Mileage allowance out of maintenance

[notalazybitch]

Dss's mother is a lazy cow. DP has always paid above the minimum recommended payment guide from cms. She is begging for more money from him even though we are struggling immensely financially. She is claiming everything under the sun so she doesn't have to work. I know that she has fiddled things so she gets more in benefits, I would love to report her for this but it would impact dss so I won't.
My question is whether DP can claim petrol costs for picking up and dropping off out of cms payments. The current costs are crippling us. How much would he be able to claim? She will not help with transport, it's 45 min drive.

Thank you

"More than the CMS minimum" could be as little as £8 a week, the minimum being £7.50.

Thank you all.
There's no court order in place and no cms arrangement so I think that is the first thing to put in place.

Could your DP have DS 50% of the time ?

Not true about the minimum., I get £7/week

Just pay what is due and no more as you know its less than what he is paying now

@UserError012345 unfortunately not due to school and distance. We would have him all the time but she would never agree to that

And how much over is he paying ? Is it a lot ?

Is the CMS minimum + what you want for travel equal to what he is paying now?

Yes it's £60
A month over

That's a lot for us, we have other kids

Not an awful lot over then. If it was £100's I'd say get it relooked at.

Why is DP 45 minutes away ?

@Tibtab no he's paying more than that

If he's already paying more than the minimum then the obvious thing to do would be to reduce the payments to a more affordable amount, rather than split hairs over petrol.

I'm curious as to why you think the mum is fiddling the benefits system when the DWP ask for proof for pretty much everything.

They never lived together

I can't say how I know as it's too outing. She definitely is though and it infuriates me

You could apply for 50% ...nothing stopping him. He might have to fight for it by the sounds of it. That's one way of solving it.

Could you move nearer to him?

He should pay the minimum amount. Its not difficult.

Has it always been like this or did she move further away?

I don’t know why he’d live so far away from his own child and then moan about the distance.

I've explained already

We can't move nearer for to our children being in schools already

Just go via CMS and pay what is due.

If you are struggling now presumably it's only going to get worse so you need to?

No you haven't.

I really don't see how you could possibly know 100% she is fiddling the system unless you filled out the forms for her.
You seem really venemous towards her, even putting your username notalazybitch, yikes! 😳
Just go through cms that is what it's there for.

We can't move nearer for to our children being in schools already

How come DP lives so far away from his son?

@Sunnyqueen they were in a very short term relationship years ago, never lived near each other or lived together.

You seem lovely yourself

So basically you do the bare minimum and the money makes up for lack of parenting whilst he spends time with other children?
And youd like to reduce that ?