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To think she should have let my child have the balloon?

155 replies

Bleepbleeep · 04/09/2022 18:00

We were out earlier at a chain pub style restaurant and they had a stand with some balloons on for children to have.

My son (4) went up to get one which happened to be the last but just as he was going up, a woman at a table closer got up and got it (it was very obvious my son was going for it and she turned around to him and said oh sorry).

She then walked back to her table and gave it to a baby sat in a high chair who couldn't have been over 8 months old.

AIBU to think she should have let my son take it rather than giving it to a baby who basically dropped it after 2 seconds and didn't look at it again.

OP posts:
SunnyD44 · 04/09/2022 19:27

How close was he to getting it?

If he was obviously reaching for it then I definitely would have said something to her!

If he was just walking over to get it and she didn’t realise or happened to get there first then I wouldn’t have.

nutellachurro · 04/09/2022 19:29

itsgettingweird · 04/09/2022 19:27

The responses here are shitty.

A grown woman who jumps in front of a 4to to grab something for their child is wrong. She's an adult.

It's funny but when you work - as I have done - with children for many years you spot the children of the OP as easily as you spot the children of that woman.

The woman's children dominate in infants.

They are then the ones the parents complain are being bullied in juniors when they other kids stop wanting to play with them because they think it's a dog eat dog world and no one has to share resources or acknowledge someone else's claim on them.

I feel for the kids tbh.

Good thing no grown woman jumped in front of anyone then isn't it

You either struggle with comprehension or enjoy making shit up

CoolerThanIceCream · 04/09/2022 19:37

BatteryPoweredMammy · 04/09/2022 19:22

Really?

A fully grown adult effectively shoved OP’s child out of the way. That’s really twatty behaviour and I’m surprised and a bit worried that you can’t see that.

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Why are you making stuff up?

Nobody shoved anybody.

rainbowmilk · 04/09/2022 19:40

Shocking developments - every parent thinks their kid is more important than other people’s. More on this at ten.

Bubblyinblanch · 04/09/2022 19:42

Don't think I would have given this a second's thought.

luxxlisbon · 04/09/2022 19:49

A fully grown adult effectively shoved OP’s child out of the way @BatteryPoweredMammy

You just entirely made this up.
She was at a closer table! Did didn’t race or shove anyone 😂

mam0918 · 04/09/2022 19:52

I have a 4 year old and a just turned 1 year old... they equally like balloons and share/fight over them regularly my teen will join in too.

No idea why you think a 4 year old is more entitled or derives more joy from it than a nearly 1 year old... they are both in the age range to enjoy a balloon.

caringcarer · 04/09/2022 19:53

So 2 Mums wanted the balloon for their child and the other person got there before 4 year old as seated nearer. Just ask staff for another one.

mattermore · 04/09/2022 19:53

BatteryPoweredMammy · 04/09/2022 19:18

A grown adult pinching a ballon before a 4yr old could get to it?

The fact she said ‘sorry’ shows she knew he’d be disappointed and she couldn’t care less. She’s definitely a selfish cow.

So when you go to the pub you are aware of all random children around you and what they are doing? Even if they are behind you in the room, as in OP?

Because I’m not. I might notice one if I turned around after getting something at a stall and they were right behind me though. As happened in OP.

CapMarvel · 04/09/2022 19:56

Ahh, gotta love mn.

This woman has done nothing wrong. All op had to do was ask a member of staff to blow up another one.

But no, she's labelled the spawn of the devil by the mn crazies 😂

Octomore · 04/09/2022 19:57

theemmadilemma · 04/09/2022 18:03

Let it be a lesson that everyone thinks their own child is the most important thing in the world. 🤷‍♀️

😂😂

Cas112 · 04/09/2022 19:58

Not the best but not something I would think about again, it happens

mam0918 · 04/09/2022 20:00

BatteryPoweredMammy · 04/09/2022 19:22

Really?

A fully grown adult effectively shoved OP’s child out of the way. That’s really twatty behaviour and I’m surprised and a bit worried that you can’t see that.

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Shoved, Raced, Snatched etc...

What planet are you women on no such thing ever happened, declutch your pearls.

A woman who was next to an item got the last one for her child, no adult barged children out of the way to grab the last kids item for themselves.

The way OP wrote dispite her use of the word 'obviously' it actually reads like she was aware of the other child until AFTERWARDS and OP just thinks her child is more deserving than a younger child.

Arbesque · 04/09/2022 20:02

Yes she was mean. YANBU.

shazzybazzy34 · 04/09/2022 20:02

Meh.

You wanted one for your 4 year old, she wanted one for her baby. She was at a nearer table, she got it, she probably thought her baby would love it. You sent your 4 year old up, he didn't get there in time, she didn't push him out of the way like some gobshites are saying, she took the balloon as she got there first and then noticed your son behind her, said sorry and then went and gave it to her baby.

Double meh on getting annoyed about it. Kids love balloons whether they are 8 months or 4.

Loics · 04/09/2022 20:03

Nope, your child was no more deserving of the balloon than hers. As your child is the most important thing to you, likewise her baby will be prioritised above your son. My baby would have loved the balloon and I wouldn't have given it away in her situation when it was a case of simply getting there first.

mattermore · 04/09/2022 20:06

Loics · 04/09/2022 20:03

Nope, your child was no more deserving of the balloon than hers. As your child is the most important thing to you, likewise her baby will be prioritised above your son. My baby would have loved the balloon and I wouldn't have given it away in her situation when it was a case of simply getting there first.

Yes, but OP’s child wanted it MOREST. He would have played with it MOREST. And so was more deserving.

🙄

SeasonFinale · 04/09/2022 20:08

raindon · 04/09/2022 19:01

Balloons are so dangerous if a little one swallow a popped one. They get wrapped around their vocal chords. I'd never give one to a small child.

Good job it was tied to his high chair and his mum was supervising him then rather than allowing him to chew it.

Loics · 04/09/2022 20:10

mattermore · 04/09/2022 20:06

Yes, but OP’s child wanted it MOREST. He would have played with it MOREST. And so was more deserving.

🙄

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I suppose the woman did wait until OP's son was clearly going to get the balloon before rugby tackling him to the ground and screaming that he would have to pry it from her cold, dead hands. 😁

Mrsmch123 · 04/09/2022 20:10

Your child doesn't trump hers🤷🏻‍♀️She got there first....such is life.

Butitsnotfunnyisititsserious · 04/09/2022 20:10

MsRosley · 04/09/2022 18:54

'Now your baby has had a bit of fun with the balloon, do you mind if I give it to my son? He's very disappointed.'

sweet smile

I'd have looked at you and said yes I do mind and no you can't have it, with a sweet smile 😁

Seriously some of Mumsnet needs to actually read, the woman did not race a child, she did not shove a child, she was closer and got it first for a child at her table. From the sounds of it, she didn't actually realise the OP kid wanted it until she had got it for her child.

CoolerThanIceCream · 04/09/2022 20:12

This thread really has flushed out the utter lunatics, hasn’t it? Grin

TowerRavenSeven · 04/09/2022 20:14

Yanbu but it could be a good learning experience, i.e. “some times it’s good to be Jack, some times it’s good to be Jane”.

homarrre · 04/09/2022 20:15

What a twat.

I wonder if that's her first baby? I'm guessing she didn't realise how something like that could upset a 4 year old.

I hope when her child turns 4 and gets upset and kicks off about everything that she looks back and realises that she acted like a prick.

ISAR · 04/09/2022 20:19

I personally would give it to 4yr old rather than my 8 month baby.

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