She crossed my face out

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Dd, 4 was drawing a picture of our family-dh, me, her and our dog. She was doing it next to me/with me, all really nice and then she put a big cross over just the picture of my face and said ‘I’m crossing you out’ so I said ‘Oh, why? are you crossing only me out?’ She looked a little sheepish/guilty maybe and didn’t say anymore, I left it at that.
Aibu to feel a bit weird about it, why cross me out and only me 🙈

Because she’s four. Don’t worry about it.

Prob to see your reaction, she’s 4 and prob experimenting with pushing boundaries.

This is the only answer you need. Four year olds do weird things in their pictures, OP.

DS went through a phase of doing pictures for DH that just said “no no no no no no no” across them in big letters. Still no idea why. Wasn’t in the context of being told off or anything. I got hearts

my friend used to say forget the terrible twos its the fucking fours :)

Ouch. Sorry OP. It just feels terrible when little kids do thinks like that doesn’t it.

id have to throw it away 😳

she Loves you and feels safe anf secure with you x

@Serialcatmum So why am I the poor sod with the cross over my face 🙈🤣

@Changechangychange 😂

She's done it because she's testing to see how you react. It's a little power play, quite normal, but I wouldn't have bothered responding to it tbh, I would have just said ok then. If it happens again they can feed off insecurities in a parent and the dynamics can get a bit funny (choosing the opposite parent to the one that wants them etc). All normal stuff - they don't mean it, but don't overrespond as it helps feed it sometimes.

Because she recognizes that you are the alpha female.

Four year olds do really weird shit. She crossed you out to see if there would be a reaction and especially because you are her rock, her constant. You are her safety. She feels safe to push boundaries with you. Trust me, it's nothing personal.

@Boxowine What do you mean?

Agree with PPs.
Another thought: at that age, everything happens 'in the moment'. So if you'd told her off or not let her have/do something - probably so insignificant to you, you won't remember, but meant a lot to her - you're the 'bad guy' for that moment. And the cross is her way of expressing it.

Don't dwell on it OP although I can imagine it must have hurt x

Yep, shes testing her boundaries with you. This is just the tip of the iceberg 😐 (I'm joking but I'm not😅)

My son once drew a picture of him bashing the head of a girl in his class when he was 5. Including a pool of blood! It was the most disturbing thing ever. Weirder still he stuck it on the wall in his room. Very serial killer vibes.

he’s 8 now and no signs of a murderous streak yet luckily. He’s gets on well with the little girl he drew too. So who knows what that was about.

Because she feels so loved from you she can push the boundaries, this mantra has kept me sane through all 4 of my children's lives, especially in the teenage years 😊... a Social worker friend told me that kids who don't kick back/off to thier loved ones, are the ones we need too worry about (They are frightened that the parent will abandoned them) The kids that do what your daughter did, they are the ones that feel secure, that no matter what they say or do, you will always love them ❤️

Is 4 too late for the electra complex? I remember DD1 wailing because she couldn't marry her Daddy as I had got there first. But I can't remember if that was 4 or earlier.

Everyone talks about the terrible twos, nobody warns you about the effing awful fours. Both mine were a nightmare at 4…

I think @Boxowine is fucking with you Making a joke that your DD wants to eliminate you, the alpha female, so that your DD can take over the role.

My four year old called me a silly poo poo head Willy bum bum several times today.

my five year old wrote all the family's names out on her etch a sketch and put big crosses through everyone's name except hers and said everyone else was stupid.

I'm not taking it to heart and I'm currently awake as both have separately had nightmares and needed a cuddle from mummy in the last 90 minutes.

I love this age, they have just enough independence and vocabulary to be properly funny and weird about stuff in their own little worlds but with enough innocence for it to be amusing rather than worrying.

She might not have been satisfied with the likeness… That or you forced the poor kid to eat Brussels Sprouts

Wait till you have teenagers..

PPs have it; she wants to see how you'll react. So don't!

Maybe she was mad at you or something
Who cares.
She is 4. It was a one off.

She was probably crossing off you, as it was a drawing of people who made her cross yesterday and she realised that you didnt make her cross

or it was people who have big noses

or it was people who like to eat lettuce

the world of a four year old is weird

I wouldn't worry about it , my son used to paint ' pictures' of coffins and the like . Sometimes the painting would be just a black page . Now I think about it I used to hang them on the line to dry . What the neighbours thought I don't know . He is a perfectly normal adult.