To say DS won't comply with school uniform?

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For context, school has been terrible about communication so far - not responding to any emails, cancelling a registration day only an hour in advance, etc.

I checked the uniform policy - nothing on website. On the uniform retailer page, there were guidelines, but nothing about boys' trousers and nothing for sale, so I figured there were no restrictions. I bought DS some plain trousers over the summer.

It's now about a week before school starts and a school Whatsapp has been set up. I asked about the uniform just to make sure and a parent with a child already enrolled has replied saying they're only allowed to wear grey uniform trousers from Next or M&S.

It’s too late to return what I bought and I don’t have the funds to buy all new clothes simply because school didn’t bother to tell parents the uniform.

AIBU to send him in in what I bought because there is no information stating differently?

This. See if you can exchanged them for the right colour. Brand won't be important.

Can you try and sell the ones you've bought already on vinted and then buy some grey ones? Don't worry about them being from next or m&s just get some from asda, they're about £2.50 each I think

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This.

Even if the stupid rule is in place just cut off the labels and say you bought them in Next/.M&S, they can hardly dispute this although I would say that the parent has the wrong end of the stick

Your will need to have a working relationship with this school for at least 7 years. This isn't the hill to die on before your child has even started.

Just buy some grey trousers

This situation still doesn't make any sense to me. You should have found out what colour the uniform is long ago

Ps: keep a supply of pound coins, check all methods of communication and book bags for last minute events and try to roll with it - school communication is often rubbish and frustrating.

@TooMuchToDoTooLittleInclination fine, but there's no need to shout at me about it. I'm hardly the first person to fail to read the full thread and neither am I the person who bought incorrect school uniform, so you might want to rein the rage in a bit.

I would definitely see if you can exchange them for the right colour.

They don’t have to be from specific shops like the WhatsApp mum said.

They may have to be a specific style which they do at those shops.
But usually it’s just girls that have this rule as many uniform shops sell trousers that too closely resemble leggings which secondary schools don’t like.

It doesn’t matter the style (as long as they’re not trackie bottoms) or what shop you get them from as long as they’re the correct colour.

You could look on the Facebook page and ask if anyone has any old ones even and say you’ve struggled to find any in your sons size.

The phone number and contact details will also be on google, as well as the local authority website.

You know now. Just swap them or buy cheap ones from Asda. I wouldn't embarrass my kid of myself. You don't want to be that mum. You also don't want people taking the pics out f your kid.

I'm going to stand up for op a bit too as my dd is starting nursery in September I was given no information on uniform, and would not have known what colour trousers they wear from passing the school
Luckily for me the uniform info was on their website, but if it wasn't I wouldn't have had a clue

Presumably he hasn't worn the black and blue trousers yet. Just take them back and swop them for grey ones.
The school have been lax. It's not your fault. But it would be better for your DS if he was wearing the right uniform. It's difficult enough starting school without being the one child in the wrong uniform.
I also believe the lack of phone number. Quite a few organisations in London do the same now. You can email or use a website form but there isn't a phone number on the website. Usually letters would have full contact details for parents though.

It will be on ops school website too if she bothered to look properly.

Have you looked at this website. Search for your school, should have contact details on

www.get-information-schools.service.gov.uk/

Ask in the WA group if anyone has any clothes for aged whatever you need as you didn’t know the colour and nobody answered your emails.
A recent Facebook post here in the local village with two children one primary and one secondary asked about uniform and within two hours had offers of at least 10 sets of everything. So ask. Don’t send him in the wrong uniform. Just don’t.

I don't magically know the standard colour is grey!

It's not 3 local schools in my area, two are black and one is blue (navy), though they wouldn't bat an eyelid if a child came in with a different colour trousers / skirt / dress on as long as it was a plain uniform colour (AS IT SHOULD BE IN THE MIDDLE OF A COST OF LIVING CRISIS!!!!).

Again, I had to really look for it too, it wasn't just under a tab labelled 'uniform'

Why is everyone so angry 😄

A pack of 2 is £6

I can actually believe there's no information. Dd2 is about to start a new school

Theres no uniform policy or any other policies up on the website. Luckily Emails have been responded to though but phone calls have had to be made through other schools in the MAT. We've only recently found out that they have lockers and thats through a photo posted.

The first time the uniform info was available the link to the unifirm shop was missing half the stuff there were no pics for it.

They of course went for grey trousers which despite starting a thread and getting some useful suggestions, I've had to send them all back because they don't fit. Id give anything fir black then she could just have her sisters old ones.

Its really poor if its so vague op.gettjhg organised can be stressful enough without having to constantly email because you don't have any if the information needed.

just for the hell of it because im bored I just googled every primary and secondry in my area followed by the word uniform and not one school out of the 12 I googled did not have a uniform list, in fact the first thing that comes up is images at the top, of the school uniform.

Not RTFT but it's quite simple, if you still have the labels in the ones you've bought, take them back & exchange them, explain the situation, it's not like school uniform is a seasonal thing, they'll be able to sell them again.
If you have cut labels out in afraid you'll have to suck it up & but grey ones.

I can also easily believe that the information is difficult to find on the website. It was so hard to find term dates on DD's junior school website using the website navigation that all the parents used to search through from Google. We brought it up at every parent council meeting. The school said they would fix it. She's now in high school, and the junior school still hasn't fixed their website navigation.

Put in a formal complaint to the governors if there's any comeback at all. Schools have no right to behave like this, especially given the financial hardship many families face. If the head or the governors won't deal with it, going to the local newspaper always works wonders.

Why is everyone so angry 😄

Because telling your child's school they won't comply with the uniform policy rather than simply get the right fucking thing is pathetic?

Eh?

You say there is someone on the WhatsApp group it's a child already there, could you ask them for a phone number?

WTF? Yeah go to the papers op and tell them you are refusing to comply with school uniform.....makes sense