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To have my weekend ruined by a bunch of flowers

71 replies

DigitalGoat · 03/09/2022 09:42

I was off work most of last week but got an email from my office manager to say that a client's partner had brought flowers in for me as a thank you for helping them, and that she had put them in water.

Got into the office Friday, flowers lovely, no label but manager had put a post it note with client's name on. I took them home. Emailed the client and their partner to say thank you. At the time something didn't feel quite right, as I hadn't dealt with this particular client for 2 months but to be fair we had had a pretty good result for them at that point. I took everything at face value.

Woke up this morning with a really uneasy feeling, remembered that we have another client with a very similar surname, and their first names begin with the same letter. I dealt with them more recently. Having re-read my manager's email, the description of what I'm being thanked for would fit that client slightly better. I have a feeling it might have been this client and my manager or whoever accepted the flowers got her wires crossed. That would mean I had thanked a client for flowers they didn't send and blanked the one who did.

My manager is now in Spain for 2 weeks so I can't ask her for a description of the person who came in with the flowers.

I can't really email someone and ask if they sent me flowers...

I'm cringing just thinking about it now and don't know what to do.

YABU - just forget about it
YANBU - try to sort it out (but how???)

Thanks for reading

OP posts:
SomethingVexesThee · 03/09/2022 09:56

Just send a thank you to the client you now think it is Smile And stop stressing!

The "wrong" client will no doubt respond saying that it wasn't them, and you can just reply along the lined a of "Oh right, must have been a mix up with the message when I was on leave! Hope you're well, etc etc"

KermitlovesKeyLimePie · 03/09/2022 09:59

If this is what it takes to ruin a weekend, I want your life.

Just thank the person you think it is and forget about it.

Drama much?

shmiz · 03/09/2022 10:01

Ruin your weekend ?????
come on !!
its a bit awkward but nothing more than that -
reality check required -
enjoy your flowers -
get on with your weekend
stop worrying about the if’s ….
😊

mountainsunsets · 03/09/2022 10:03

Blimey, this is hardly enough to ruin a weekend!

Just email the other client on Monday and say thank you.

Doyoumind · 03/09/2022 10:07

No idea why you are getting so stressed. Thank the other client and don't give it another thought.

HereIfYouNeedMe · 03/09/2022 10:08

Apologies if it wasn't you I think we may have gotten clients mixed up

Thank you so much for the flowers you sent on Friday, we may have gotten the client mixed up so apologies if it wasn't you

MrsLargeEmbodied · 03/09/2022 10:10

agree with emailing the client you think its from

IrisVersicolor · 03/09/2022 10:10

Weekend ruined? Baffled by this.

Just thank the client you think it might have been from.

AnneLovesGilbert · 03/09/2022 10:11

I’d let it go. If this really ruined your weekend maybe do some work on perspective.

Dibbydoos · 03/09/2022 10:11

I'd message the client and say I received some flowers but wires have been crossed at the office, are they from you? They are lovely. And then wait and see what they say...

MarvelMrs · 03/09/2022 10:12

Yep. Just calm down. It’s flowers. And they were just thanking you. I don’t expect someone to come back to me when I send them a thank you gift. I was thanking them not the other way around. I doubt they are thinking about it so I would stop worrying about it yourself.

Fairylightsongs · 03/09/2022 10:12

Blimey what am over reaction are you okay ? Just send an email thanking them to the other client.

Staggersaurus · 03/09/2022 10:12

Think about how you would respond if someone thanked you for flowers you didn’t send. It really isn’t a big drama, people get things wrong. It hasn’t hurt anyone, it’s just a mix up. And it’s certainly nothing that should ruin your weekend! For your overreaction YABU.

Crunchymum · 03/09/2022 10:13

Just email the other client and move on.

Rainbowcat99 · 03/09/2022 10:14

Just send an identical thank you message to the other client, the one who didn't send flowers will either think "what?" And ignore you or respond by saying "no not me".
In which case you respond with "oops my mistake, have a nice weekend"

No catastrophe here. Worrying is ruining your weekend, not the flowers. Try to relax 😊

MrsMcisaCt · 03/09/2022 10:17

Say thank you to the other client. I'm sure the first one will just think you've made an error and then never think about it again. We all make mistakes, no big deal.

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 03/09/2022 10:17

Just be honest, email the other client and say because the person that accepted the flowers is on holiday you dont know who sent them which is slightly awkward but wanted to thank them if it was them and to ignore this if it wasnt.

crumpet · 03/09/2022 10:20

Wait till your manager gets back, confirm who did in fact send them, then a lovely message to the right person telling them how delighted you were to receive the mystery bunch, and that you had to wait until manager got back to know who the generous gift came from.

toooldtocarewhoknows · 03/09/2022 10:23

Don't over think this. Send a thank you to the ones you now believe sent you the flowers.

You've then thanked both. Job done.

The one that didn't send you the flowers will be confused for a second when they got your message and guess you've thanked the wrong person. They will now be thinking maybe they should they have sent you flowers two months ago!

You've covered your bases. Don't do any more. Have a good weekend.

JasmineIndigo · 03/09/2022 10:25

Honestly I wouldn't even worry about it, the person who left them probably hasn't given it another thought and are probably not even expecting a thank you for their thank you (flowers).

deeperthanallroses · 03/09/2022 10:27

Just send a thank you to the second person! One of them will be wrong but you’ve already sent one so 🤷‍♀️

Maves · 03/09/2022 10:30

I thought you were going to say you realised they weren't actually for you.
Jeez this is some drama email the right person email the erm g person "apologies or whatever"
But ruining your weekend? Shit this really is a non issue

BeALovingFamily · 03/09/2022 10:31

See, I would be fretting about this all weekend like you. Seeing all the responses makes me realise my life could be so much easier. But I don't know how to fix it!

billy1966 · 03/09/2022 10:32

deeperthanallroses · 03/09/2022 10:27

Just send a thank you to the second person! One of them will be wrong but you’ve already sent one so 🤷‍♀️

This.

LilacLavenderStripes · 03/09/2022 10:33

If this is what it takes to ruin a weekend, I want your life

I disagree Kermit.

If receiving a bunch of flowers has ruined OPs weekend I categorically do NOT want her life!