To have my weekend ruined by a bunch of flowers

[DigitalGoat]

I was off work most of last week but got an email from my office manager to say that a client's partner had brought flowers in for me as a thank you for helping them, and that she had put them in water.

Got into the office Friday, flowers lovely, no label but manager had put a post it note with client's name on. I took them home. Emailed the client and their partner to say thank you. At the time something didn't feel quite right, as I hadn't dealt with this particular client for 2 months but to be fair we had had a pretty good result for them at that point. I took everything at face value.

Woke up this morning with a really uneasy feeling, remembered that we have another client with a very similar surname, and their first names begin with the same letter. I dealt with them more recently. Having re-read my manager's email, the description of what I'm being thanked for would fit that client slightly better. I have a feeling it might have been this client and my manager or whoever accepted the flowers got her wires crossed. That would mean I had thanked a client for flowers they didn't send and blanked the one who did.

My manager is now in Spain for 2 weeks so I can't ask her for a description of the person who came in with the flowers.

I can't really email someone and ask if they sent me flowers...

I'm cringing just thinking about it now and don't know what to do.

YABU - just forget about it
YANBU - try to sort it out (but how???)

Thanks for reading

Just thank the client that you now think it is and don’t worry about it. If the other client contacts you to say it wasn’t them. Just apologise and say you weren’t around when the flowers arrived and there must have been a mix up. I really can’t see anyone being too upset about that.

Ruined weekend? You really need to unclench.

Christ what a ridiculous over reaction 🙄

I don’t mean this horribly but are you quite young OP?
This is the sort of thing I would have been mortified about in my 20’s but in my 40’s now I wouldn’t care.
Just send a ‘just realised I may have sent my previous message in error’ I I received a lovely bunch of flowers and am trying to find the recipient.
Then text the other client ‘I received a lovely bunch of flowers which I believe were from you. Thank you so much for the kind gesture’
Job done and no one will care!
Honestly I love getting older in some ways- it really does make you care less

I'm with op here.

My weekend has been ruined by the takeaway getting delivered last night and I replied "Thanks, you too" when they said "enjoy your meal".

I've been crying and feeling sick all day.

Weekend ruined??

A while ago, I made an awful mistake at work and I had to call the client (almost in tears myself) to confess and make the best amends I could, before sending them a massive bunch of flowers and then sitting in the car park sobbing for half an hour. That was a pretty rough weekend but I still wouldn't say ruined.

You fix this by sending the same email to the clients you now think it is, perhaps with a footnote to say you're almost sure it was them but if not then to ignore you, hope you're well, catch up soon etc. Job done.

Forget it

Grateful for all your replies. It looks as though I'm being totally unreasonable but it's good to get an outside perspective. Knowing it wouldn't be such a big deal to other people will help me shrug and move on!

I've always struggled with social stuff and tend to over-think things. I rejected some possible thread titles as a bit dull and ended up over-egging it so probably shouldn't have over-thought that either. I'm older than the poster who asked if I was young, and I do appreciate there are bigger things to worry about out there. Many thanks to everyone who took the time to comment!

Oh dear. Serious overreaction though.

I ended a phone conversation with the chap who was dealing with my life insurance application with "love you, bye" before hanging up and realising what I'd said. Dh thought it was hilarious. I was briefly mortified but it didn't ruin my evening, much less weekend.

The poster you’re responding to was clearly being sarcastic. 😂

OP I have had sooo many embarrassing work experiences

Accidentally walking into the wrong loo and running into my boss at the urinal is up there

Flower message would not get a look in!

But it's work related and if anything will send you into a spin it's the fear of screwing up at work - or screwing up in someone else's eyes at work!

OP this is MN! You forgot all the hand wringing about how sending someone flowers is just piling on the "admin" and is obviously a passive aggressive hint that you have nothing better to do with your time.

Double inconvenience points for sending them to your place of work as you have had to develop a detailed strategy addressing the issue of how to get them home (the client knows that you commute by pogo stick whilst juggling 4 shopping bags and an umbrella).

Assuming that you do manage to negotiate the horrific task of getting them home, there is then the hunting around for a vase, deciding where to put the vase and then the absolute horror of having to dispose of the flowers and the water and the extra "load" of washing the vase afterwards.

Bastards 😂

This. No problem.

The header under "Trending" cuts off after the words "ruined by a bunch of....." it's a little game of mine to fill in the blanks, so I immediately assumed your weekend had been "ruined by a bunch of ........... noisy kids having an all-night rave in next door's garden" ... or similar. 🙄😂

Third world problems 🥴

Only put YABU about being stressed! Thank the correct clients and forget about it.

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Oh noes @Cherchezlaspice now my weekend is ruined 😭

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I would recall the email - and then not worry about it right now, RELAX and enjoy your weekend

Obviously when you find out who the sender was, after making some enquiries, you can thank them

But it really isnt an urgent matter you need to deal with right now