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I know this will be contentious - cost of living rise
qualitychat · 31/08/2022 19:57
My mum is a pensioner and gets Disability Benefit and Mobility Benefit and Pension Credit. She receives almost what I get in a month. She is moaning about the Government not doing enough about the cost of gas and electricity, which I agree with. The thing is they have said that people on benefits and pension credit will be given lump sums towards their bills. I am a middle earner and so is my husband. We will likely get nothing. Do you not think it will be the ordinary working families who will be squeezed the most if something is not done?
Am I being unreasonable?
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Rosscameasdoody · 03/09/2022 12:22
UndertheCedartree · 03/09/2022 12:11
You really don't need to heat your house to the same level as an elderly person because you have a young baby. It's really not comparable.
Thisismynamenow · 31/08/2022 20:17
I have a very young baby so have the need to heat my house too, probably to a similar level as a pensioner.
I'm a civil servant so have no option to ask for a payrise OR to increase my hours. Actually I could be 1 on the 91,000 to lose to be made redundant.
My husband already works 40+ hours so has no option to work addition hours and his boss has refused payrises. I suspect this is going to be the case for most retail workers.
Middle earners will struggle. Its not unreasonable to assume the government should help all households, equal to close to the amount they help pensioners who actually earn a middle income in benefits..
CredibilityProblem · 31/08/2022 20:05
In general, people with disabilities and older people are more likely to need to use their heating than working age people with no disabilities. So even with the same income it would be reasonable for the government to give her more support.
Also in general, working age people may have more opportunities to work extra hours to increase their income or ask for a pay rise than disabled pensioners.
Agree, or to the level of someone who has a disability such as rheumatoid arthritis, exacerbated by the cold. And yet another poster assuming that all pensioners earn a ‘middle income’ on benefits. Each month my mum gets £550 basic pension, £368 pension credit and £360 attendance allowance. £1278 is hardly a middle income is it ?
Discovereads · 03/09/2022 15:38
RunningSME · 02/09/2022 22:59
@Discovereads its a totally different scenario to the one you described. I cant explain it any more cleaely ypu either get it or you dont 🙄
Discovereads · 01/09/2022 16:40
How is it bollocks. You said that @antelopevalley was lying about her married friend needing her husband to co-sign on a mortgage in the 1990s because you as a single woman didn’t need to get anyone else’s signature when you got a business loan. I have just posted proof that even today many lenders will require a married woman to get their spouse to co sign on a mortgage. The reason why that is hardly matters, the facts still remains if you’re a married woman you can be required by a lender, even today, to get your husbands co signature to get a mortgage loan.
RunningSME · 01/09/2022 10:53
@Discovereads Yeah, that is complete bollocks.
The link that you have provided is explaining why a married person couldn’t get a mortgage in their soul name due to the fact that they are indeed married and therefore the other person they are married to would be entitled to a percentage of the property that they are about to purchase and therefore the banks protection would be reduced because they could actually only secure the asset against 50% of the married couple whilst the other 50% wouldn’t have their name on the mortgage and therefore wouldn’t be held accountable for any losses but would be entitled to any gains.
That is an entirely different scenario, couldn’t be any further apart.
Discovereads · 01/09/2022 10:49
I think @antelopevalley is telling the truth about 1994. Because even today it says lenders can and do refuse to give a married person a sole mortgage in their name only and will require a joint mortgage with both spouses signing as a condition of getting a mortgage. See it says, “your choice of lenders might be reduced” meaning lenders aren’t required to approve you for a sole mortgage when married, they can and do discriminate and can and do require a joint mortgage with the spouse Co-signing. It’s not hard to then presume this would disproportionately affect women due to the gender pay gap and societal sexism.
“Can you get a mortgage in just your name if you’re married?
Yes, but the majority of lenders prefer that couples who are married or in a civil partnership take out a joint mortgage, however, there are a plethora of reasons that you may want to take out a mortgage independently of your spouse or civil partner. Your choice of lenders might be reduced in these circumstances, but there are specialist mortgage providers who will be able to accommodate your needs.”
www.onlinemortgageadvisor.co.uk/mortgage-application/so-youre-married-but-want-a-mortgage-in-just-your-name/
RunningSME · 01/09/2022 10:31
@Discovereads at 18 ? No i was not married 🙄
Discovereads · 01/09/2022 10:22
Were you married though? Single women always had more rights than married women.
RunningSME · 01/09/2022 10:19
Yeah I’m afraid that isn’t true, 1994 I left school at 18 and got a mortgage on my own and a loan to set up a business sorry to spoil a good story.
antelopevalley · 01/09/2022 10:13
Exactly. My mum when she was working full time could have afforded a mortgage but had no male guarantor. As a divorcee shunned by her family nobody would lend to her.
People forget how recently things have changed for women. A friend setting up her own business in the nineties could not get a loan without her husband's signature agreeing on the loan.
ancientgran · 01/09/2022 10:08
Very true, my MIL became a widow in the 1940s, he died as a result of war injuries so although he died in 1949 she was classed as a war widow and got a pension from his country, much higher than she would have got if he had been in the British forces. She couldn't get a mortgage, she had a good job, she had a very secure pension but as she had no male guarantor she couldn't get a mortgage. She lived in a council house until her death. If she had been able to get a mortgage in the 50s 60s or even 70s her financial situation would have been so different.
justasking111 · 01/09/2022 09:25
Such an excellent post. I know widowed women with children who never caught up financially. My own parents divorced went from a lovely home to renting then sheltered accommodation as they aged. People who lost businesses in the 90s folks have forgotten that recession. So many reasons
antelopevalley · 01/09/2022 09:16
People forget how women used to be treated. My mum was shafted in her divorce when the man's pension was usually ignored in the divorce - the only asset he had as he spent every penny he got. She was supposed to get maintenance but got none. There was no afterschool clubs or nurseries. She worked by cobbling together help from a few neighbours - her family ostracised her as she was divorced - the stigma was real then.
Through working and bringing up children alone with only help from a few neighbours who looked after us for money, she managed to pay for everything. But I see so many people here with partners say how hard they find it bringing up children with no other family help. My mum left for work at 8 am in the morning after dropping us off at a neighbours and then picked us up at 6pm. As soon as she was back from work she had us 24/7. She had zero help from anyone.
Women were still often paid less than men legally until 1970 and even then illegally for quite a bit after, various court cases changed that.
She rented. Not because she relied on the state. If she had she would never have worked. But because she when younger could not get a mortgage without a male guarantor and had none. And by the time that had eased, she was getting bad arthritis and knew she would be unlikely to be able to work until 60, the retirement age. She did have to leave work young as the arthritis especially in her hands made simple tasks like turning a tap on and off extremely difficult, she could not use a laptop to work.
I find some people pronounce from their ivory tower about what people should or should not have done with zero understanding of real people's lives. Another relative was also divorced and never worked, instead living on benefits and buying her council place. You would see her as more worthy because she owned a property. A property incidentally that she did not have enough money to maintain and over the years it deteriorated badly.
Wouldloveanother · 01/09/2022 09:01
Pensioners, like everyone else, won’t enjoy the same quality of life as others if they make bad financial decisions. They were dealt much better cards to achieve this than we have - if they are renting in later life, it tends to be because they haven’t made sensible decisions throughout their working life and have relied on the state pension to ‘save’ them at the end of it.
And I think a lot of people forget just how astronomically high the cost of living is if you have small children. Full time nursery is a minimum of 1k p/m. It’s utter madness. So posters on here with a couple of young kids on £60k could actually be doing worse than people who rely on benefits.
Morph22010 · 01/09/2022 06:13
You need to factor in that pensioners don’t have the same costs though, so no childcare and for a lot if they have had a mortgage it’s paid off so no mortgage or rent to pay. Privately renting pensioners are the ones that will struggle most though
Discovereads · 01/09/2022 00:51
“Very generous” meaning a whopping average of £148/week or £7,696 per annum for the lucky ones who had them.
Keep in mind, you don’t get pension credit if your workplace pension gets you to or over the full state pension of £185/week. Which will apply to the vast majority of pensioners, especially women.
But even looking at the very very few better off pensioners who have this £148/wk and also get the full £185/wk from state pension- that puts their huge amounts of wealth at £17,316 per annum.
Compare that to the average wage of £29,600 per annum.
MsPincher · 01/09/2022 00:01
Most did. And many had very generous final salary schemes. So no, pensions are not new at all!
antelopevalley · 31/08/2022 23:55
And many older people who paid into private pensions had no employer contributions.
I didn’t describe any scenario other than to say that I believe @antelopevalley who merely stated that her married friend couldn’t get the loan in the 1990s without her husband to co-sign. You then said it was bollocks because you as a single woman got a loan on your own. I then said single is not the same scenario as married and post proof and now you’re going on about it’s not the scenario I described! The only scenario was a married woman in the 1990s needed her husband to co sign. It not only was true, but is still is true today for many lenders. It’s you who is confused and thing single women and married women were always treated the same.
Discovereads · 03/09/2022 15:40
whatsthestory123 · 03/09/2022 01:09
dont you get the £400 and the £150 ct
Discovereads · 31/08/2022 22:38
I’m disabled, the huge lump sum I will be receiving is £150.
That £150 won’t last very long.
Anyone who thinks I’m in the lap of luxury is seriously deluded.
Yes I get the £400 as does every household- so that hardly counts as “extra help working people don’t get” as everyone is getting that. Not sure what the “£150 ct” refers to.
Rosscameasdoody · 03/09/2022 16:14
Discovereads · 03/09/2022 15:40
Yes I get the £400 as does every household- so that hardly counts as “extra help working people don’t get” as everyone is getting that. Not sure what the “£150 ct” refers to.
whatsthestory123 · 03/09/2022 01:09
dont you get the £400 and the £150 ct
Discovereads · 31/08/2022 22:38
I’m disabled, the huge lump sum I will be receiving is £150.
That £150 won’t last very long.
Anyone who thinks I’m in the lap of luxury is seriously deluded.
I assumed it referred to the £150 paid to those on DLA/AA/PIP.
Rosscameasdoody · 03/09/2022 16:18
kateandme · 02/09/2022 23:41
I get it. And I’m sorry. And it infuriates me when I see these posts and posters and wonder how your holding it together reading such vile bullshit. I cannot and they cannot imagine the struggle those like yourselves live off. And I’m beyond angry every day that the help is so dam little and not even close to being able to live off. Not without fear,doom and dread almost every dam day.and I don’t get how people cannot see the pay you get and get it into their head how horrific it is.
XenoBitch · 02/09/2022 22:42
I am on benefits due to MH issues, as are a lot of my friends. None of us complain as it has been a thing for us for years anyway.
That does not mean we are not struggling, or are "rolling in it".
We would all happily swap our MH issues for the shot at a normal life.
for you and your son. He is lucky to have you.
Ffsmakeitstop · 02/09/2022 21:13
My son lives on benefits due to his mental health issues. He gets £78.00 a week. He gets his rent paid but has to pay £40 council tax, £30 water plus gas and electric every month. I help him with food and extra electric. He already only pays gas standing charge and doesn't put his heating on. So please kindly fuck off with not knowing anyone struggling on benefits.
Yes he got the cost of living payment and bought an extra duvet and new underwear because the only time he gets new clothes is Christmas.
Am I cross that I won't get any help because I work full time? Yes I am but I'm bloody grateful I am better off than some and don't begrudge them the help.
RosetteNebula · 31/08/2022 20:12
Exactly what me and my Mum have been saying. It's workers who will suffer. I'm willing to believe they exist but I don't know a single pensioner or person on benefits who is struggling for money.
Yes, there’s a lovely sentiment running through this thread isn’t there ? If disabled people and other benefit claimants aren’t struggling, they’re obviously being paid too generously and we should lower means testing thresholds until they do struggle. Because they deserve it. Scrounging bastards.
whatsthestory123 · 03/09/2022 21:52
Rosscameasdoody · 03/09/2022 11:42
She’s already told you her daughter is on disability benefits and how the income is split. the figures you’re giving don’t make any sense. DLA rates for children can be anywhere from £18 a week up to over £600 depending on level of disability. And she can’t claim UC because it’s an income replacement benefit, as is carers allowance, which she is already claiming - and you can’t claim both. Don’t really understand your post - you seem to be disputing something but I can’t tell what.
whatsthestory123 · 02/09/2022 23:58
dont you get tax credit or universal credit ?????
your DLA for your daughter must be £500 a month £80 cb £240 ca
Facecream · 31/08/2022 20:43
Oh and for the record I am “on benefits “.
My daughter (seriously disabled physically and mentally) qualifies for higher rate DLA and mobility component (which goes on our WAV).
I get Child benefit and carer’s allowance.
So, my income is whatever child benefit is £86 or whatever plus £270 a month for carer’s allowance.
My DH is self-employed and warns about £20,000.
Believe me I struggle for money.
I haven’t been to a hairdresser since January 2020.
Im still wearing Next jogging sand T-shirts I bought after I had DD (five years ago).
We don’t eat out or get takeaway (other than recently when DH had hand surgery).
I go nowhere and my hobby is reading or drawing/painting- the items for which I get as birthday and Christmas presents.
Please give me some tips on how to live a life of luxury on benefits!!!
I spend £130 on therapy and Sertraline per month (at least) - mostly arising from PTSD caused by an assault by a hospital consultant.
I’ve had to pay £500 court fees to take the matter to court. Pay £60 phone. About £40 (minimum) on petrol each month. £30-£40 on incontinence products for DD).
Not much left after that..
And I have heard nothing about getting a “lump sum” from the government.
What we did get was most of my daughter’s care in terms of physiotherapy and OT and regular doctor appointments cut.
What kind of benefits benefit people I wonder? 9 years ago I had a salary of upwards of £45,000 and that was a starting point for me.
so, I’d take work over carer’s allowance (and the corresponding situation for my family) any day.
because people are leaving out money they are getting and making out they are worse of than they are making out they are getting less than they are
some on here dont have a basic knowledge of benefits so rhe wool can be pulled over their eyes but some do have an idea and im amazed rhat so many try to leave the ££ out as it will not look good with some add on's
also the lady who's dh is self employed did not answer the ?? from posters i wonder why probably because they do get UC and CA is claimed so high is awarded
HERE op's partial post
My daughter (seriously disabled physically and mentally) qualifies for higher rate DLA and mobility component (which goes on our WAV).
i thought you knew everything obviously not i suggest read the threads well before getting it all wrong and yes the lady gets high both rate DLA for her daughter,maybe you should re read
RP2211 · 04/09/2022 04:55
Discovereads · 03/09/2022 15:38
I didn’t describe any scenario other than to say that I believe @antelopevalley who merely stated that her married friend couldn’t get the loan in the 1990s without her husband to co-sign. You then said it was bollocks because you as a single woman got a loan on your own. I then said single is not the same scenario as married and post proof and now you’re going on about it’s not the scenario I described! The only scenario was a married woman in the 1990s needed her husband to co sign. It not only was true, but is still is true today for many lenders. It’s you who is confused and thing single women and married women were always treated the same.
RunningSME · 02/09/2022 22:59
@Discovereads its a totally different scenario to the one you described. I cant explain it any more cleaely ypu either get it or you dont 🙄
Discovereads · 01/09/2022 16:40
How is it bollocks. You said that @antelopevalley was lying about her married friend needing her husband to co-sign on a mortgage in the 1990s because you as a single woman didn’t need to get anyone else’s signature when you got a business loan. I have just posted proof that even today many lenders will require a married woman to get their spouse to co sign on a mortgage. The reason why that is hardly matters, the facts still remains if you’re a married woman you can be required by a lender, even today, to get your husbands co signature to get a mortgage loan.
RunningSME · 01/09/2022 10:53
@Discovereads Yeah, that is complete bollocks.
The link that you have provided is explaining why a married person couldn’t get a mortgage in their soul name due to the fact that they are indeed married and therefore the other person they are married to would be entitled to a percentage of the property that they are about to purchase and therefore the banks protection would be reduced because they could actually only secure the asset against 50% of the married couple whilst the other 50% wouldn’t have their name on the mortgage and therefore wouldn’t be held accountable for any losses but would be entitled to any gains.
That is an entirely different scenario, couldn’t be any further apart.
Discovereads · 01/09/2022 10:49
I think @antelopevalley is telling the truth about 1994. Because even today it says lenders can and do refuse to give a married person a sole mortgage in their name only and will require a joint mortgage with both spouses signing as a condition of getting a mortgage. See it says, “your choice of lenders might be reduced” meaning lenders aren’t required to approve you for a sole mortgage when married, they can and do discriminate and can and do require a joint mortgage with the spouse Co-signing. It’s not hard to then presume this would disproportionately affect women due to the gender pay gap and societal sexism.
“Can you get a mortgage in just your name if you’re married?
Yes, but the majority of lenders prefer that couples who are married or in a civil partnership take out a joint mortgage, however, there are a plethora of reasons that you may want to take out a mortgage independently of your spouse or civil partner. Your choice of lenders might be reduced in these circumstances, but there are specialist mortgage providers who will be able to accommodate your needs.”
www.onlinemortgageadvisor.co.uk/mortgage-application/so-youre-married-but-want-a-mortgage-in-just-your-name/
RunningSME · 01/09/2022 10:31
@Discovereads at 18 ? No i was not married 🙄
Discovereads · 01/09/2022 10:22
Were you married though? Single women always had more rights than married women.
RunningSME · 01/09/2022 10:19
Yeah I’m afraid that isn’t true, 1994 I left school at 18 and got a mortgage on my own and a loan to set up a business sorry to spoil a good story.
antelopevalley · 01/09/2022 10:13
Exactly. My mum when she was working full time could have afforded a mortgage but had no male guarantor. As a divorcee shunned by her family nobody would lend to her.
People forget how recently things have changed for women. A friend setting up her own business in the nineties could not get a loan without her husband's signature agreeing on the loan.
ancientgran · 01/09/2022 10:08
Very true, my MIL became a widow in the 1940s, he died as a result of war injuries so although he died in 1949 she was classed as a war widow and got a pension from his country, much higher than she would have got if he had been in the British forces. She couldn't get a mortgage, she had a good job, she had a very secure pension but as she had no male guarantor she couldn't get a mortgage. She lived in a council house until her death. If she had been able to get a mortgage in the 50s 60s or even 70s her financial situation would have been so different.
justasking111 · 01/09/2022 09:25
Such an excellent post. I know widowed women with children who never caught up financially. My own parents divorced went from a lovely home to renting then sheltered accommodation as they aged. People who lost businesses in the 90s folks have forgotten that recession. So many reasons
antelopevalley · 01/09/2022 09:16
People forget how women used to be treated. My mum was shafted in her divorce when the man's pension was usually ignored in the divorce - the only asset he had as he spent every penny he got. She was supposed to get maintenance but got none. There was no afterschool clubs or nurseries. She worked by cobbling together help from a few neighbours - her family ostracised her as she was divorced - the stigma was real then.
Through working and bringing up children alone with only help from a few neighbours who looked after us for money, she managed to pay for everything. But I see so many people here with partners say how hard they find it bringing up children with no other family help. My mum left for work at 8 am in the morning after dropping us off at a neighbours and then picked us up at 6pm. As soon as she was back from work she had us 24/7. She had zero help from anyone.
Women were still often paid less than men legally until 1970 and even then illegally for quite a bit after, various court cases changed that.
She rented. Not because she relied on the state. If she had she would never have worked. But because she when younger could not get a mortgage without a male guarantor and had none. And by the time that had eased, she was getting bad arthritis and knew she would be unlikely to be able to work until 60, the retirement age. She did have to leave work young as the arthritis especially in her hands made simple tasks like turning a tap on and off extremely difficult, she could not use a laptop to work.
I find some people pronounce from their ivory tower about what people should or should not have done with zero understanding of real people's lives. Another relative was also divorced and never worked, instead living on benefits and buying her council place. You would see her as more worthy because she owned a property. A property incidentally that she did not have enough money to maintain and over the years it deteriorated badly.
Wouldloveanother · 01/09/2022 09:01
Pensioners, like everyone else, won’t enjoy the same quality of life as others if they make bad financial decisions. They were dealt much better cards to achieve this than we have - if they are renting in later life, it tends to be because they haven’t made sensible decisions throughout their working life and have relied on the state pension to ‘save’ them at the end of it.
And I think a lot of people forget just how astronomically high the cost of living is if you have small children. Full time nursery is a minimum of 1k p/m. It’s utter madness. So posters on here with a couple of young kids on £60k could actually be doing worse than people who rely on benefits.
Morph22010 · 01/09/2022 06:13
You need to factor in that pensioners don’t have the same costs though, so no childcare and for a lot if they have had a mortgage it’s paid off so no mortgage or rent to pay. Privately renting pensioners are the ones that will struggle most though
Discovereads · 01/09/2022 00:51
“Very generous” meaning a whopping average of £148/week or £7,696 per annum for the lucky ones who had them.
Keep in mind, you don’t get pension credit if your workplace pension gets you to or over the full state pension of £185/week. Which will apply to the vast majority of pensioners, especially women.
But even looking at the very very few better off pensioners who have this £148/wk and also get the full £185/wk from state pension- that puts their huge amounts of wealth at £17,316 per annum.
Compare that to the average wage of £29,600 per annum.
MsPincher · 01/09/2022 00:01
Most did. And many had very generous final salary schemes. So no, pensions are not new at all!
antelopevalley · 31/08/2022 23:55
And many older people who paid into private pensions had no employer contributions.
This BS does not happen anymore. A single woman CAN get a loan.
Discovereads · 04/09/2022 12:29
RP2211 · 04/09/2022 04:55
This BS does not happen anymore. A single woman CAN get a loan.
Discovereads · 03/09/2022 15:38
I didn’t describe any scenario other than to say that I believe @antelopevalley who merely stated that her married friend couldn’t get the loan in the 1990s without her husband to co-sign. You then said it was bollocks because you as a single woman got a loan on your own. I then said single is not the same scenario as married and post proof and now you’re going on about it’s not the scenario I described! The only scenario was a married woman in the 1990s needed her husband to co sign. It not only was true, but is still is true today for many lenders. It’s you who is confused and thing single women and married women were always treated the same.
RunningSME · 02/09/2022 22:59
@Discovereads its a totally different scenario to the one you described. I cant explain it any more cleaely ypu either get it or you dont 🙄
Discovereads · 01/09/2022 16:40
How is it bollocks. You said that @antelopevalley was lying about her married friend needing her husband to co-sign on a mortgage in the 1990s because you as a single woman didn’t need to get anyone else’s signature when you got a business loan. I have just posted proof that even today many lenders will require a married woman to get their spouse to co sign on a mortgage. The reason why that is hardly matters, the facts still remains if you’re a married woman you can be required by a lender, even today, to get your husbands co signature to get a mortgage loan.
RunningSME · 01/09/2022 10:53
@Discovereads Yeah, that is complete bollocks.
The link that you have provided is explaining why a married person couldn’t get a mortgage in their soul name due to the fact that they are indeed married and therefore the other person they are married to would be entitled to a percentage of the property that they are about to purchase and therefore the banks protection would be reduced because they could actually only secure the asset against 50% of the married couple whilst the other 50% wouldn’t have their name on the mortgage and therefore wouldn’t be held accountable for any losses but would be entitled to any gains.
That is an entirely different scenario, couldn’t be any further apart.
Discovereads · 01/09/2022 10:49
I think @antelopevalley is telling the truth about 1994. Because even today it says lenders can and do refuse to give a married person a sole mortgage in their name only and will require a joint mortgage with both spouses signing as a condition of getting a mortgage. See it says, “your choice of lenders might be reduced” meaning lenders aren’t required to approve you for a sole mortgage when married, they can and do discriminate and can and do require a joint mortgage with the spouse Co-signing. It’s not hard to then presume this would disproportionately affect women due to the gender pay gap and societal sexism.
“Can you get a mortgage in just your name if you’re married?
Yes, but the majority of lenders prefer that couples who are married or in a civil partnership take out a joint mortgage, however, there are a plethora of reasons that you may want to take out a mortgage independently of your spouse or civil partner. Your choice of lenders might be reduced in these circumstances, but there are specialist mortgage providers who will be able to accommodate your needs.”
www.onlinemortgageadvisor.co.uk/mortgage-application/so-youre-married-but-want-a-mortgage-in-just-your-name/
RunningSME · 01/09/2022 10:31
@Discovereads at 18 ? No i was not married 🙄
Discovereads · 01/09/2022 10:22
Were you married though? Single women always had more rights than married women.
RunningSME · 01/09/2022 10:19
Yeah I’m afraid that isn’t true, 1994 I left school at 18 and got a mortgage on my own and a loan to set up a business sorry to spoil a good story.
antelopevalley · 01/09/2022 10:13
Exactly. My mum when she was working full time could have afforded a mortgage but had no male guarantor. As a divorcee shunned by her family nobody would lend to her.
People forget how recently things have changed for women. A friend setting up her own business in the nineties could not get a loan without her husband's signature agreeing on the loan.
ancientgran · 01/09/2022 10:08
Very true, my MIL became a widow in the 1940s, he died as a result of war injuries so although he died in 1949 she was classed as a war widow and got a pension from his country, much higher than she would have got if he had been in the British forces. She couldn't get a mortgage, she had a good job, she had a very secure pension but as she had no male guarantor she couldn't get a mortgage. She lived in a council house until her death. If she had been able to get a mortgage in the 50s 60s or even 70s her financial situation would have been so different.
justasking111 · 01/09/2022 09:25
Such an excellent post. I know widowed women with children who never caught up financially. My own parents divorced went from a lovely home to renting then sheltered accommodation as they aged. People who lost businesses in the 90s folks have forgotten that recession. So many reasons
antelopevalley · 01/09/2022 09:16
People forget how women used to be treated. My mum was shafted in her divorce when the man's pension was usually ignored in the divorce - the only asset he had as he spent every penny he got. She was supposed to get maintenance but got none. There was no afterschool clubs or nurseries. She worked by cobbling together help from a few neighbours - her family ostracised her as she was divorced - the stigma was real then.
Through working and bringing up children alone with only help from a few neighbours who looked after us for money, she managed to pay for everything. But I see so many people here with partners say how hard they find it bringing up children with no other family help. My mum left for work at 8 am in the morning after dropping us off at a neighbours and then picked us up at 6pm. As soon as she was back from work she had us 24/7. She had zero help from anyone.
Women were still often paid less than men legally until 1970 and even then illegally for quite a bit after, various court cases changed that.
She rented. Not because she relied on the state. If she had she would never have worked. But because she when younger could not get a mortgage without a male guarantor and had none. And by the time that had eased, she was getting bad arthritis and knew she would be unlikely to be able to work until 60, the retirement age. She did have to leave work young as the arthritis especially in her hands made simple tasks like turning a tap on and off extremely difficult, she could not use a laptop to work.
I find some people pronounce from their ivory tower about what people should or should not have done with zero understanding of real people's lives. Another relative was also divorced and never worked, instead living on benefits and buying her council place. You would see her as more worthy because she owned a property. A property incidentally that she did not have enough money to maintain and over the years it deteriorated badly.
Wouldloveanother · 01/09/2022 09:01
Pensioners, like everyone else, won’t enjoy the same quality of life as others if they make bad financial decisions. They were dealt much better cards to achieve this than we have - if they are renting in later life, it tends to be because they haven’t made sensible decisions throughout their working life and have relied on the state pension to ‘save’ them at the end of it.
And I think a lot of people forget just how astronomically high the cost of living is if you have small children. Full time nursery is a minimum of 1k p/m. It’s utter madness. So posters on here with a couple of young kids on £60k could actually be doing worse than people who rely on benefits.
Morph22010 · 01/09/2022 06:13
You need to factor in that pensioners don’t have the same costs though, so no childcare and for a lot if they have had a mortgage it’s paid off so no mortgage or rent to pay. Privately renting pensioners are the ones that will struggle most though
Discovereads · 01/09/2022 00:51
“Very generous” meaning a whopping average of £148/week or £7,696 per annum for the lucky ones who had them.
Keep in mind, you don’t get pension credit if your workplace pension gets you to or over the full state pension of £185/week. Which will apply to the vast majority of pensioners, especially women.
But even looking at the very very few better off pensioners who have this £148/wk and also get the full £185/wk from state pension- that puts their huge amounts of wealth at £17,316 per annum.
Compare that to the average wage of £29,600 per annum.
MsPincher · 01/09/2022 00:01
Most did. And many had very generous final salary schemes. So no, pensions are not new at all!
antelopevalley · 31/08/2022 23:55
And many older people who paid into private pensions had no employer contributions.
I never said a single woman couldn’t!
Discovereads · 04/09/2022 12:31
the80sweregreat · 04/09/2022 05:37
Ct is the council tax refund but only for homes in the A to D bracket.
I received mine in May.
Ok. But again that’s not help for being disabled. The only help I get for being disabled is £150 lump sum due to being on PIP. As a pp said, the media has made it sound like disabled are getting £1200 for being disabled.
Discovereads · 04/09/2022 12:56
MrsDanversRidesAgain · 04/09/2022 12:33
Go back to page 18, it was explained on there why a husband would be asked to co-sign a loan t his wife.
The purported reason why doesn’t matter imho. You read past politicians and philosophers on reasons why a wife must get a husband to give permission for something, or sign with her or for her…well the reasons are endless and cloaked in logic. But it all boils down to the same thing, they have to make sure womenz aren’t accidentally spending all their money on shoes and eyeliner.
Morph22010 · 04/09/2022 14:36
Rosscameasdoody · 01/09/2022 20:21
But if you were earning a salary the NI wouldn’t be a credit, you would actually pay it. And if you’re below the earnings threshold you wouldn’t be paying it and would still have to claim carers credit on the underlying entitlement.
Morph22010 · 01/09/2022 06:32
You wouldn’t need to claim to get the ni credits that come with carers if you were working and no longer able to claim carers as you’d get the ni credit from your salary instead
howtotrainam · 01/09/2022 01:21
@antelopevalley if I earned over about £120 a week I wouldn't. It would all be taken off so you're not actually paid anything at all (carers allowance) but I think you can still 'claim' without receiving the money for the pension credits, I think?
That’s not correct. You get ni credit if your salary is above the ni limit which is £123 a week but you don’t actually pay any ni until your are above the primary threshold which is £190 a week. Carers allowance is lost at £132 a week so anyone earning enough to lose carers is earning above the lower earnings limit so will get ni credit
MrsDanversRidesAgain · 04/09/2022 15:35
well the reasons are endless and cloaked in logic. But it all boils down to the same thing, they have to make sure womenz aren’t accidentally spending all their money on shoes and eyeliner
OK. Whatever. I mean, you're wrong but you've got a bee in your bonnet about it that no reasoned argument is going to shift. My mother was the same, no amount of logic or evidence would convince her otherwise and arguing with her was like beating your head against a brick wall because she always had to be right, however illogical her stance and whatever we said to demonstrate otherwise.
RunningSME · 04/09/2022 15:52
MrsDanversRidesAgain · 04/09/2022 15:35
well the reasons are endless and cloaked in logic. But it all boils down to the same thing, they have to make sure womenz aren’t accidentally spending all their money on shoes and eyeliner
OK. Whatever. I mean, you're wrong but you've got a bee in your bonnet about it that no reasoned argument is going to shift. My mother was the same, no amount of logic or evidence would convince her otherwise and arguing with her was like beating your head against a brick wall because she always had to be right, however illogical her stance and whatever we said to demonstrate otherwise.
Tried to explain in detail why the two scenarios are completely legally different, you’re wasting your breath
Legofigure · 04/09/2022 16:11
Rosscameasdoody · 03/09/2022 11:42
She’s already told you her daughter is on disability benefits and how the income is split. the figures you’re giving don’t make any sense. DLA rates for children can be anywhere from £18 a week up to over £600 depending on level of disability. And she can’t claim UC because it’s an income replacement benefit, as is carers allowance, which she is already claiming - and you can’t claim both. Don’t really understand your post - you seem to be disputing something but I can’t tell what.
whatsthestory123 · 02/09/2022 23:58
dont you get tax credit or universal credit ?????
your DLA for your daughter must be £500 a month £80 cb £240 ca
Facecream · 31/08/2022 20:43
Oh and for the record I am “on benefits “.
My daughter (seriously disabled physically and mentally) qualifies for higher rate DLA and mobility component (which goes on our WAV).
I get Child benefit and carer’s allowance.
So, my income is whatever child benefit is £86 or whatever plus £270 a month for carer’s allowance.
My DH is self-employed and warns about £20,000.
Believe me I struggle for money.
I haven’t been to a hairdresser since January 2020.
Im still wearing Next jogging sand T-shirts I bought after I had DD (five years ago).
We don’t eat out or get takeaway (other than recently when DH had hand surgery).
I go nowhere and my hobby is reading or drawing/painting- the items for which I get as birthday and Christmas presents.
Please give me some tips on how to live a life of luxury on benefits!!!
I spend £130 on therapy and Sertraline per month (at least) - mostly arising from PTSD caused by an assault by a hospital consultant.
I’ve had to pay £500 court fees to take the matter to court. Pay £60 phone. About £40 (minimum) on petrol each month. £30-£40 on incontinence products for DD).
Not much left after that..
And I have heard nothing about getting a “lump sum” from the government.
What we did get was most of my daughter’s care in terms of physiotherapy and OT and regular doctor appointments cut.
What kind of benefits benefit people I wonder? 9 years ago I had a salary of upwards of £45,000 and that was a starting point for me.
so, I’d take work over carer’s allowance (and the corresponding situation for my family) any day.
You can claim UC and carer’s allowance at the same time, UC just deduct the CA £ for £. A family on CA and £20k pa with a severely disabled DC would be eligible for UC.
HRC/HRM DLA is over £600 per 4 weeks, although the poster will only be receiving just short of £370 of that in money due to the WAV.
Morph22010 · 04/09/2022 16:48
PinkRiceKrispies · 04/09/2022 15:22
I don't understand the NI credit bit. So if you earn £123 a week your employer pays the NI or is it not credited at all ?
you get ni credit for state pension purposes, ie it counts as a year you’ve paid ni when counting how many years you have to see if you qualify for state pension but you don’t actually have to pay anything
Rosscameasdoody · 04/09/2022 16:48
whatsthestory123 · 03/09/2022 21:52
because people are leaving out money they are getting and making out they are worse of than they are making out they are getting less than they are
some on here dont have a basic knowledge of benefits so rhe wool can be pulled over their eyes but some do have an idea and im amazed rhat so many try to leave the ££ out as it will not look good with some add on's
also the lady who's dh is self employed did not answer the ?? from posters i wonder why probably because they do get UC and CA is claimed so high is awarded
HERE op's partial post
My daughter (seriously disabled physically and mentally) qualifies for higher rate DLA and mobility component (which goes on our WAV).
i thought you knew everything obviously not i suggest read the threads well before getting it all wrong and yes the lady gets high both rate DLA for her daughter,maybe you should re read
Rosscameasdoody · 03/09/2022 11:42
She’s already told you her daughter is on disability benefits and how the income is split. the figures you’re giving don’t make any sense. DLA rates for children can be anywhere from £18 a week up to over £600 depending on level of disability. And she can’t claim UC because it’s an income replacement benefit, as is carers allowance, which she is already claiming - and you can’t claim both. Don’t really understand your post - you seem to be disputing something but I can’t tell what.
whatsthestory123 · 02/09/2022 23:58
dont you get tax credit or universal credit ?????
your DLA for your daughter must be £500 a month £80 cb £240 ca
Facecream · 31/08/2022 20:43
Oh and for the record I am “on benefits “.
My daughter (seriously disabled physically and mentally) qualifies for higher rate DLA and mobility component (which goes on our WAV).
I get Child benefit and carer’s allowance.
So, my income is whatever child benefit is £86 or whatever plus £270 a month for carer’s allowance.
My DH is self-employed and warns about £20,000.
Believe me I struggle for money.
I haven’t been to a hairdresser since January 2020.
Im still wearing Next jogging sand T-shirts I bought after I had DD (five years ago).
We don’t eat out or get takeaway (other than recently when DH had hand surgery).
I go nowhere and my hobby is reading or drawing/painting- the items for which I get as birthday and Christmas presents.
Please give me some tips on how to live a life of luxury on benefits!!!
I spend £130 on therapy and Sertraline per month (at least) - mostly arising from PTSD caused by an assault by a hospital consultant.
I’ve had to pay £500 court fees to take the matter to court. Pay £60 phone. About £40 (minimum) on petrol each month. £30-£40 on incontinence products for DD).
Not much left after that..
And I have heard nothing about getting a “lump sum” from the government.
What we did get was most of my daughter’s care in terms of physiotherapy and OT and regular doctor appointments cut.
What kind of benefits benefit people I wonder? 9 years ago I had a salary of upwards of £45,000 and that was a starting point for me.
so, I’d take work over carer’s allowance (and the corresponding situation for my family) any day.
I wasn’t being rude - I genuinely didn’t understand the point you were trying to make in your post. I’ve read the thread and the lady’s post and I asked for clarification of yours because I didn’t understand the point you were disputing, that was all. You obviously didn’t read my post further down, correcting myself because I posted £600 a week and meant per month - every four weeks to be exact. Not that I don’t know what I’m talking about. - just that I posted before I realised how it read and there is no edit facility on MN. And yes, obviously less because of the motability vehicle direct payment from mobility component.
But I am correct in that Carer's Allowance counts as income when UC is calculated. It’s deducted from UC pound for pound. An extra amount is then added to UC called a 'carer element' but it’s paid at a lower rate than CA, which is £69.70 per week and the carer element of UC is paid monthly and works out at £38.85 a week. You cannot claim CA and UC at the same time - CA is classed as an income replacement benefit, as is UC and you can’t claim both. There are other benefits such as ESA or JSA which are also income replacement benefits so you can’t claim CA with them either - income related ESA would attract a carers premium similar to UC.
I also don’t think the poster was trying to leave anything out, or make out she’s worse off than she is. She hasn’t said she is claiming UC - she may have savings that take her over the threshold, or she may have worked out that she will be worse off if the amount she can claim is less than CA. Doesn’t make her, or anyone else dishonest.
Rosscameasdoody · 04/09/2022 16:53
Legofigure · 04/09/2022 16:11
You can claim UC and carer’s allowance at the same time, UC just deduct the CA £ for £. A family on CA and £20k pa with a severely disabled DC would be eligible for UC.
HRC/HRM DLA is over £600 per 4 weeks, although the poster will only be receiving just short of £370 of that in money due to the WAV.
Rosscameasdoody · 03/09/2022 11:42
She’s already told you her daughter is on disability benefits and how the income is split. the figures you’re giving don’t make any sense. DLA rates for children can be anywhere from £18 a week up to over £600 depending on level of disability. And she can’t claim UC because it’s an income replacement benefit, as is carers allowance, which she is already claiming - and you can’t claim both. Don’t really understand your post - you seem to be disputing something but I can’t tell what.
whatsthestory123 · 02/09/2022 23:58
dont you get tax credit or universal credit ?????
your DLA for your daughter must be £500 a month £80 cb £240 ca
Facecream · 31/08/2022 20:43
Oh and for the record I am “on benefits “.
My daughter (seriously disabled physically and mentally) qualifies for higher rate DLA and mobility component (which goes on our WAV).
I get Child benefit and carer’s allowance.
So, my income is whatever child benefit is £86 or whatever plus £270 a month for carer’s allowance.
My DH is self-employed and warns about £20,000.
Believe me I struggle for money.
I haven’t been to a hairdresser since January 2020.
Im still wearing Next jogging sand T-shirts I bought after I had DD (five years ago).
We don’t eat out or get takeaway (other than recently when DH had hand surgery).
I go nowhere and my hobby is reading or drawing/painting- the items for which I get as birthday and Christmas presents.
Please give me some tips on how to live a life of luxury on benefits!!!
I spend £130 on therapy and Sertraline per month (at least) - mostly arising from PTSD caused by an assault by a hospital consultant.
I’ve had to pay £500 court fees to take the matter to court. Pay £60 phone. About £40 (minimum) on petrol each month. £30-£40 on incontinence products for DD).
Not much left after that..
And I have heard nothing about getting a “lump sum” from the government.
What we did get was most of my daughter’s care in terms of physiotherapy and OT and regular doctor appointments cut.
What kind of benefits benefit people I wonder? 9 years ago I had a salary of upwards of £45,000 and that was a starting point for me.
so, I’d take work over carer’s allowance (and the corresponding situation for my family) any day.
So they end up without the CA, which is exactly the same thing as I said. You can’t claim UC and CA at the same time - they’re both income replacement benefits. UC would deduct CA pound for pound from UC entitlement and replace it with a carer element, which is much less than CA, so it depends on whether UC entitlement is more than the CA she gets now.
Legofigure · 04/09/2022 16:59
No, it’s not what you said. Stating you can’t claim CA and UC at the same time is incorrect. And, it is not the same thing as stating you can claim UC but UC deduct the amount of CA £ for £. Not the same thing at all as people still receive both benefits. Many claimants claim both at the same time.
UC don’t replace CA with the carer element, it is as well as, and a claimant doesn’t even need to be claiming CA to receive the carer element.
She will not be worse off for claiming UC, it doesn’t work like.
Rosscameasdoody · 04/09/2022 17:23
Morph22010 · 04/09/2022 14:36
That’s not correct. You get ni credit if your salary is above the ni limit which is £123 a week but you don’t actually pay any ni until your are above the primary threshold which is £190 a week. Carers allowance is lost at £132 a week so anyone earning enough to lose carers is earning above the lower earnings limit so will get ni credit
Rosscameasdoody · 01/09/2022 20:21
But if you were earning a salary the NI wouldn’t be a credit, you would actually pay it. And if you’re below the earnings threshold you wouldn’t be paying it and would still have to claim carers credit on the underlying entitlement.
Morph22010 · 01/09/2022 06:32
You wouldn’t need to claim to get the ni credits that come with carers if you were working and no longer able to claim carers as you’d get the ni credit from your salary instead
howtotrainam · 01/09/2022 01:21
@antelopevalley if I earned over about £120 a week I wouldn't. It would all be taken off so you're not actually paid anything at all (carers allowance) but I think you can still 'claim' without receiving the money for the pension credits, I think?
Sorry, you’re right. I omitted to say an NI credit would be made anyway between £123 and £242. I wasn’t getting into the specifics about earnings thresholds for NI as the poster was talking about earning enough to lose CA. The primary threshold is £242, at which NI would actually be paid, rather than being a credit.
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