint on her *

The blanked out part is ass cheek.

Personally, I don’t think this is an appropriate lyric ever, it normalises sexual domestic violence. But on Radio 1 during the school run time is totally not ok, they know young children listen to the show. Yes parents can switch it off, but by the time you have realised it is inappropriate the lyric has been sung.

So AIBU?

You are bing unreasonable: it is just a song
You are NOT being unreasonable: inappropriate lyric for that time and show

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Agrudge · 07/09/2022 08:05

SkygardenTower · 07/09/2022 07:58

Thank you for all the comments. My kids are older so I have no concerns for them. They are old enough to choose what to listen to.

My main problem is the contrast of the host wishing someone well on their first day of the year at primary school, so knew the age of the listeners, and then the song. That lyric stood out, probably as there was a change in voice, i wasn’t paying much attention beforehand.

I still think hitting someone hard enough to leave a handprint that lasts longer than a few minutes is violence. In some cases it might be consensual violence, but there is no way of knowing that.

Some people like it rough. It is what it is

pigsDOfly · 07/09/2022 08:24

If you don't want to hear the lyrics of inappropriate songs on the radio, stop listening to radio stations that play this stuff.

The vast majority of songs are about sex or drugs in some form. They always have been.

A lot of modern songs though are incredibly misogynistic, frequently very sexually explicit and often thoroughly unpleasant; many of them are downright nasty.

Does your radio not have an off switch?

Clearly there's a market for this sort of crap but you're not forced to be part of that market

Sunnyqueen · 07/09/2022 08:28

Just heard City high on the radio , well old song also at school run time
'what would you do if your son was at home, crying all alone on the bedroom floor cos he's hungry
And the only way to feed him is to sleep with a man for a little bit of money and his daddy's gone
So we're smoking blank now, in and out of lockdown, I ain't got a job now

Dc only interested in telling me that rocket league season 8 starts today. Not remotely interested in the song playing lol.

DietCokeExtraIce · 07/09/2022 08:36

If you listen carefully to a lot of popular songs the lyrics are pretty inappropriate but are still played on mainstream radio.

Most Rihanna
Most Ariana Grande
Most Beyoncé

silverclock222 · 07/09/2022 08:55

You know there are other radio stations yes?

nutellachurro · 07/09/2022 10:32

SkygardenTower · 07/09/2022 07:58

Thank you for all the comments. My kids are older so I have no concerns for them. They are old enough to choose what to listen to.

My main problem is the contrast of the host wishing someone well on their first day of the year at primary school, so knew the age of the listeners, and then the song. That lyric stood out, probably as there was a change in voice, i wasn’t paying much attention beforehand.

I still think hitting someone hard enough to leave a handprint that lasts longer than a few minutes is violence. In some cases it might be consensual violence, but there is no way of knowing that.

No offence but it was quite clear you had older children as incidents of Pearl clutching tends to increase with age.

Plus as mentioned previously this wouldn't be considered violence based on the definition of the word 'violence'

Maybe stop listening to a radio channel aimed at 15-29 year olds in future to avoid this issue

Choconut · 07/09/2022 11:04

There's so much grim stuff on pretty much every radio station. It's always been the same though IMO.

Choconut · 07/09/2022 11:05

That Nicky Minaj song is just vile.

Agrudge · 07/09/2022 11:34

Choconut · 07/09/2022 11:05

That Nicky Minaj song is just vile.

Which song?

SavoirFlair · 07/09/2022 11:41

SkygardenTower · 07/09/2022 07:58

Thank you for all the comments. My kids are older so I have no concerns for them. They are old enough to choose what to listen to.

My main problem is the contrast of the host wishing someone well on their first day of the year at primary school, so knew the age of the listeners, and then the song. That lyric stood out, probably as there was a change in voice, i wasn’t paying much attention beforehand.

I still think hitting someone hard enough to leave a handprint that lasts longer than a few minutes is violence. In some cases it might be consensual violence, but there is no way of knowing that.

In some cases it might be consensual violence, but there is no way of knowing that.

Yeah there is a way of knowing it. I said earlier in the thread that I like this. I consent to this. Is that ok with you? Is that “knowing” according to you?

whumpthereitis · 07/09/2022 12:13

R Kelly is guilty of a lot of things, but “hot in here” is Nelly.

😂

anyway, bears are catholic, the pope shits in the woods, and the music industry upsets parents.

ThePumpkinPatch · 07/09/2022 12:16

mountainsunsets · 06/09/2022 08:39

The lyrics you've quoted are about spanking during sex, not domestic violence!

OP said SEXUAL domestic violence

WillPowerLite · 07/09/2022 12:26

The song is not the problem. The timing is. Clearly not appropriate on the school run.

ThePumpkinPatch · 07/09/2022 12:26

10HailMarys · 06/09/2022 11:05

OK, the more I read this thread the more I can't stay quiet about this.

I'm a survivor of domestic violence and sexual assault.

Equating a song lyric about spanking or 'a handprint on the ass cheek' with DV and sexual violence are really starting to piss me off now. The two things are worlds apart and conflating them is harmful and insulting and potentially incredibly shaming to DV victims.

So, congratulations. With your outrage over a pop song, you've succeeded in making an actual DV survivor - one of the very people you're supposedly so concerned about - feel like shit.

Well done. Give yourselves a pat on the back.

🙄

Mybumlooksbig · 07/09/2022 12:52

YANBU. We need to stop normalising these thing. My 19yo daughter was sadly in a violent sexual relationship so I'm hyper sensitive to this kind of thing.
Violent sex seems to be what a lot of young men expect these days as they are so desensitised now

mountainsunsets · 07/09/2022 16:41

ThePumpkinPatch · 07/09/2022 12:16

OP said SEXUAL domestic violence

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I know that.

Spanking during sex is very often a consensual act. Nothing to do with any kind of domestic violence (sexual or otherwise) and it doesn't do anyone any favours to say they're the same thing.

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SkygardenTower · 07/09/2022 19:02

SavoirFlair · 07/09/2022 11:41

In some cases it might be consensual violence, but there is no way of knowing that.

Yeah there is a way of knowing it. I said earlier in the thread that I like this. I consent to this. Is that ok with you? Is that “knowing” according to you?

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No problem with that, you are able to consent.

When I said there is no way of knowing that I meant in the song. It is just a man saying her will send he back to her boyfriend after he has hit her hard enough to leave a lasting mark.

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MarbleGolden · 09/09/2022 09:53

Radio 1 managing to keep it all very PC today.

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