To feel I am losing my looks at 33

[Julember]

I feel so old and sad that my attractiveness is fading, not that I thought I was beautiful or anything, it just makes me sad when I see young, fresh faces 20 somethings and I will never have that back 😩

I’m 20 years your senior but I see a lot of this angst in younger friends who have grown up under the spotlight of social media. I’m so relieved it wasn’t a thing when I was younger - yes looks were important but not the be all like they are today. My advice would be to delete your insta and Tik Tok accounts as they breed nothing but self dissatisfaction. I promise you you’ll feel 100 times better.

I think it's quite depressing that you believe that your value lies entirely with your youthful looks.

Not to mention that the same absolutely applies to men too, however much they like to think otherwise. In fact, in my experience men age much worse than women. I highly doubt your husband is so attractive that he will have younger women drooling all over him.

Hey, my middle name is modest!
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Its pretty insulting to your husband to suggest he's that shallow. Unless he is, in which case its no loss.

Well I am a year older than you and I don’t feel like my looks are fading…I think this is a line we are fed my the media and cosmetics companies! Your looks don’t fade, they change! Do I look the same as I did in my early 20s? Of course not! I do feel though that I have a much better idea of how to style myself, do my make up etc than I did in my 20s and so I think I generally look better!

Does your husband, who I'm guessing is about your age or perhaps older, have 'it'?

I know very few men who do. So why do you think he would be such a babe magnet?

If it helps, you look way way better now than you will at 50. And that’s still way better than 70. And 20 yrs after that, you’ll probably be dead. So get over it and enjoy how fantastic you look now compared to all of your future 🤷‍♀️